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what is one creative way to ditch someone?

There is no creative way. There is only the humane way: tell her the truth face to face. If face to face doesn't work for the kind of personality she has, long distance communication works wonders, but be eloquent in your discourse of splitting up. Tell the reasons, objectives, mention good points and kindly say why it won't work anymore. Be kind rewind.
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(Belated) Happy birthday girl! Not that I'm condoning violence towards others, pero sana higit sa batok ang gawin ni hollowman-for-a-day. Haha, I'm sorry. =p

Ay di ko bertdey teh, tagal pa hehe. Well we could only hope, can we? lolz

What does a mirror look like when no one's in the room?

Is this a cosmological or philosophical trick question?

What is the best birthday gift you have ever received?

In recent history, my first tatt. While the tatt is from my design, this girl that liked me paid for it as a treat for my birthday.

Anu ano ang mga nkakapukaw ng attensyon ng isang libay cantor?

Depende sa konteksto teh. Kung nasa meeting tayo at trabaho ang pinag-uusapan, nakakapukaw ng atensiyon ang credit grabbers at know-it-alls tulad ng nakakapukaw ng atensiyon ang taong marunong makinig at hindi condescending magsalita. Kung sa social situations, nakakapukaw ng atensiyon ang maiingay kaya lumalayo ako at mas napapansin ko/nakakapukaw ng atensiyon ang mga tahimik pero may hindi mayabang na dating.
Kung babae ang tinutukoy ng tanong mo, walang hard and fast rule o certain qualifications, really. Minsan depende rin ito sa konteksto. Or be more specific sa tanong para masagot ko hehe. Pero kung pipilitin, sige sabihin na nating sana ay kaaya-aya ang kanyang pananamit at hitsura, maayos ang tindig, at hindi nahihiyang makipagtitigan o makipagngitian o makipag-chikahan sa akin.

How will karma affect the love you naturally feel while hate lingers subsconciously?

Sorry but I don't think I understand the question. Karma with me, for me, on me, or karma that will be bestowed upon those who have wronged me? And hate where? Hate within me, hate for those that wronged me or hate that's lingering in the universe of love? Paki-explain labyu.
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What will you do if the most recent ex comes back and says sorry, really sorry for all the wrong things she's done and wants you back?

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I'm not really environmentalist when it comes to exes: I don't recycle. Sorry mother nature but that's how I roll.
Plus I don't think that recent ex has that capacity to process what went wrong since she has a different way of processing things. But in the event that she had some form of enlightenment and did what you are suggesting, I don't think I'd want her back pa rin. Ayoko na sa kloseta. I want a love that will be celebrated outside of enclosed spaces, especially figuratively limiting ones.
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anong pinaka interesting na regalo ang nabigay mo last year? for yourself or to someone..

Love. Love sa isang tao na handa ko nang makasama sa buhay pero in the end, binalewala naman pala. Love sana sa isa pang tao that ended up na nang-two time pala at player so I was played. Sa dalawang ito, lalo na dun sa huli, karma na lang ang regalo ng universe sa kanila, from me.
For myself, love din. Upping the ante more on loving myself so as to avoid encounters like the ones I mentioned above. But I think somebody has to gift me with a brand new female bullshit radar because mine is obviously defective last year.
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saan po kayo nagpatattoo?

This lesbian tatt artist I met na freelance. Taga-Marikina rin siya ng gf niya kaya home service lang ito tuwing magpapa-tatt ako sa kanya. But I might try a new artist because I want a more complicated and delicate design for the next one.

What's your recent fave book? :D

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No recent faves but these are on my bookshelf right now and I would say that they are very enjoyable naman. Yes, I'm a polyamorous bookworm: I start relationships with more than one book at the same time. Ewan ko kung bakit hihi.
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Nawili naman akong magbasa ng blogspot mo, girl. ;) haha. Keep moving forward.

Maraming salamat, girl! Happy new year! :)

23F. I'm spending today/Christmas eve alone. Wondering if you could suggest a place I can hang out without spending a lot. Don't wanna be lonely tonight. Thanks a bunch!

Being lonely is a temporary state of mind, a momentary condition of being. The key words here are "temporary" and "momentary." Wherever you go, loneliness won't be dissipated if you don't shake it off from your system, first and foremost. I suggest you do that, and then hang out wherever you feel like it, in a place where the surroundings give you some form of peace or quiet in the mind and heart. More effective to embrace the coming days that way. Trust me; been there, done that -- lots. Hope it works for you.
Happy holidays.
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What's your 2013 new year resolution? Natupad ba? :)

I don't do resolutions. I don't like having expectations that sometimes lead lang naman to disappointments when they are unattained. Stressdrilon lang yan. I prefer having pleasant surprises in my life. Mas peace on earth ang peg.
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As a child, what was your favorite Christmas tradition?

Going to my Lola's house and celebrating Christmas there. Hindi siya bongga at hindi siya marangyang pagsasama-sama, pero yun ang tumatak sa akin mula nang mamulat ako hanggang sa nag-kolehiyo ako. Pero hanggang dun na lang yun.
So since that already stopped for many reasons (my grandparents migrating to Canada and eventually dying there are some), appreciating Christmas also stopped for me already. Decades ago. So yeah, I don't like this time of the year.
Had a convo nga with a good lez friend about this after pride march:
Ako: Baka mag-Kota Kinabalu din ako beks. Gayahin kita.
Siya: Gusto ko ngang bumalik. Kelan punta mo dun beks?
Ako: Siguro sa week ng Dec. 23-27 ganun.
Siya: HA?!? Walang pasko dun, beks!
Ako: Precisely.
Blogged partly about the back story of my seeming Scrooge-ness last year: http://leaflens.blogspot.com/2012/12/like-its-last-night-of-world.html
For clarity.

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Though it is true that we can't choose the people who come into our lives, did u ever idealize of being partnered to someone with a specific profession/s? If yes, what profession/s? Any reason behind choosing that profession/s?

RRamwell’s Profile PhotoRamuel
Walang idealization regarding that matter sa akin. Basta interesting ang tao at swak sa kwalipikasyon ng lovelife checklist ko, gora lang kahit magkaiba kami ng larangan.
Yet having said that, and having had relationships/near brushes with a law student (na naging lawyer na), a former law student (turned literary professor), a practicing NGO lawyer (my longest relationship ever), and someone who wanted to become a lawyer before applying for college, quota na ang lola mo sa mga abogado, paralegal at non-bar passers k.
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Do you believe that love comes to those who believe in it?

RRamwell’s Profile PhotoRamuel
Well, I believe in Angelina Jolie pero di pa siya nagka-come sa vicinity ko. So panuneh sa love?

If way back you can choose what age/period (in history or in the future) in which you will live, what will you choose?

Any epoch as long as it's an era where I could kiss/hug my fellow female out in the open as a display of our love and no one -- not a single soul -- will flinch, stare, judge or be disgusted.
Sadly, that time is not yet today. Definitely none in the past. So maybe this is why I am excited to see what the future will bring. And maybe this is why I am partial to many things sci-fi in pop culture.
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The thing is, I don't understand why people have hang-ups about their significant others and exes being friends, kung harmless naman si ex at hindi umaabot sa back together/stalker/psycho mode ang interactions nila. Siguro since I've never been in a relationship, so paki-explain naman bakit ganun..

May dahilan kasi kung bakit EX ang isang ex at kung bakit ang past tense at present tense ay di magandang pagsamahin minsan sa isang sentence (sige nga 'day subukan mo at nang ma-grammar police ka). Kanya-kanya ng dahilan ang mga tao kaya walang hard and fast rule ito.
Pero sa ganang akin, ako mismo ayokong maging friend ang isang ex ko. Kadalasan, ayokong may nauungkat sa failed relasyon namin na mabi-bring up sa present friend status or kung anuman. Or nung sinubukan ko ito upon the insistence of some exes that we become friends, they end up being all territorial with me when I start seeing someone else or when I start dating. An ex even seduced me sa inis niyang nakikita ako with someone else. Mga ganung hang-up ba. Kaya sa unang level pa lang na yun -- me being friends with an ex -- wafung na, yung next level pa kaya na si ex at si current eh maging bffs. Wit!

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Girl, how are you na? ;)

Happy, fabulous, gwapa and busy! In short, business as usual hehe. Read my queer blog for chenelyn life updates: http://leaflens.blogspot.com/
Got no time na for nega, girl. Karma's on my side anyway. Hashtag alam na! :)
Thanks for asking.

What is fear and what does fear feel like to you?

I don't think fear exists in me. Because if it does, then I won't be who I am today and I won't be doing the things I'm doing as well, or I wouldn't have done those things I did in the past.
Hesitation exists in lieu of fear. That's different. This one I feel in every single thing, decision and thought. But it could be easily overcome, hesitation. It's a Yoda thing: do or do not, there is no try. And when I do not, that's also not because of fear but it's a reassessment that something will not be good for me.
So fear is a fallacy for me. But that's just me.
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What keeps you motivated? Or where to do you find it?

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The fact that life has to offer many things, that there are lots to learn pa, so many good books to read, great films to watch, endless places to traverse and discover, culinary stuff to taste and re-taste, interesting conversations yet to happen with strangers and friends and acquaintances, too many interesting ideas in my brain that needs to be creatively released in one form or another, you name it. These things motivate me from the moment I wake up to the moment I close my eyes at night.
I find my motivation within. And the rest just follows.
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When considering someone for potential romantic partnership, do you mind if he/she smokes? If yes, what's your preference?

RRamwell’s Profile PhotoRamuel
Lungs niya yun so bahala siya. I am an occasional smoker din naman so it's a non-issue. I actually had a cigar-smoking phase in my dyke youth. Hm maybe I should pick it up again. It's actually healthier than smoking usual yosi. The quality of the leaves plus the way it should be smoked, may art kasing kaganapan dun hehe. Hm maybe I should try some panatelas again. Sige later.

Name one band you would like to get back together.

The Bangles and The Go-Gos. Oo nananalig talaga ako. The Bangles made me realize women empowerment early on: that I could also play the drums like any kickass male drummer out there. Eternal flame on a manic Monday pare sankapa.

Tinanong kita kasi parang napa ka experience mo, mukhang alam mo na ang ginagawa mo, at hindi mo ako huhusgahan sa aking "earnest question." Salamat teh.

Oo alam ko nga ang ginagawa ko pero hindi rin naman ako expert dahil di ako naniniwala sa prescriptive methods. Kelangan ko lang malaman kung 2way si ati and we're good to go.
Hindi talaga ako nanghuhusga lalo na pagdating sa kama. Im a sex-positive feminist so i encourage discourse. Pero i encourage self-discovery more. Good luck and be safe.

Teh, serious question. Am a late bloomer who just came out of the closet, and is now seeing a great lesbian. She's very patient. Now am ready to take it to the next level...meaning wild sex for the first time. Sige, kahit hindi wild. Paano ba ito? Paano ba ang steps? Matagal na siyang lesbiana, so

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marami na siyang experience. Ayoko naman ng ako ang tinuturuan niya, gusto ko rin naman mag enjoy siya. I watched porn, pero parang hindi totoo. Ano steps? Finger muna, climax siya, tapos gorabells down, climax, tapos ulit sabay finger at dila? Kailangan ba ng vibrator? Salamat sa iyong advice.

Walang hard and fast rule sa sex. Kanya-kanyang chuva ang bawat babae. Trabaho mo ang diskubrehin ang gusto ng katawan niya at katawan mo. That's also called chemistry. We create our own modules teh, regardless of our secondary sources.

If you could go back in history, who would you like to meet?

Jose Rizal. Isusumbong ko kasi kung paano nila ginagahasa ang mga writer sa century na ito. Baka may advise siya bilang national hero na writer.
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What's the kinkiest thing you've done in bed? (Kasi may kinky naman na ginagawa sa ibang parte ng bahay...)

Mahaba sagot dito, di pwede itype. Over beer dapat. Kasi may hand gestures na kailangang maganap. Char!
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Sa casual sex scenario, how do you politely tell a girl to 'freshen up' first bago chumorva?

I suggest "Are you using the restroom na ba? You wanna wash up first? Or ok lang kung ako muna?" Para knows ni ati na it washes both ways. Para di ma-offend.

What impresses you more, great face or great body?

RRamwell’s Profile PhotoRamuel
Great ugali. Kasi kahit anong ganda ng mukha at kahit gaano kaalindog ang hubog ng katawan mo, kung pangit naman ang ugali mo o sinungaling ka o manggagago ka ng tao, ipis ka lang sa earth. Ipis. Yung hindi lumilipad.
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may movie ka bang napa nood na di mo nagustuhan pero after a while napanood mo sya ulit tapos nagandahan ka na?

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Parang wala pa yata... kasi instant ako kumilatis eh. On the spot. Kung type ko, type ko. Kung hindi, wala talaga eh.

If you were to implement one law, what would it be and why? Also, list the penalties one receives if he/she makes a violation of this law.

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Death penalty for child abusers and rapists. Off with their heads!!!
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Giiiiirl, pa-hug! Ramdam ko yung bigat ng recent posts. :(

Thanks girl. Means a lot. But don't worry. I'm totally okay na. You don't mourn over losers. Not my style. No one mourns the wicked nga di ba? So there. :)
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What are three things I do not know about you?

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1. Karma is my guardian angel. Sorry na lang sa mga nagwalanghiya sa akin. Tsk. Proven na ito. Intayin niyo lang. Lalo na dun sa nagsabi sakin na karma is digital daw. Naku teh, manalig ka, dahil totoo yan! Be afraid, be very afraid!
2. I was recently duped by someone whom my psychologist friends/relatives analyzed as a borderline sociopath. Nakakatakot ang mga taong ganito. Pero nakakaawa rin. Di nila nakikitang ang void sa sarili nila ay di mapupunan sa pamamagitan ng pananakit ng ibang tao. Kulang sila sa self-reflection maybe, or walang kakayanan ang utak to reflect on their actions. Tsk. Pity the fool na lang. Kasi...
3. Maawain akong tao. Naaawa ako lalo na sa mga taong harap-harapang niloloko pero nilulunok pa rin ito to hold on to certain fantasies and illusions. I guess some people are just desperate in life like that. Kawawa naman. Such losers, pero mas nauuna compassion ko eh. Sa aso nga naaawa ako, sa tao pa.

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what's the hardest compromise you did in a relationship?

Yung magmahal. Lagi namang compromise yun eh. Lalo na kasi you are opening up your protected self to become vulnerable to/with another human. Kaya masakit kapag nalaman mong ginagago ka lang pala niya. Parang binuksan mo ang dibdib mo para ipakita puso mo tapos sasaksakin lang pala niya.
Secondary compromise: to be closeted dahil closeted ang jowa mo. Been there, done that. Ayoko na nito. Nakakapagod na.
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When someone does something not good towards someone or something upsetting, we hear them say "tao lang" or "it's human nature". So can I conclude doing something "bad" or something uncalled for a natural human behavior. Is it really hard to do something right or good?what are your thoughts on that?

It's human behavior alright but only if you're a borderline sociopath. It's not hard to do something right. But some people find it easier to do something evil.
I recently blogged about this exact topic, on how people who deliberately hurt others claim that they are human therefore they make mistakes. Read my entry here:
http://leaflens.blogspot.com/2013/11/a-lesson-in-character-design-aka-paano.html
In the end, it's up to you how you want to function on this earth. Your life, your rules, di ba?
Kaya lang, there are also consequences: the rule of law and the rule of karma. Antayin mo na lang kung ano ang mas mauunang tatadyak sa iyo. Anuman ang ihagis mo sa mundo, babalik sa iyo kasi iyon, eh. Rule of gravity din yun, literally and figuratively.
So that's what I think about that.
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Do you see yourself in a open relationship with rules of seeing/sleeping with anyone outside the relationship?

RRamwell’s Profile PhotoRamuel
I only do open relationships if the scenario with the person calls for it. I was once in one, but that's the only time I did that. The girl was polyamorous kasi who had a couple of other relationships when she started seeing me. Pero I also liked her enough kaya gumora ako sa set-up. So on the get go, I know where I am and where I will be. Plus I know that relationship will not last naman because she's a foreigner and she will eventually leave the country. So that openness worked for me -- for as long as it was applied equally. Because in my story, she ended up falling hard for me, and wanted to change our open set-up to a closed monogamous one. So she didn't want me to see other people bigla. Medyo di ko nagustuhan yun in the end. Dapat you practice what you preach, or at least uphold the original contract when we started.
Yung first gf ko naman, I didn't know na she was in an open relationship pala when we became an item. Ang press release kasi ni ati, may ka-LDR siya at pawala na ang relasyon nila, kaya handa na siya to be with another girl. Yun pala, in-open nila ang relasyon para they can meet other people, kasi nga lonely ang LDR. Needless to say, that didn't work out because towards the end, nagising sila sa kahunghangan nila at nag-close ng in-open, leaving me out to dry. Nganga lola mo nun. Kaya persona non grata na siya sa akin.
But if I meet someone I feel na may chance naman to have a strong relationship with, o kaya someone I feel na puwede ko nang maka-settle down baga o puwedeng makasama for as long as I live, I won't have an open relationship with her -- even if she asks me to -- because I will want her all for myself lang. So wala dapat akong kasabay na iba, na habang may sakit ako isang weekend eh nakikipag-date pala siya sa Batangas or something sa ibang girl niya ganun kahit sabi niya namamaga ipin niya, o kaya nagdahilan na magpapabunot ng ipin kaya di kami puwedeng magkita pero yun pala may date sila sa Pampanga ganun. Hindi puwede sa akin yun eh, lalo na kung ang press release sa akin ay gusto na niyang magseryoso sa buhay kaya namimili siya ng husto sa magiging next karelasyon niya. Matindi kasi akong magmahal: buhos, tapat, loyal, sincere, totoo, dedicated. Alam ng mga ex ko yan, kaya nga yung mga nakasakit sa aking ex, malaki ang pagsisisi nila na sinaktan nila ako. Kasi once nakuha mo ako, iyong-iyo ako, kaya dapat, akin ka lang din. Mga ganung kadramahan baga.
Yeah, hashtag hugot. Salamat sa tanong, ha. Timing ito sa akin ngayon.

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Do you like chasing someone til u get him/her or do you like being chased?

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Both. Dapat pareho kayong nagliligawan teh. Kaya nga ako nasa mga babae dahil ayoko ng patriyarkal macho shit na lalaki lang manliligaw sa babae o yung pa-damsel in distress mode na maghihintay lang ng liligaw sa kanya ang babae.
I don't chase women who don't appear interested in me. What's the point? Although sometimes I send feelers and see if may chance. If nagpakita din siya ng motibo naman and dropped a hanky, I will definitely follow through. Pero of course everything done with caution and always taking moments with a grain of salt.

When in a relationship, what are the set of things about your partner that u choose to remember first? (Is it his/her preferred perfume brand? Is it his/her shoe size? Is it his/her number? Etc.)

RRamwell’s Profile PhotoRamuel
I don't choose. Whatever comes automatically in any order. But I'm a tactile person so I remember if touchy siyang tao sa akin, and her caresses and hugs make impressionable imprints on my being automatically.

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