Whenever we go over to my bf’s family occasions everyone gets very drunk. I don’t drink, so I keep getting told that I’m being a dud. My bf does not drink much and has no problem with me not drinking, but he doesn’t stand up for me when they rag on me.
You are NOT being a dud. Kudos to you for not engaging in the activity. You need to discuss this with your bf and tell him how uncomfortable this makes you feel. My belief is that he needs to tell his relatives to back off in a respectful way, but if they won’t or don’t, stop going to the events.