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Not a question. Just gratitude for putting yourself out there and standing against ignorance. I'm a cis dude who just wants to be a better person and your voice in the wilds of the internet makes me believe that one day, things are gonna be okay for people to just be themselves without judgement. :)

Thank you.
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Ralph wants to re-do his bathroom in Pink. He asks his friend Frank over to help. If the bathroom is 8 feet by 6 feet by 12 feet, how long will it take Frank to consider the possibility that Ralph might want to confess something personal to him soon?

Um, no idea. Nothing wrong with a pink bathroom, though.
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How would you advise the media to cover people who transition publicly, like Chelsea Manning, in a respectful way? How should readers, who may not know about transition, be given background information? Thanks in advance!

I think it's important to mention both names in the first piece (after all, it's impossible to establish who you're talking about unless you mention the person's former name - however! This only applies to people who are already public figures pre-transition. In Manning's case, I think it would have been reasonable to say, "Chelsea Manning, formerly known as Bradley Manning..."), but from then on, only reference Chelsea. I think it's important not to stay too focused on the physical aspect of transition, and I can't really see a reason to go into the medical details unless absolutely necessary. I mean, in Manning's case, the question about surgery, something she didn't mention in her statement, kept coming up. That shouldn't have. Most importantly, if the person in question releases a statement (as Manning did, where she specified which name and which pronouns she'd like to go by), use the information in that statement to guide future reporting. Anything else, feel free to ask.

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Where did you go to school? Did you major in journalism?

Columbia College Chicago, and no, I didn't major in journalism. I majored in Arts, Entertainment, and Media Management: Music Business Talent Management... The mere existence of such a major boggles the mind. Yay, super expensive, shitty artsy school...
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What's your favorite site to write for?

Whichever one is paying me? Ha. Um, I don't really have a favorite, per say. They each have their advantages (which is why I write for them in the first place). For instance, Death+Taxes is great because they let me swear in my writing. The Advocate is great because they're an awesome, respected, high-traffic site. Rolling Stone is great because it's Rolling fucking Stone. Etc.
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How do you personally deal with gender dysphoria?

Poorly...
In all seriousness, I'm not really an expert on handling dysphoria in a healthy way. I have a tendency of letting it manifest itself as a number of emotions that aren't necessarily the most pleasant things in the world. Anger, self-loathing, sadness. It fucking sucks. Once I acknowledge that it's there, that it's taking over my thought process, I can usually find control and manage it just by talking or writing or taking on any sort of activity.
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I've tried e-mailing you about a story idea but got no response; do you respond to e-mail?

Ack! I'm sorry. I do my best to respond to emails, but I get between 10 and 15 a day (there's some really funny hate mail in there). Send your email again, please! I'll write back!
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Did you have doubts or confusion about your gender identity, even once you began a hormonal transition?

Yeah. I mean, how often are you ever 100% sure of anything? Life is confusing, filled with doubt, and when the world is telling you you're wrong, of course you're bound to let a little of that negativity seep in. I'm confident that I've made the right life choices, though, and I'm just trying to do the best I can.
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[TW: Invasive personal question] What is one event from your life that has scarred you forever, but if you had the choice, you would never undo it?

Easy. Losing my virginity. It's something that had to happen at some point, so I don't wish to undo it, but my hopes that, "hey, maybe I'll feel more comfortable with myself after this," were dashed. I kind of hoped that I'd "feel like a man" after it. nope.com/iamnotaman
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First i want to say that you are so pretty. Second, how do you feel about gender fluid people? Some days i feel male, some female, most both.

Hey, thanks! Genderfluid and non-binary genders are absolutely legitimate. While I'm binary-identified, I can't fully relate, but I can say that it's awesome that you seem to have come to terms with your own identity! Be you! Call yourself whatever you want! There are no absolutes, and there are no rules!
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What tips do you have on explaining how trans misogyny operates differently from other forms of misogyny?Thanks & rock on!

Julie Tilsen
Hrmmm... Basically, take standard misogyny and add a layer of ignorance, irrational hate, and a handful of double standards. A proper analogy isn't coming to mind, but maybe someone reading this from Twitter has something useful to add?
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What does cisgender mean?

Simply put: it's the opposite of transgender. "Cis" means "on the side of" as opposed to "trans," which means "across."
Why is it necessary? "Why not just say 'normal' or 'straight?'" Well, for one, if you say people who aren't trans are the normal ones, it creates a sense that trans people are freaks. It's othering. As to why saying "straight" doesn't quite cover it, fact is, there are a lot of straight trans people (trans women attracted to men, trans men attracted to women), so it's vague.
Example: "My siblings are both cisgender, but my friend X is transgender."
This isn't to say you need to refer to cis folks as specifically cis every time you're talking about them, but only in the context of clarifying whether or not they're comfortable with the gender they were assigned at birth.
"My sister and I are both women."
See? I referred to the two of us without that qualifier. Now, if you were to ask if we were trans, I could say, "I am a transgender woman, and she is a cisgender woman."

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If I end up looking like Danny DeVito in drag the downside of transitioning (in terms of lack of acceptance by society) might end up being worse than not transitioning at all. Dodgy analogy but side-effects worse than the original symptoms? What do you think? Could therapy and happy pills be ok?

I know this is a common issue a lot of trans people face. "What if I don't pass? won't that be worse than how I am now?" I asked myself that every day as I began to seriously contemplate this step. Might your life be harder as a result (from the standpoint of society)? Sure. Does that mean it's not worth it? I don't think so. I think as long as you find peace with who you are, you've succeeded.
Overall, the concept of "passing" is troublesome. Women come in all shapes and sizes. There are cis women with facial hair. There are tall women, women with broad shoulders, women with small breasts, large hands, prominent Adam's Apples.
Only you can decide if this is something you want to (or need to) do. I can't tell you if you should or shouldn't transition. I can't tell you how you might look after some time on hormones. I can't tell you how much abuse you may or may not receive as a result. That's all something you need to find within yourself.

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Which advances in trans medical treatment do you think we might see in the future? Next ten years maybe? I'm wondering if stem cells might be used to grow hair.

That would be cool, right? Honestly, I'm pretty terrible at guessing these sorts of things. Remember how we thought we'd all be driving flying cars by now?
No clue on timing, but things I'd love to see: ability to regrow hair, maybe the ability to have a uterus implanted, general improvements to HRT (safer, fewer risks, etc.)
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Oh, and please, would you kindly explaine "CIS"?

easy: it's just the opposite of trans. It means you identify with the gender assigned to you at birth.
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Hi Parker when you say your driver's license is accurate as it is and you wouldn't want a trans category, doesn't that mean that you are now cis?

No, that's not what it means. I am a woman. I happen to also be transgender. I am not defined by my status as a trans person any more than I am by having blue eyes or any other feature.
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If your drivers license says you are female does that not make the US government transphobic as you are in fact a trans woman? Should the license instead say "trans woman"?

My driver's license is accurate as is.
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What are your thoughts on "gatekeepers"? do you think they are helpful it no?

Wholly unnecessary. Yes, a number of procedures are very permanent, but then again, so is a tattoo. Last I checked, there's no 1 year waiting period for a tattoo, so why one for hormone therapy, of someone understands what they're doing, why should they have to jump through hoops?
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why do you think there's such a reluctance to cover transition care?

There are a lot of reasons, one of which being the public's belief that this is something trans people choose to do for fun. Untreated dysphoria is dangerous. It brings with it mental and physical issues if untreated, and really can lead to death.
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What is your take on the divide between trans women and gay males being because being gay is about embracing who you are whereas trans people change something about them?

That seems like a misunderstanding of what being trans is. Trans people are just as much about embracing themselves as gay men are.
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do you have a fave porn star

Nah. Believe it or not, I don't really watch porn. I've never had a particularly high sex drive.
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