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Friend introduced me to a guy she knew and we had a 3some. My friend took interest in the guy first but now the guy has been pursuing me and not the my friend who he knew first. How can I keep peace in the friendship but still see where things between the guy and I go even if its just sexual?

You trying to pursue the guy she likes that she also introduced you to and has had sex with recently is likely to damage your friendship. If she's a good friend, don't pursue him without explicitly talking to her about the problem.
I'm not totally opposed to friends dating the same people, but throwing current/recent sex in the mix isn't playing by the rules (which are outlined in my book).
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Guy I'm dating (3.5 months) and I had disagreement/miscommunication moment on last date. Tonight's date, we didn't talk about issue but it was clear he was making a compromise. Is this a sign he likes me?

Genuine liking isn't determined in single acts. It's about consistent action over a period of time. Overall, how does he treat you??

Why is it that some men who think the world of their GFs treat them poorly? (same for some women). Most of my exes apologize profusely post relationship abt how they treated me, they should have treated me better, how I'm "wife material", etc. If a person is that great, why treat them so wrong?

They didn't think the world of them when they dated. They had a revelations after, hence the apology.
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Things have been good w/me & dude. I called & he keeps sending me to vcml. Called from a different # & he answered. @ this point I'm annoyed. How do I send a "I'm no longer interested" text without being petty? Cuz @ this point "crazy black woman syndrome" is trying to unleash herself. PLEASE HELP

No need to send email/text. He's obviously done. Stop contacting him. Period.
Do NOT unleash the crazy. It's just a lot of unnecessary drama.
Oh. And don't call it crazy black woman syndrome. The black has nothing to do with it. The crazy comes out in people of all colors.
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Why can't women leave well enough alone?why can't yall trust that a bro can be true? My girl let her jealousy drive a wedge between my baby moms and me that now may cost me my daughter. If a bro is saying you good,ain't nothing to worry bout shouldnt she just trust me?

If he's saying it AND his actions back it up. Just saying it isn't enough.
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Absolutely agree with your advice about not telling people to leave if you don't mean it. I've had an ex come back and tell me mnths after that I didn't really love him cuz he told me to leave and i did.. o_O. He said he did it to see if i would fight for him.. Super glad now that I didn't!

he's nuts. but unfortunately, a LOT of people do this as some weird test of loyalty and get surprised when it backfires.
say what you mean and mean what you say.
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I recently reconnected with an ex-bf after 2 yrs. I'm interested in reconvening our relationship. He wants to be friends and take it slowly. it's been 3 months so far. More info: he did end a relationship a wk before we resumed communication. I think 3 mos is enough? Am I being inpatient?

i'm not sure where this is going anywhere. you want a relationship. he said, he wants to be friends and take it slowly. that's not agreeing to a friendship, nothing more. and he JUST got out of a relationship.
perhaps there's more to this story, but it doesn't sound like you're being impatient so much as ignoring what he said he wanted. the time isn't the problem here.

Very used to guys being eager to perform oral , but new partner not so much. I haven't brought it up because I have never had to and don't know what to say . I know how guys get when you talk "negative" about their performance but I have needs as well how do I approach the subject

just ask him if he does it.. .but not like while you're having sex or about to. don't compare him to other people. just ask point blank and casual.
as women who are control of our bodies, we have to stop having sex with people that we are not comfortable having conversations with.
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Belle girl you r my boo I've only been following you for a few weeks and I've learned so much as a woman that grew up with little or no guidance your words have made a huge difference in my life I write down all of your lil tidbits thank you from the bottom of my heart.

:-)
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When dating u often say if someone is not doing x thn leave as in the sex q below-but aren't we all lacking for our partners? No one is everything the person wants so how do we know what to compromise on even when it's important vs just leaving.

Everything isn't a dealbreaker. Sex seemed highly important to the woman who wrote in. The suggestion was if it indeed important and he can't match her needs, then move on.
Everyone will not be everything. But if something important that you want and they aren't it or willing to try, move on, especially when dating.

Guy I'm dating put up pic of some video vixen complimenting her body . I do not look like that. Made me feel jealous I mentioned it and he said no big deal she's pretty and no chance of meeting her . Should i have just kepty feelings to my self since isn't bf

Video vixens are fantasies. It's not disrespectful for a single man to put up the video.

Starting off with guys making me a priority if not then bye ... I'm so used to not being one and sticking around that I'm afraid I will be stand offish or come off asif not showing interest help

Priority is for relationships. Dating everyone's optional. Get more options.
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a friend that i havent talked to in a while invited me to her wedding.it's in charlotte & im in CHI.we were tight in college (2001), but not so much now.i dont plan on going to the wedding.am i wrong for not sending a gift either?we havent talked seriously in 5 yrs. plus,i dont know the dude.

If you haven't talked in years, then no, a gift isn't necessary. That said, if you don't attend and/or send gift, the friendship is probably a wrap.

I found out my husband has 4 accounts that my name is not on. He also will not add my name. We so have a joint account but there is rarely enough money to cover bills. I don't want to give ultimatums but the multiple accounts make me think he doesn't see forever with me. I' said this but no change

What did he say when you asked about the other accounts and why he won't add you??
Ultimatums aren't the way to solve problems. If you're leaving, go. But the "or else" approach just begs someone to call your bluff.

OP re: dating new guy who got sick & busy. That was my thought as well. Bummer but such is life. I'll just fall back, continue to date and start going on cutie runs (I have a killer smile). Thanks for providing this forum! Great to get thoughts from my friend in my head. Enjoy cruise w your Mom!

:-)

Do u ever get so upset u go to sleep?i do this- is it a sign of depression?

It's a sign on not dealing with an issue. Taking a time-out nap is fine for short term, but you do need to deal with it.
Sleeping a lot is a sign of depression. But being upset and taking a nap is not.
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I know u say certain issues r too big to deal with in non serious/marriage. Dating dude 3 mos. Lots of sexting finally we r having sex abt 1/2 a week, not enough for me, I dnt want multiple sex ptrnrs, he has great qualities otherwise. Works 2 jobs so I get reason, also feel lied to re hi sex .

It sounds like you sex is a high priority to you. If so, then find someone who can meet your desires. Dating is the time to evaluate if the other person is a good fit for you. Unless you're willing to make due with the amount of sex you're getting or he's willing to have more, then this isn't a good match.

I find that men who usually approach me I am not interested in or physically attracted to but the ones I like will stare but say nothing. I understand they may be taken or not in a relationship but I just wonder why men I like never approach (they don't have to be fine by the way) any insight?

Why don't you approach who you are interested in? A hello, a compliment or question?
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Honestly I don't care that much and it's not that serious for me to fact check. I read it on 2 diff blogs an thought I'd ask you. Funny to see you get so worked up and defensive. Maybe you should take some of your own advice and approach situations a bit more calmly. Mm'Kay?

if you didn't care and wasn't serious. you wouldn't have asked the first time, much less come back.
worked up? hardly. when I'm worked up, you'll know. i've been worked up on here. this ain't it. please don't project.
i answered the question you asked, explained to you the facts that you lacked and advised you do better with you facts, which you've stated you are comfortable being ignorant of.
BLOGS are not news sites. some of them are very accurate and well-researched. others are gossip sites. it seems you stumbled across one that was more of the latter.
that said, thank you for providing today's entertainment. the readers waiting in the doctors office and the DMV surely thank you.
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B as a journalist how was your very first interview. Im experiencing mine and im down in the dumps with bexause its not going as planned. How can i redeem myself?

the first? horrible. the subject was patient though so i got the info i needed. but it was a painful process.
it's all horrible starting out because you're STARTING OUT. you'll get better with practice.

2 friends from the opposite sex asked my boyfriend, if they could sleep at his place for the week end. He said yes. He told me that he will sleep on the couch. I told him that I feel uncomfortable with the situation and I don't want it to happen again. Am I wong?

No.
But instead of bossing him around, you can ask. It goes of better in the long run. No one really likes being told what to do.
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Belle understand why ure ticked at the op about u being forced out but trust that's what's out there. U can b mad she asked I guess but at least she asked here instead of posting it on a blog. I'm just saying

Who's ticked? Annoyed is more fitting.
If she asked "were you forced out?" that's a fair question. "Why were you?" And "will you ever write about it?" are both incorrect assumptions based on inaccurate assumptions. Ya'll need better sources. Charging that someone was fired is a really serious accusation.
My boy just joked that once "they" start making crazy ish up, it's a sign your "on". I guess it comes with the territory.
Sigh.
The box where you ask the questions has a clear sign that states this site is for dating/relationship Qs. Messy folks who want to be anonymous are not welcome.
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Do you think there aren't many gentleman around anymore? Do you think it's because women don't require them to?

There are gentlemen. Plenty of them. They step up when they know they need to or feel the lady is worth it.
Requiring it definitely helps.
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