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Take full
responsibility for
what comes out of
your mouth as well
as how you choose
to interpret what
you hear.
Be yourself. Don't
try and be someone
you're not. it will end
up backfiring.
Reassure her. Our
women need to be
told that we love
them. We erroneously
think that our actions
like working and
providing for the
family clearly
communicates our
love for her. We often
think that the more
we work the stronger
is the message of our
love. Wrong again.
Nothing can
substitute looking in
her eyes and telling
her: "I love you."
Understand that
women emote very
differently then we
do. A woman having
a diffused focus as
opposed to single-
focus of us, men,
cannot control what
thoughts come into
their head. Thoughts
trigger emotions and
we men find
ourselves in trouble,
not knowing what hit
us. There is no logic
and no connection to
the present situation.
We cannot connect
dots and we start
asking ourselves what
did we do wrong.
Most likely nothing.
Feelings sometimes
go rampant in a
woman. She cannot
control it. She cannot
choose what to think
about. Saying "don't
think about it" does
not help. Try to close
the issue by resolving
the concern. Of
course you need to
find out what the real
concern is and that
may take some
doing.
Provide security .
Again we think that
the most important
thing for a woman is
that she feels
financially secure.
That's why you do
your best to provide
for her. That's awfully
nice of you, but you
may be barking up a
wrong tree. What she
really wants much
more than "money
and things" is
emotional security.
This means that she
can count on you to
always be there for
her and that she can
count on you to be
her best friend.
Be a Good Listener .
We men listen for a
problems and look
for solutions. We also
listen for the point of
the conversation. We
have no patience to
listen to a
chronological
unfolding of a story
without knowing were
it is going. As soon
as our loved one tells
us that she has a
problem, we are
thinking how to fix it.
Wrong! Your women
is quite able most of
the time to fix the
problem herself. If
she cannot she will
ask you for help. You
need to trust that.
What she wants from
you is to listen to her
and acknowledge
how she feels about
it, because her
feelings are the
problem that she
needs to
communicate to you.
Once you know that,
it becomes easy (or
not) to just listen and
not offer your
solutions because
there are none. She is
dealing with her
feelings which she has
no control over. So,
next time she comes
to you with a
problem, do not
listen to her problem,
listen for her feelings.
Do not offer help,
wait to be asked for
it, or ask if she wants
your help.
Remember women
can feel differently
about sex. When our
woman does not
want to have sex with
us, we take it
personally. Once you
understand that
woman's "warm-up
time" is much longer
than ours and that
she needs to be
forewarned so that
she can anticipate it,
things become much
easier. It's not about
you. Very often she
just wants to be close
to you, to snu

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