Daniel Day

I wouldn't call it crazy myself (it's the only logical step in this relationship after all), but my parents - or at least my mum - thought that me going to America to meet Lexi.

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I dunno, I guess I can understand to an extent why they thought that. I knew right from the moment that this relationship started that me and her would make meeting up it work because we click so well. I can see why me going to America purely for the sake of meeting someone would make them apprehensive though, and I don't just think that's because of their age. I was only 19 a few months ago, spending a good chunk of money on a ticket to meet someone in a completely different country without a real method to get in contact with people I know on the small chance that things did go wrong. I can see why that would cause them worry.

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Then again, this whole relationship is 'crazy' for various reasons. Lexi would probably say that the craziest thing I've done is actually stay with her in spite of everything that's happened. She wasn't dealing with her eating disorder well at all earlier this year and it put a massive strain on our relationship. We were arguing nearly every night and it felt like I was fighting a losing battle to try and help her. I won't go into detail about the particulars of that though, because it's very personal and not suitable for an AskFM response. I'll just say that it did get really difficult, and there were times when, if I had wanted to end the relationship, I think it's something we both would have understood. I didn't though because I love her and the idea of ending the best relationship of my life is not something I really want to happen.

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There isn't anyone else I'd do that for, and if push came to shove, I'd gladly do all of that again for her because, well, it's Lexi, she's really the only one for me.

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Dude, I'm like, probably one of the worst people to ask about this - maybe even worse than Dolphy. It took me an entire summer period and longer to write the first article I was supposed to write for MoeAlt, specifically because I was depressed and had writer's block.

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Probably the best thing I can recommend is taking it a little bit at a time. Set yourself small targets on what to write, be that a few sentences or a couple of paragraphs and aim to do that on a daily basis. Don't get lazy, don't let yourself think "Oh, I can write this tomorrow" or something like that. I've fallen into that trap all too often and it's definitely one of the worst things that can happen to you as a writer. You'll gradually lose all motivation to do it because you just think you can leave it and you eventually won't do it.

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Another thing I can recommend is having a clear focus in mind of what it is that you want to write about. It doesn't necessarily matter if you don't know what to put, but if you have a good idea of the subject matter you're writing about then you can keep reminding yourself that you do have a goal, you can keep yourself engaged with it. Go back and read the things you've written constantly to try and get an idea of where you want it to go. If you know where you want it to go then you can use that as motivation to help you write.

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Also, try to write about other things. Take recommendations from people about what to write about, preferably with a deadline. A couple of shorter pieces in order to help you get into the flow of writing. I've found this works wonders because you'll have already gotten yourself into the mindset of wanting to write when it comes to actually writing about the things YOU want to write about.

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Put yourself into an environment which helps to stimulate you mentally, to help to get you to write. I got super depressed being at home over that summer period because I didn't have anything like university work to help keep me focused on doing writing. If you're not in an environment which encourages - and, by extension, rewards - productivity, then you're not really going to have anything to keep you motivated to write.

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Lastly, enjoy it. Don't let the writing become a chore. You're only going to frustrate yourself if you try to write when you really don't want to so if it ever feels like you're getting too annoyed by it, take a break from it. Do something else for a few hours - like I said, don't fall into the trap of thinking that you can just leave it for another day. If it gets so bad that you really can't bring yourself to write even after taking a break, then leave it for that day, but make sure you look at it the next. You might read through your work and realise "Oh, that actually doesn't sound as good as I first thought", change it, then realise that you've possibly come up with a new point to make in what you're saying.

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I hope that helps, and makes sense. Results may vary :(

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My girlfriend and a great one at that. I don't brag about how amazing she is anywhere near as much as I should but she is pretty damn amazing. I've been in some relationships in the past, and she easily blows all those other ones out of the water. We just really get each other and that's something I really like. We have a similar sense of humour so we always know how to make each other laugh. We don't argue, which considering how my last relationship was practically nothing but arguments is a godsend. Our only 'arguments' are really about stuff to do with the pronunciation of different words because of our different nationalities and it causes some heated debates, but it's never serious. She's always fun to be around - and considering that we've had a voice call every single day for the past 10 months of our relationship for several hours at a time, that says a lot. I can't think of anyone else I know that I would be willing to do that for. The fact is that I love her and I love being around her, and I don't usually get all mushy and stuff with regards to stuff like this, but eh, there's always an exception every now and then. It feels good to talk about how great she is.

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