No not really, unless something truly messed up happen without redemption (depending on the level of the situation). But That wouldn't be a grudge, it'll just be wisdom.
I choose to love you in silence…. For in silence I find no rejection,
I choose to love you in loneliness…
For in loneliness no one owns you but me,
I choose to adore you from a distance…
For distance will shield me from pain,
I choose to hold you in my dreams, for my dreams you never end