Absolutely go get your wife!

Yes

Then no

That's between you and your wife. Leave me and Julie out of it

Yes you should care

What ... elaborate

Idk it depends on your relationship

focus on your happiness not the standards of others. I'd say call her out on it, but don't tell her she's got to stop. if you don't like what she does at any point, at least you're not an ignorant fool to her

sorry dude. it's over

That's not a wife, that's a roommate