Do you think it is a good idea to marry before having sex?
I would never in my life want to marry someone before having sex with them. I have never been an innocent being even while being a virgin, I am a true sexual being.
On the other hand I would never encourage anyone to follow in the same footsteps unless we were one of the same within that department. I have never encourage someone to have sex right away, unless that is what they are looking for and even when that is what they are looking for, I question their intentions behind it. You are getting in bed with a complete stranger that you just met and honey having sex immediately which is almost entirely out of desire and lust is not for the faint of heart. Some of those experiences will eat at you alive for the rest of your life if you cannot treat yourself with respect and dignity, afterwards.
What I do encourage is to take your time. Make sure it is with someone that you trust, love, and feel comfortable with. Someone who respects you, and has met your family while you have met his or her family. Who has taken part in helping you grow as the beautiful person that you will become. If you are going to have sex for the first time, it also BETTER be in a comfortable setting environment, at their place or your place. Not in a back of a car, or at a friends house, or at a hotel/motel at that. The first time must be special, thankfully mines was specially funny, it was special surely but kinda funny too, I will not go into it at this time. The first time will most definitely hurt and you might cry therefore someone who can give you support when you are feeling vulnerable is going to help you move past the pain and into creating an enjoyable and pleasurable experience.
If it takes someone all the way until marriage to come to those terms than so be it..that is within their best interest, as long as it works for them. But I will not sit here and say what is a good idea for one person will result to the same for another. If I had to wait to get married to someone before having sex with them, I would probably cheat...I can tolerate mediocre sex over someone that I love deeply but I will not for lousy or no sex at all.
Look at it this way, the first time I met my current boyfriend..I got invited by our friends to go catch some Pokemon, and he so happened to be there. During that time I was considering joining the navy and my friends always talked about this one friend that I could talk to whenever he would come for a visit..and because of him as a result I didn´t join the navy. I got to really understand where he was at this point in time within his life on that day...and I couldn´t help but want to make out with him. But I wasn´t sure if it was appropriate because it was a hanging out scene rather than hey I´m totally going to hook up with the ¨navy guy¨. So I talked to my friend about it first, I want to do ¨this¨, is this cool and he was like you do whatever you want. Funnily enough he ruined the surprise by telling him first, but it happened.
On the other hand I would never encourage anyone to follow in the same footsteps unless we were one of the same within that department. I have never encourage someone to have sex right away, unless that is what they are looking for and even when that is what they are looking for, I question their intentions behind it. You are getting in bed with a complete stranger that you just met and honey having sex immediately which is almost entirely out of desire and lust is not for the faint of heart. Some of those experiences will eat at you alive for the rest of your life if you cannot treat yourself with respect and dignity, afterwards.
What I do encourage is to take your time. Make sure it is with someone that you trust, love, and feel comfortable with. Someone who respects you, and has met your family while you have met his or her family. Who has taken part in helping you grow as the beautiful person that you will become. If you are going to have sex for the first time, it also BETTER be in a comfortable setting environment, at their place or your place. Not in a back of a car, or at a friends house, or at a hotel/motel at that. The first time must be special, thankfully mines was specially funny, it was special surely but kinda funny too, I will not go into it at this time. The first time will most definitely hurt and you might cry therefore someone who can give you support when you are feeling vulnerable is going to help you move past the pain and into creating an enjoyable and pleasurable experience.
If it takes someone all the way until marriage to come to those terms than so be it..that is within their best interest, as long as it works for them. But I will not sit here and say what is a good idea for one person will result to the same for another. If I had to wait to get married to someone before having sex with them, I would probably cheat...I can tolerate mediocre sex over someone that I love deeply but I will not for lousy or no sex at all.
Look at it this way, the first time I met my current boyfriend..I got invited by our friends to go catch some Pokemon, and he so happened to be there. During that time I was considering joining the navy and my friends always talked about this one friend that I could talk to whenever he would come for a visit..and because of him as a result I didn´t join the navy. I got to really understand where he was at this point in time within his life on that day...and I couldn´t help but want to make out with him. But I wasn´t sure if it was appropriate because it was a hanging out scene rather than hey I´m totally going to hook up with the ¨navy guy¨. So I talked to my friend about it first, I want to do ¨this¨, is this cool and he was like you do whatever you want. Funnily enough he ruined the surprise by telling him first, but it happened.
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