So I’ve had a crush on my friend for a while and it scares me because of my parents finding out my sexuality and at the same time I don’t even know if she likes me:( she’s a super sweet girl idk what to do?
oh man, I really relate to this! I had a massive crush on one of my friends in high school, although I didn't fully understand my sexuality back then and didn't understand that I really liked her until after the fact.
I've fallen hard for a handful of girls since then and I'm so worried that my family will find out and won't approve, although I've been thinking about coming out to my mom recently since she seems supportive of lgbtqa+ people. to me, it definitely comes down to safety - don't come out if it might put you at any risk, like being kicked out, abused, etc. but if you think you'll be safe, or if you're old enough to move out anyways, then it's definitely an option.
I've always been too shy and anxious to talk about my feelings with any of my crushes regardless of their gender, but I think it can be good to be brave sometimes! I'd try testing the water first to see what she thinks about girls and the lgbtqa+ community. if her reactions seem positive, then I think telling her is a good idea, if anything to just be honest with her!
good luck! let me know if things go well, and feel free to message me any time if you need advice or anything (:
I've fallen hard for a handful of girls since then and I'm so worried that my family will find out and won't approve, although I've been thinking about coming out to my mom recently since she seems supportive of lgbtqa+ people. to me, it definitely comes down to safety - don't come out if it might put you at any risk, like being kicked out, abused, etc. but if you think you'll be safe, or if you're old enough to move out anyways, then it's definitely an option.
I've always been too shy and anxious to talk about my feelings with any of my crushes regardless of their gender, but I think it can be good to be brave sometimes! I'd try testing the water first to see what she thinks about girls and the lgbtqa+ community. if her reactions seem positive, then I think telling her is a good idea, if anything to just be honest with her!
good luck! let me know if things go well, and feel free to message me any time if you need advice or anything (:
