Consistent intensity will drain you out And just intensity without consistency is obsession not love At the end of the day we want someone who will get up in the middle of the night to close the windows when it is pouring down, to bring us a glass of water when we are too comfortable to move.We want someone who will wash dishes with instead of leaving them on the table for you.Sure we want intensity too but most of the time We want another person to do mundane activities with.We just want something simple that is endlessly fascinating, we want a true human connection,honesty and to be bored with someone else instead of facing boredom alone.