I mean, it absolutely depends on the parents. Some do it right, some donāt, some do the best they can based on the education they got, etc. Itās hard to make a broad conclusion about it, given itās likely different for everyone. And if you factor in peopleās beliefs, ranging from cultural, to religious, etc, thereās gonna be even bigger differences. Since I can only speak about it personally, I will do that.
When it comes to my parents approach, it wasnāt bad by any means, but it surely wasnāt likeā¦ an open conversation. My mom used to tell me to ask questions about it if I was curious, and my dad didnāt really talk about it at all. š¤·š¼āāļø
The younger versions of me, who wasnāt even aware of what asexuality was or that there was a term for it, was curious. But not about s*x itself. I was more curious why I didnāt care about it at all, and why just the mere thought of s*x in regards to myself, made me uncomfortable. š
I was told a lot that itās normal not to feel anything at first, you just have to āmeet the right personā or āhit a certain ageā and all of a sudden, youāll feel it. But I didnāt. And that is something I wish I was taught. That not wanting s*x isnāt abnormal, nor does it mean something is fundamentally wrong with me or my body (as asexuality has nothing to do with hormones or your body functioning, itās attraction based).
Iām not a parent myself, but if I ever were to have kids, Iād want them to have a good s*x education, and know that they not only can ask me questions, but also, that they can have open conversation with me about it. Thereās no shame, no guilt, no taboos around it, itās a totally normal thing to be curious about (or not), talk about, etc. And also, teach them firm boundaries that they are in charge of what they do with their bodies, and not to let anyone guilt, or coerce them into it if itās not what they want. And thatās what I believe is the right way to teach kids about s*x. āŗļø
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