I mean, it absolutely depends on the parents. Some do it right, some don’t, some do the best they can based on the education they got, etc. It’s hard to make a broad conclusion about it, given it’s likely different for everyone. And if you factor in people’s beliefs, ranging from cultural, to religious, etc, there’s gonna be even bigger differences. Since I can only speak about it personally, I will do that.
When it comes to my parents approach, it wasn’t bad by any means, but it surely wasn’t like… an open conversation. My mom used to tell me to ask questions about it if I was curious, and my dad didn’t really talk about it at all. 🤷🏼♀️
The younger versions of me, who wasn’t even aware of what asexuality was or that there was a term for it, was curious. But not about s*x itself. I was more curious why I didn’t care about it at all, and why just the mere thought of s*x in regards to myself, made me uncomfortable. 😅 I was told a lot that it’s normal not to feel anything at first, you just have to “meet the right person” or “hit a certain age” and all of a sudden, you’ll feel it. But I didn’t. And that is something I wish I was taught. That not wanting s*x isn’t abnormal, nor does it mean something is fundamentally wrong with me or my body (as asexuality has nothing to do with hormones or your body functioning, it’s attraction based).
I’m not a parent myself, but if I ever were to have kids, I’d want them to have a good s*x education, and know that they not only can ask me questions, but also, that they can have open conversation with me about it. There’s no shame, no guilt, no taboos around it, it’s a totally normal thing to be curious about (or not), talk about, etc. And also, teach them firm boundaries that they are in charge of what they do with their bodies, and not to let anyone guilt, or coerce them into it if it’s not what they want. And that’s what I believe is the right way to teach kids about s*x. ☺️
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