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Are you on medication for anything? What for?

This question is a little invasive. I don’t mind sharing until someone directly wants to know. Your motives concern me.

Are you the sort of person who can and does change her mind when presented with facts that contradict her point of view? If yes, give an example of one time you did that.

Depends on if they’re really facts, or just someone’s else’s interpretation.

How far ahead do you like to plan? Would you say you are the sort of person who likes to go into each day with an idea of what you want to do/achieve, or do you prefer to live in the moment?

JoyouslyJoanna’s Profile PhotoJo
I am very goal-oriented. I spend a lot of time thinking about the future, to the point that it stresses me out sometimes, but for the purpose of trying to be more prepared. I’m kind of an anxious person, so preparing for whatever is coming next significantly helps steady me. Also, when I achieve something I’ve put a lot of effort into achieving, I feel calmer and more confident in who I am and who I’m becoming. That being said—living in the moment and being spontaneous is often how I reward myself after accomplishing my goals, so I wouldn’t consider it a direct opposite of what I do. It’s just not my default state.

You're childish if you get somebody attached, treat them like your S/O, then tell them you aren't ready for a relationship... 💯

There’s a lot of reasons to leave and what you tell someone you never plan to see again isn’t usually the entire truth. I made this statement, or something similar, to someone I tried to date last summer, but the truth was that I missed my ex too much and could only see myself being with him. That would be more crushing to hear, I feel, than “I’m not ready for a relationship.” But what do I know?

Share something you've done recently that you are proud of! It doesn't necessarily have to be a "big" thing, small achievements matter too. ✨ 😊

JoyouslyJoanna’s Profile PhotoJo
I solved a problem at work today that took some smart thinking. I was cutting mats for an awards project and was one sheet of mat board short, so I created a new design for our cutter that would get 6 out of one sheet instead of just 4. It only took me about 30 minutes of thinking and I did it on a Monday morning before I’d had any coffee, so I’m pretty proud of myself for that.

What do you think is your best quality?

I’m determined. I push to do better almost nonstop. I don’t back down from challenges. I’ve become so strong from carrying the weight of my own expectations that I have done and can do amazing things. And knowing this makes me even more determined to keep going further.

Do you break things in anger or just lash out ?

MuhammadAli191’s Profile PhotoMohammed Ali Baloucch
I have on a few occasions, but rarely does it get past yelling. I try to remove myself from the situation once it gets there, but I should honestly remove myself before it even gets there. I don’t like being angry at all. It can sometimes escalate into bipolar rage, and then I feel a complete loss of control, and that’s scary both for me and anyone around me. I’m working very hard on catching myself even when all I am is irritated, because that’s the only time on the rage slope that I feel like I can communicate and take care of it in a healthy way. Once I’m angry, I’m yelling, and once I’m raging, I’m tearing apart relationships. Neither are easy to stop.

Thinking about how others would describe you? How does that make you feel? and then how would you describe yourself? Do they know the real you? How do you feel about who you are perceived to be in the world? Do you want to change anything at all?

I don’t like thinking about others’ perceptions of me. I still do it, but I usually end up assuming they’re negative. Because despite being flawed, I really do believe I’m a good person. When I imagine someone else having that thought of me, though, I instantly think, “That’s just coming from pride. And pride isn’t good. So regardless what they think, I am not a good person.” And then I spiral into self-criticism and loathing, yada yada, until I remember that I actually do know my intentions are good and the mistakes I make are just that—mistakes. And then I’m back to believing I am a good person, yet content without the knowledge of whether or not it’s true. After all, there’s only one of me, and eight billion of them. As in my last answer, who’s to say any of us are capable of accurately perceiving anyone?

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Do you believe in your two eyes?

enterfakenamehere’s Profile PhotoAlice C
You mean, do I believe what I’m seeing is reality? Not always. There are moments when I know time has shifted, but everything appears the same. And there are moments when time hasn’t shifted at all, but everything looks different. My perception is usually tied to my feelings, and those change—often. And when you add in the fact that everyone around me is seeing what I’m seeing but through their own perceptions, that makes me wonder even more how stable reality is. I can believe in what I’m seeing all I want, but does that make it real? Can anyone with “eyes” even know?

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On bad days, do you like others to cheer you up or leave you alone?

It depends on the day. Sometimes there’s nothing anyone can do to help. On those days it’s better to just be left alone. Their efforts to make me feel better will only disappoint us both.

My boyfriend cheated on me so many times and confessed it after gaslighting me and making me go crazy. I shouldn’t feel bad if I cheat back?

His lack of integrity shouldn’t be a reason to give up yours. Just end things and wait for something healthier.

What's the biggest change you've noticed in yourself since May 2022?

I think I’ve gained more confidence. I set a goal about a year ago to graduate before I turned 25, and I’m two weeks away from meeting that goal. I had to push myself very hard, past what I was comfortable with, but I didn’t let the difficulty stop me. I think if I spoke with myself from a year ago, she would be very proud.

What song fills you with nostalgia, brings back a memory, or reminds you of a moment in your life in your past?

A lot of songs do that. One particular song came on tonight that instantly brought back memories of psychosis. It was “Ghost” by Confetti, and it kinda freaked me out a little that it’s been 3 years since I heard it. Doesn’t even sound the same, but yet the one line I did remember dislodged some memories I thought were buried. Funny how music can do that.

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Do you know what it’s like for someone to not make you a priority when you need them the most? If you understand what that feels like, what do you do in a situation like that when/if you don’t have someone that’s there for you whenever you need them to be?

Yes. I just try harder to depend less on others and be there for myself.

How many jobs have you had? I'll start 24...

Three. I was a drive-thru operator during my junior year of high school, a steakhouse waitress for six months, and I’ve been at my current job for almost four years, minus a few months during 2020 when I was recovering from hospitalization. I plan to look for a part time data engineering job once I’m confident in Python and have started learning another language like SQL.

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Whats new in your life

I’m starting my training for a new position tomorrow. I had previously been working in my company’s wholesale division, rapidly assembling picture frames and cutting photo mats for hotels and other large clients, but I am now going to be at their retail store, working with custom projects and designing as well as helping customers choose materials when they show up with a frame idea in mind. It’ll be a welcome change of pace with more benefits and better hours, so I’m looking forward to it.
I also joined a pickleball group with some friends from the math department.

What colors? If you insist that 1 + 1 = 3, there's obviously a problem, especially if you don't have insight into the problem with your math. Does that not make sense?

Don’t compare mathematics to linguistics. You’re arguing that healthy means without any ailments (see below thread). I’m arguing that literally no one on this planet is healthy by that standard, that it’s relative, and that you can have an illness and not be ill because I have an illness and at every psychiatrist appointment I have had in the last 3 years—by professional opinion—I have been healthy and functioning much better than when I was first diagnosed. I’ll have my illness forever, but it will not make me ill unless I stop taking care of my mental health. “Healthy” is not a list of qualifications to meet, and you cannot just go around telling people they’re not healthy because all you’re doing is defining them by their illnesses, which is ableist. Only they and their doctor have the insight to know whether they are currently ill or not. Move along, anon. You’re grasping at straws now.

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