#hope

This reminded me of myself. I was constantly breaking down and crying every other week throughout an entire year, upset over my partner's seemingly lack of effort in our relationship. But after thinking through things, slightly guided by my counsellor, I sat in front of my laptop and started typing out what has been happening, how it was perceived on my end and made me feel, what were my expectations (specifically detailing what I wanted as reference point) and left the stage for him to speak out his thoughts. And sure, it was nerve-wrecking to present my reflection to him because I've never really liked confrontation. We didn't fight, he expressed his takes on it and we reached a compromise. And since then, he started to be more attentive towards me - initiating conversations, providing uninterrupted quality time (even just for a few minutes) and sharing about his day. Yes, some of my expectations were still not met but that's what compromise is all about, give-and-take and understanding.

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Main point is that only you have control over your life, only you know your thoughts and emotions and it's your responsibility to communicate those to others. Without honest communication, there will be minimal changes in whichever dissatisfying situation you are stuck in. But be mindful, share how things are based on your perspective and refrain from playing the blame game. And work together to find the best mutually beneficial resolution/arrangement, weighing benefits against costs.

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I hope it helps. All the best!

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The past weeks weren't that easy for me, but it was in a good way, though? I had to increase my dose of the antidepressant I have to take and that caused a LOT of side effects to (re)appear while it was honestly already too late for that step and I had a lot of problems with my health at the same time. Everything together did some bad things to my immune system and my general state, but I've endured it, knowing it'll get better only this way. And it did, constantly, slowly. The past days were the first with a returning "normality" and it was worth every single day of pain and emptiness.

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With me being unable to do really useful things in general, I tried my best to hold onto a few social contacts and spent my days enjoying some new opportunities. I took some small walks with my cat who enjoyed them apparently a lot, so I plan on keeping this as a habit if possible once or twice a week. I also tried my best to improve my eating habits and I think I did an okay job on it.
With nothing much that I was able to do, I wrote some of my daydreams down into stories and seriously consider to publish one or two of them. May they bring fun to others too. I also read a lot and I genuinely enjoyed that like I didn't do for years before. I've learned to appreciate sad stories and horror again, tried my best to face my inner demons and suppressed feelings, also with the help of those. Spent a lot of time on reflecting on my nightmares and made some huge improvements. Generally, I think I'm more stable now and able to face the next problems soon, like for example that I'm unable to cry for my own miseries.

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One thing that keeps my mind wrapped around it were the elections on the Philippines last weeks. A good friend of mine lives there and we both had put a lot of hope in it. Now everything became so uncertain and while she slowly regains her fighting spirits, I on my side want to do everything I can to guarantee her a safe place to go to in case things turn even worse (the elected president is the son of the former dictator, so a lot of scenarios are possible). While I wish the best for the Filo people, I wish even more for my friend to be safe and it's really stressing me how we're so privileged in Europe while can't really do anything at all. But we have each other and I'm willing to put my strength into that.

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For the nth time im saying this.

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PYAR KARNA GUNAAH NAHI HE.

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Gunah aur sawab ka taa'yun insan k amaal karte hain, jab k mohobbat insan k dil main ubharne wala aik adad jazba he.

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Ab mohobbat main parhne k baad, us jazbe k tehet ap jo bhi amaal sar'anjaam dain ge wo ap k liye gunaah ya sawab ka taa'yun karain ge.

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Ab yahan dekhne ki baat ye he k hum gunnah kis amal ko consider karte hain.... ?

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Islamic POV se alag cheezain gunah k criteria main ati hain,
Cultural and societal POV se alag cheezain prohibited hain,
Psychological deviations alag hain relationships ki.

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From the above mentioned things, you have to decide as a human what your priorities are and us hisaab se ap pyar ho jane k baad ki manzilain طے karte hain..

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Another very important thing here is that har insan ki apni demands, do's and dont's hote hain relationships main which might make sense to them but not to you and vice versa. So just make sure to have someone jis se ap ka value system match krta ho wrna there will be a lot of conflicts, miscommunications, and misunderstandings.
Also, just because your value system is completely different from someone else regarding something, you CANNOT judge them or label them.

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Kyun k ap ko duniya main ese bohot se log milen ge jin ki zaroriat ap se bohot mukhtalif hon gi from their relationships and partners, So just learn to tolerate differences. respect their priorities and don't let them disrespect yours. Don't confuse RESPECT with CONFORMITY. Love the way you want to and let them love the way they want to. We all have diff love languages and it's okay to have them..
I hope ap ko ap ka jawab mil gaya, nahi mila tou maaz'rat.....🥺

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• Mieli na imię Hope i Lyall. Hope z domu nazywała się Howell.
• Lyall był czarodziejem, a Hope mugolką.
• Rodzice Remusa poznali się... w lesie. Hope któregoś dnia stwierdziła, że wybierze się tam na spacer i w pewnym momencie spotkała potężnego mężczyznę, który zachowywał się jak kompletnie obłąkany. Okazało się, że to bogin, który, jak to boginy mają w zwyczaju, przybrał postać największego lęku Hope. Narobiła krzyku, który usłyszał Lyall, będący akurat nieopodal. Pędem pobiegł jej pomóc i jednym prostym zaklęciem, które wszyscy dobrze znamy, zamienił tego wariata-bogina w kilka grzybów. Później ją uspokoił i odprowadził do domu, przy okazji zostając dla niej totalnym bohaterem. Co prawda potem jej powiedział, że bogin i tak nie zrobiłby jej krzywdy, ale ona tak czy siak uważała go za swojego wybawcę. To bardzo ich zbliżyło i już na amen zostali razem.
• Ich tort weselny przedstawiał bogina.
• Remus został ugryziony przez chęć zemsty Fenrira na Lyallu.
• Hope zmarła pierwsza.

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Some people might find this strange but I low-key wish the “Asian culture” we have, hope it never changes. And by that I mean all the good aspects of it, all over Asia. The way we respect our elders, the hospitality and little things like taking off your shoes when you enter your house, eating together as a family on the floor, giving money as gifts, having colourful weddings, respecting women, food and our traditions, favouring healthy diet, modesty and simplicity etc etc. All the things that Asians have in common gives me joy. Things are gradually changing and most people are happy to adapt to new ways of living. But I just love the simplicity and diversity of Asian people and their culture. It makes us unique and I hope it stays like this. Good things should always be cherished.

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(the bad aspects need to be removed and replaced likewise)

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It's a feeling that fills you with a warmth and vigor like nothing else. It makes you feel a happiness and lust for everything like you never have before. That person is now a shining beacon of everything that's wonderful. The effect that they have on you is warm comfort in which you feel that you can weather any storm. It shows you a side of yourself that can do anything, be anything, and have anything. It's an energy that fills you with a red hot ball of life as you've never known it. Love is a sunshine that never darkens, even in your lowest moments. It's that warmth of life that burns hot through any cold. It makes everything taste better, every song sound sweeter, and every moment filled with the hope of a new day. It picks you up before you can drop low. It's the muse of life that makes you able to do things that you never thought possible. It's a feeling of belonging and a lovely place to be at the end of any day. It's a fire from within that makes you able to be what you never knew was possible.

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But that's what makes it so dangerous. Love is the single most destructive force that you'll ever invite. In order to feel this way we have to allow it to becomes a part of us. We have to remove our armor. We have to tear down the walls that we spend years strengthening. We have to give that person the ability to meet us at our very center of being. We need to do this because being in love involves having a piece of them enter your very core so that they become part of you. But, being in love or loved doesn't makes someone good for you. When something goes wrong that pain now resides deep withing your very essence. Every other pain can be deflected by our armor but staved off by our walls. But not the pain of love. It's a hurt that originates from the deepest, most vulnerable center of your being. Because that's where it now lives. So when they hurt you it's destroys you from within. It harms the regions in your heart that have never felt pain before. It burns with a confusing pain of emotion in a combination that you never knew existed. And when that person finally leaves they take with them a piece of your very happiness. Because that's what they became to you. A part of what makes you, you. They rip it from your chest and leave you bloody and wounded. Love means giving someone the power to hurt you and hoping that they never do. Love fills you with an intensity for life that you never knew was possible. And when it's gone it's burns with the exact same fire. And when it's all over, we never open up that much again. We never trust as easily again. The burn creates a wound that deadens our senses. We callous over. With every new time we feel the pain of love we lose more of the ability to feel it.

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I know my attitude won't let u believe it but there hasn't been a single day I haven't think about you since the day you met me.

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I would never forget your eyes. I would never forget your walk. Arguments and fights with you were the most beautiful times i ever had. No one will ever look at me the way u did (even for just those Mili seconds).

I wish I could say this to your face at least once that u introduced me to this new feeling. I was too cool to confess it to you when you actually wanted it as well.

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I wish things were different. BUT THEY ARE NOT. YOU DON'T WANT IT TO BE, ANYMORE. I don't know what to deal with this feeling anymore. I have no idea.

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Thank you for some amazing butterflies you have given me over the years. No one has excited me the way your eyes and voice did.

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I'll never forget you. I have always loved youz but you'll have a hard time believing it cuz i have always tried to make jokes and laugh.

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I will learn to live without you cuz i never had any other option. I hope karma hits us and i find someone who loves me the way i loved you. I deserve that too.

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"Beyond Hurt" by Alex

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I went through a similar experience when I was 18 and it nearly broke me. The woman I loved, who also claimed to love me, was in love with another man. In a feeble attempt to soften the blow, she would claim that she loved both of us equally. Her behavior truly broke my heart because I had no idea that anyone could be so cruel, insensitive and indifferent.

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In time, I learned that everything happens for a reason and even though we might not initially comprehend why events occur in a particular sequence, most experiences teach us important lessons that ultimately make us stronger and more resilient and better able to deal with the joys, pain, suffering, tragedy and loss that we will inevitably experience throughout our life. It is important to always nurture our faith and to never lose hope, because as the sun sets and darkness falls upon us, those who have faith know that tomorrow, the sun will rise, the ocean tide will rise and fall, the birds will sing and our earth and universe will continue to spin.

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And remember, nobody ever said that life was easy, simple or pain free. In fact, one could summarize life in three words: birth...life....death. How we choose to live our life and spend our time is a choice that we all must make.
Good Luck.

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I hope you are happier with your life now. I not angry that we did ended our friendship but just u know, i still wish that we can remains as best friend until where our children will become bestfriend like we used to. Bestfriend over generations, that's must be nice. Thankyou for your time, your efforts, your smiles, and thankyou for was there in my thick and thin, and thankyou for made me the happiest hooman in old days. None of the days was bad for me, bcs u did made me happy and when i need someone to share on, u was there. I glad u there. I glad u was there. U comfort me when no others could. But now, we both already have our own bestfriend, but i don't think we should compare it with us, don't u think so? Anw, if u reading this, I would love to rejoice our good old days, and yes, to meet u again.

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Till then, take care.

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> Why are some religious people so hypocritical?

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Since I am irreligious, you'll have to seek religious people and inquire. I wouldn't be surprised if you receive diverse responses. You might find that some religious people can be rather permissive while others are much more stringent.

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> How is it 'immoral' and a 'sin' to be gay, for example, but judging, gossiping, harassing isn't?

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If I had to guess, it may have something to do with scripture. Certain unorthodox practices / behaviors are interpreted as forbidden, sinful and / or immoral in the eyes of their deity. What some would regard as judging, gossiping or harassing may not necessarily be viewed as such through a religious lens. It is a matter of *perspective* and this is why I would urge you to discuss your concerns with those who embrace religious doctrines / ideologies. I hope the answers to your questions will reveal themselves and I'll leave you with this:

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