Stop f00ling yourself into believing that your bad experiences have made you go through a character development when you know it has only made you a traumatic petty human.
I used to date this guy.. He was really really nice and actually took care of me. But had zero ambitions about his career. And never tried to get a job or get settled not to mention he was the only son of his family. So i eventually dumped him. But now i don't know what i did was right. Opinion..