It doesn't matter if you're a parent or not. What's your best parenting tip/tips? What's something that you see around quite a lot and think it should be done differently?
Don’t punish your kids for having “negative” moods/emotions... I see parents do this a lot and it frustrates me so much. 😑 Like, if they are angry, sad, just in a bad mood, etc… parents will punish them for “having an attitude” or “not listening” or “acting up.” Instead of just talking to them and helping them understand that those emotions are normal, and teaching healthy coping skills. 🥴
I think it can be easy to forget that children, especially young children, need guidance on what to do with their feelings, how to express them properly, and so on. What they don’t need is their parent telling them to “knock it off” or generally being scolded for it. 🤷🏼♀️ Being angry, frustrated, anxious, sad, etc, doesn’t make them a “difficult child,” it makes them a person who is developing and figuring out what it means to deal with challenging things (whatever that might mean/look like at their age).
I’m not saying you shouldn’t set boundaries/rules when it comes to certain behaviors, or that you shouldn’t parent them, tell them no, etc, if they are truly doing something wrong, you certainly should. It just means when they are upset/angry, instead of yelling at them, being like: “Listen, I understand you’re feeling *insert emotion*, I feel like that too sometimes. BUT, I cannot allow you to *insert behavior* (throw things, hit, bite, etc.) Can you tell me what you need instead so I can help you?” Or whatever age appropriate version of that would be.
I think it can be easy to forget that children, especially young children, need guidance on what to do with their feelings, how to express them properly, and so on. What they don’t need is their parent telling them to “knock it off” or generally being scolded for it. 🤷🏼♀️ Being angry, frustrated, anxious, sad, etc, doesn’t make them a “difficult child,” it makes them a person who is developing and figuring out what it means to deal with challenging things (whatever that might mean/look like at their age).
I’m not saying you shouldn’t set boundaries/rules when it comes to certain behaviors, or that you shouldn’t parent them, tell them no, etc, if they are truly doing something wrong, you certainly should. It just means when they are upset/angry, instead of yelling at them, being like: “Listen, I understand you’re feeling *insert emotion*, I feel like that too sometimes. BUT, I cannot allow you to *insert behavior* (throw things, hit, bite, etc.) Can you tell me what you need instead so I can help you?” Or whatever age appropriate version of that would be.