Laura

In my own personal experience I agree because it wasn't easy to be friends, especially since every boy is went out with cheated on me several times if not just once. I tried to be friends with one ex because I knew a lot about him and his family life but he threw my help in my face, no in fact he threw everything I did for him on the floor, stamped on it many times and then threw it in my face over and over again. He really messed up my head, so much that I don't think I can forgive what he's done no matter how many times he came back to try and apologise. Each ex left me emotionally devastated, I began to develop really bad trust issues which have gotten better now and I blame each and every one of them for my broken confidence! After being told to be a certain way and change this and that once I got back up from healing my own wounds I decided to say no to anyone who will or would tell me to change! I wasn't good enough then what makes a change any different now? It took me 2 years to get myself up, the smallest bit of confidence again and back out there doing things to keep my mind occupied. They've created almost a phobia in me and for that among other things I don't feel it's okay for me to forgive them or accept their apologies no matter how well they try to dress it up! After those 2 years of feeling worthless and broken I found someone who loves me the way I am and cares for me so much. I have the love I always wanted and needed now and it's helped me put those trust issues out of my head and move them elsewhere! I've become a better me since those years of being on my own to fix myself and heal my wounds! Love definitely can be blind! I think there's too much history and feelings that were once there which will cloud that judgement of being friends!

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There's a few but I find it really hard to listen to Turn me on and Titanium - David Guetta because that was my friends favourite songs and unfortunately he left us. The last time I spoke to him we had fallen out and we'd just started patching it up, talking and hanging out again, he was telling me that 3 weeks before I'd saw him, he was out with friends I knew and his drink was spiked with different things which he ended up in a short coma. The week after I'd met spoken to him , two days before Valentine's Day I got a phone call saying him and his friends were drunk one was standing on the motorway trying to commit suicide and he ran onto the road and pushed his friend out of the way he got hit instead. He broke his ribs and was badly damaged, he died that night in hospital and the very next day I went to where he was hit to put flowers down in his memory, it was truly devastating for all of his friends and family. I cried my eyes out and all I heard was those two songs played constantly after his death which made me hate the songs and I couldn't listen without feeling horrible and remembering him. I haven't been back to the place he died since that day because the place feels empty and run out of life! Its nothing but bad memories now. It's been 4/5 years since he died and I still feel upset when it comes to the date he died which is this month, which is this Friday actually! My thoughts are still there I hope he's in peace up there, he's very much missed down here! :') ?❤️

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Don't put yourself down or listen to anyone who's negative and you just might, if you keep going on like this you'll literally bury yourself in a hole of not wanting to do anything and employers don't want overly negative employees! Stop thinking about everyone else and be you, do things for yourself and keep yourself positive as much as you can it's better than being negative moaning about unemployment like the rest of us fill up your time do anything to keep active instead of doing nothing and feeling rotten about not having a job! Build up your skills, interests and qualifications in the meantime and later on keep applying! This is what I keep telling myself to stop me from being as negative as you're being and feeling towards unemployment. Don't dwell on it everything is a learning experience take that on board and consider what you learn or could do differently next time you apply and look for work! Moaning gets you nowhere. ?

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Yes and no, reason being is because I think love should be for everyone as well as change or transformation but unfortunately there's just some people out there who's big ego gets in the way and that's what can change your perception and view on certain people these changes involve. I don't like when you have someone who is gay, bisexual, transgender lesbian etc who start to let their ego get in the way and their views specifically on the lbgt community which seems over powering and forceful, I'm all for whatever gender and sex you're interested in to be happy or find love but I don't like to feel that certain opinions are forced on me. Also I don't like knowing things people do behind closed doors this goes for anyone and everyone but I have come across a few people who associate themselves with the LBGT community who go on and on and on which does annoy me because I don't want to know that about anyone never mind one person who is gay, bisexual or lesbian. I find it shocking how some people boast about their sexuality or gender too much but there are people really desperately scared to come out to their friends and family. I think you should be proud of your child no matter what gender or sex they are and like, I feel for these people who get abused, teased, bullied and isolated socially because it still goes on even though it is more accepted now there's still so many struggles for people and I think it's so disrespectful to those who do suffer from being excluded and abused in any form when there's others out almost branding themselves as amazing because they're gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or anything else. I really don't like that at all I hope the people who do and are struggling, find a way to get by it and are able to move on and live their life happily! That's my only reasons for saying no. I have quite a few friends who are bisexual, gay, lesbian and transgender and I get on just fine with them and I accept what they're interested in and love! One of my friends who is transgender was telling me about how hard he found it saying that he wasn't comfortable being a girl and having to live up to girls expectations especially since he identified himself as being and looking more like a male. I respected that a lot and the fact that he wanted to share his story of how hard it was for him! (the rest of his journey to change I'm not mentioning because it's very personal to him which is why I've mentioned very little and summed up that it was tough for him!) I don't think you should base friendship off of someone's sexuality or gender because to me that's making it awkward for you and the other person and that's instantly singling them out for being the way they are and want to be and is also judging on how their sexuality or gender will impact on your friendship which is wrong to do, be friends with everyone! ???

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