Laura

Depends what context of relationship you're referring to, if its a friend I'm rather cautious. I do like to meet new people and get to know people but I don't feel like I can truly open up my true true self because friends in the past have let me down or haven't been there when I needed them most. At some points I had stuff going on outside of school and friends I knew for years since nursery/kindergarten whatever people can relate to, and I didn't once tell them or let them know what was wrong with me because I had some lost trust there and bad feelings so I have trust issues with meeting new people and really opening up it takes me a good while to open up especially to new people! I do still try and enjoy really getting to know people it's just from my experience its not been great, I lost trust and picked up on negativity throughout.

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In terms of romantically, I was, I was absolutely terrified to let myself feel connected and have strong feelings towards someone else because my dating history is/was AWFUL. I know myself well enough to know how easily I can fall for someone and how quickly I can produce feelings but I was always skeptical about letting it actually happen and start to feel again after so much hurt.
I knew this boy from school who I always always noticed in the corridor and never thought he'd noticed me because he was in the next class and the year above me. His friends were in my classes, one in art and the other in admin so I saw him about quite a lot even tried talking at one point because I was immediately interested in him and couldn't figure out what it was. After he left school and started college we started to talk more after I added him on Facebook and we spoke every day practically every hour, moment and minute of the day and I really started to warm up to him more as we continued talking. We met up one day and now we're almost 2 years together and still growing stronger together. I actually am mesmerised that we met through school and his friends being in my class up until this point, where we're very very happy! I've literally found myself in the opposite sex to be honest we're so alike and I have so much appreciation and respect for him because he's been my rock through some of the hardest times I've faced and he didn't once let me down.
So to all the people out there still searching for the right person, don't lose hope, don't force feelings, don't follow expectations and let things happen on their own in their own time. I didn't think I'd really ever get over being hurt time after time again but where I am now, I'm so much happier, I have a little bunch of great friends, my boyfriend treats me like a pearl even though I'm really just a pebble and I'm more content with myself inside and out. Don't give up, make yourself feel better before letting someone else come into your life and let things happen themselves you never know what could happen! ??

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To be completely honest I don't think it's fair to judge a mother on one night out a few times a week or month as long as their child is in good care with someone trustworthy! I don't think its right if the mother or father abandons the child to go out socialising every night! I think people forget that being pregnant and having this new responsibility has a different effect on you where you need to kind of mature and grow up quickly to prepare for the little boy or girl that's to come along! To be honest I think people forget the responsibilities that come with being pregnant and after birth and then they stress out because the level they have to cope with is too much for them. I think planning pregnancy is important because you have time to plan things, save money, provide a stable home and family for that child to be brought up in and it definitely doesn't seem easy to do on your own, I have respect for all of the single parents who are and have been raising their child on their own! I really don't think kids or teenagers should be having children because no one can really properly prepare you for the unknown responsibilities that lie ahead with pregnancy and after birth!

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Compromising is a good solution but I think that statement was too strong to blame one gender. I think both genders have flaws some more than others but we shouldn't be defined by only gender we are our own individual as much as we are part of a group, category and race. No two people are the same so I think that what's sterol typically said about one gender really spirals from few or many individual people who are of the same gender! It's like saying males are the only ones who cheat and females write them off as all cheating but its fact that females are capable of cheating on their partner as much as a male! You're right about compromising but some people limit themselves to putting up with something until it breaks them or removing themselves from the situation because it might get too destructive and chaotic where people will get hurt. There's many ways, ideas and solutions to problems but I think it comes down to the individual and what they're thinking and feeling towards the situation, who determines limitations or whether he/she wants to compromise and find another way of going about it.

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Poor, as much as I know I would complain I would feel better helping out those in a worse off state than myself! It's better to feel good about helping out others than to be selfish, greedy and rich, probably ignoring the homeless or those struggling! You're more likely to seem unappealing to those around you because in others eyes you seem selfish, self centred and not wanting to care for others, and the only people who would take an interest in you would be gold diggers only wanting to use or marry into your money! :/ I would rather embrace being kind and putting some else first which you can make friends or good connections with, than to feel completely alone with only money to satisfy and get through life with! Look at Ronaldo he's successful even though I disagree with the amounts footballers are paid he is an exception because he donates to charity some of the money he's earned and he continues to do well for himself, and people admire him more than other players because outside of his football reputation and career you can see what he does for others.

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That's pretty rude that's like females ignoring a guy when trying to speak, argue a point or open up, neither likes to be ignored and to be fair males don't like to be wrong. Being wrong can hurt their pride, so why does that statement make it okay for males to ignore females? This is one of these statements which probably will provoke someone such as a feminist to say that it is very sexist to state that, but lets be honest we all ignore anyone and everyone sometimes so I don't think it's fair that its pinned only on females. Some females stand up if they feel someone is in the wrong or if they feel threatened and then there's females like me who can and WILL hold a grudge probably until death. Yes males don't always or completely understand how we think, the way we act or feel but you know what neither do some females so you've just got to either bare with it or remove yourself from it. Females have slightly more sensitive feelings as do some guys, but the point I'm trying to make is the way a woman feels and thinks can be sensitive and destructive compared to guys because they can laugh or shrug it off and something like this being said can be seen as hurtful whether its true or untrue! -Everyone has an opinion, I'm learning that you've got to choose wisely otherwise you can hurt or damage someone!

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