Do you easily find yourself in a bad mood when people don’t treat you fairly and/or when they make up rumors about you and if not, how did you get to a point where the rumors about you didn’t get to you anymore?
Being treated unfairly always hurts, and can put you in a bad mood, regardless of who it’s by. Obviously, it’s gonna hurt way more if it’s someone you love treating you that way, but even from a stranger, that stuff can really stick with you. 🥺
I don’t really like the idea that you’re supposed to get to a point where it “doesn’t affect you.” It’s human to care, and to be affected by hurtful things. I don’t think the answer is to harden yourself. I know it affects me. If I’m treated unfairly, having rumors spread about me (even if they are untrue), etc, I’m gonna be hurt… And people can say “get over it” all they want, but it doesn’t change anything. If it hurts you, they don’t get to tell you it shouldn’t.
Now, with that said, I think what you can do is take people’s hurtful words with a grain of salt, especially if they don’t know you. That’s what I often do. Strangers and even acquaintances opinions of you aren’t facts… They aren’t based in any sort of truth. So I think that is an important thing to take into consideration. Prioritize the opinions of those who truly love you and know you, and beyond that, what YOU know to be true about yourself. And while that isn’t the cure for being hurt by things people say, it can at least take the edge off.
I hope that helps a little! If you’re going through something like this, I’m sorry. ☹️ You don’t deserve that.
I don’t really like the idea that you’re supposed to get to a point where it “doesn’t affect you.” It’s human to care, and to be affected by hurtful things. I don’t think the answer is to harden yourself. I know it affects me. If I’m treated unfairly, having rumors spread about me (even if they are untrue), etc, I’m gonna be hurt… And people can say “get over it” all they want, but it doesn’t change anything. If it hurts you, they don’t get to tell you it shouldn’t.
Now, with that said, I think what you can do is take people’s hurtful words with a grain of salt, especially if they don’t know you. That’s what I often do. Strangers and even acquaintances opinions of you aren’t facts… They aren’t based in any sort of truth. So I think that is an important thing to take into consideration. Prioritize the opinions of those who truly love you and know you, and beyond that, what YOU know to be true about yourself. And while that isn’t the cure for being hurt by things people say, it can at least take the edge off.
I hope that helps a little! If you’re going through something like this, I’m sorry. ☹️ You don’t deserve that.
