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how many time have you loved?
That depends on what you mean.
If you mean how many boyfriends have I had, the answer is three.
If you mean how many times have I had feelings for someone, the answer is many.
If you mean how many times have I engaged in sexual activity, the answer is none of your business because it's an inappropriate question.
If you mean how many boyfriends have I had, the answer is three.
If you mean how many times have I had feelings for someone, the answer is many.
If you mean how many times have I engaged in sexual activity, the answer is none of your business because it's an inappropriate question.
That awkward moment when?
People think you're angry but it's just your face.
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Where have you traveled that you think everyone should see?
1. New Orleans
2. St. Augustine
3. The Ozarks
2. St. Augustine
3. The Ozarks
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What does friendship mean to you? What should your friend be like? Do you have a lot of friends? What could be your reasons for discontinuing friendship with a person?
Hello, welcome back.
I see you edited your original post. I answered the first three questions here: https://ask.fm/ugottafriend/answers/152145949551
What could be my reasons for discontinuing friendship? Sigh...this is a long answer, and I'm probably not going to elaborate much, but I will say things have been very tough over the last several years with friends. Last week, I blocked one of my closest friends of 25 years. I tolerated a great deal of his hatefulness due to our long history, but it has escalated into unsafe and unacceptable levels, and I finally had to cut ties for my own sanity. I didn't say anything to him, I simply removed our social media connections. He may very well call or email soon, and I'll deal with it at that time. I hope he will eventually get help for his extremist views and frequent appalling outbursts against women.
A few other reasons I've ended friendships:
They became controlling, handsy, and/or aggressive.
They stole from me or my friends (yes, I mean literal theft).
They started gaslighting me and being manipulative or cruel.
They mocked rape victims and the "me too" movement.
They were ableist, racist, sexist, or otherwise prejudiced to an inexcusable degree.
I frown heavily upon toxicity in general, but I have been accepting over the years. I don't think highly of myself most days, but one thing I can say is that there are times when my empathy has been exploited, and I've been too loyal. It's nobody else's fault that I'm a highly sensitive person, but it is their fault for hurting me. I will no longer be victim-blamed, or be a victim at all if I can prevent it. In my late 30s and now in my 40s, I've slowly learned to stand up for myself and others and not be so tolerant of people who subtract from my well-being and the overall good of humanity. It's very hard, but it's the right thing to do.
If you want a better answer than that, you're going to have to stop being anonymous so we can have a real conversation, but I appreciate your questions either way. Have a nice day.
I see you edited your original post. I answered the first three questions here: https://ask.fm/ugottafriend/answers/152145949551
What could be my reasons for discontinuing friendship? Sigh...this is a long answer, and I'm probably not going to elaborate much, but I will say things have been very tough over the last several years with friends. Last week, I blocked one of my closest friends of 25 years. I tolerated a great deal of his hatefulness due to our long history, but it has escalated into unsafe and unacceptable levels, and I finally had to cut ties for my own sanity. I didn't say anything to him, I simply removed our social media connections. He may very well call or email soon, and I'll deal with it at that time. I hope he will eventually get help for his extremist views and frequent appalling outbursts against women.
A few other reasons I've ended friendships:
They became controlling, handsy, and/or aggressive.
They stole from me or my friends (yes, I mean literal theft).
They started gaslighting me and being manipulative or cruel.
They mocked rape victims and the "me too" movement.
They were ableist, racist, sexist, or otherwise prejudiced to an inexcusable degree.
I frown heavily upon toxicity in general, but I have been accepting over the years. I don't think highly of myself most days, but one thing I can say is that there are times when my empathy has been exploited, and I've been too loyal. It's nobody else's fault that I'm a highly sensitive person, but it is their fault for hurting me. I will no longer be victim-blamed, or be a victim at all if I can prevent it. In my late 30s and now in my 40s, I've slowly learned to stand up for myself and others and not be so tolerant of people who subtract from my well-being and the overall good of humanity. It's very hard, but it's the right thing to do.
If you want a better answer than that, you're going to have to stop being anonymous so we can have a real conversation, but I appreciate your questions either way. Have a nice day.
Puppy sized elephant or elephant sized puppy?
Puppy sized elephant. :)
Are you the type of person who would spend time in the company of a stranger with pleasure, drinking cappuccinos and telling each other stories from life? :) ☕☕
A complete stranger? Ehhhh I have to question my comfort level over that idea. I'm an introvert, and a cautious person in general. I don't do blind dates, however, I will say that if I meet someone and they seem kind and respectful, I would definitely consider talking over cappuccino. It sounds like a lovely time. (And I would pay for my own coffee.)
If animals could talk, which animal would be the most annoying?
Still humans.
If there is one thing that you could change about the past, what would that be?
There are far too many things that need changing to choose only one.
What’s your dream marriage proposal?
I don't have one. I think marriage is very serious and should be properly discussed, privately and in immense detail. Surprise proposals, especially public ones where the recipient is pressured to say yes, is no way for two grown adults to operate. IF it has already been discussed and agreed upon privately, a proposal could be planned for the benefit of loved ones or whoever else is present, if having that kind of moment is important to the couple. But I personally hate surprises and don't want public attention on me, so I would most likely feel horrified to be proposed to in front of other people, and I'm an ugly crier too.
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How would your friends describe you???
I believe they would call me tenacious and persevering, possibly sensitive and empathic toward the innocent (but not so much the guilty). One has been known to refer to me as a "bulldog". Feel free to draw your own conclusion about that.
If you had to live the rest of your life in a movie which one would you pick?
I truly can't think of anything other than possibly The Hobbit but I wouldn't be going on any quests. I'd be at home in a cave in Hobbiton eating pie.
Why are some men thin, and others fat, although they eat the same pasta?
Funny question. Perhaps read up on metabolism, physiology, genetics, and/or health and wellness topics? There are plenty of reasons people vary in weight. Google is your friend. :)
You're planning a nice dinner party but could only invite 2 people. Who would you invite?
I honestly don't know. Sorry I'm no fun.
How would you like to celebrate your next birthday?
It's in a couple of weeks, but I have no plans at all. It's on a Saturday, so maybe I can find something to do or someone to hang out with. We'll see.
You too! If you need to talk randomly, i'm here to either amuse or annoy you if you wish lol
Haha, thanks! I appreciate it!
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What are you looking forward to this year?
I don't have any specific plans. I'm supposed to go to medical appointments and possibly a presentation on my condition this year, and I will probably obtain long-awaited genetic testing. I really have nothing else to do except a little bit of art and reading, and hopefully visiting my nieces later this year.
How about you?
How about you?
Do you often suffer from sleeplessness?
All the time. I've been diagnosed with sleep apnea, insomnia, and sleep deprivation.
Person that lets you down the most?
Me.
???What do you think about long distance relationships?
I answered this question a week ago.
https://ask.fm/ugottafriend/answers/154934806895
https://ask.fm/ugottafriend/answers/154934806895
How to deal with busy boyfriend?
Ask yourself these questions:
What is he busy doing?
Is it a good thing or a bad thing?
Do we respect each other as independent individuals?
What do I actually want from this man?
Are my expectations reasonable?
Does this lifestyle align with my goals?
When you have all of the answers, schedule a time to discuss with him how you're feeling, and go from there.
What is he busy doing?
Is it a good thing or a bad thing?
Do we respect each other as independent individuals?
What do I actually want from this man?
Are my expectations reasonable?
Does this lifestyle align with my goals?
When you have all of the answers, schedule a time to discuss with him how you're feeling, and go from there.
What's the best news you've ever received?
That I'm finally going to be an Aunt.
I did, in fact, become an Aunt this very week 8 years ago. Happy Birthday Jo!
I did, in fact, become an Aunt this very week 8 years ago. Happy Birthday Jo!
What's something you're not very good at but enjoy doing anyway?
Cooking, Art, Gaming
Do you have a favorite track?
Not really. I'm too indecisive, and one of those people who has a hundred favorite songs.
I hope you get well soon, i'm sorry to hear that 😯 how long have you been sick for?
Most of my life, I hate to say. It's a chronic condition. Thanks very much for the well wishes, though! Take care.
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