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Hate it when people are shy of introducing their poor relatives to their rich friends or rich people around them, why? They are humans !! don't you think they also have heart, they also want to be good, wear good, eat good. Don't you know, "Allah ney jiska risk jitna likha hota hai usko utna he milta hai chahe kuch karley" toh yeh difference kiu? Yeh baat kiu bhool jate hou. Unka role yehi hai life mai. And you all this kinda people are really lacking of some islamic knowledge. Just don't show your degrees here, learn some islamic knowlege also. Treat them well show your real richness (kindness, love). Aur han yeh jou tum loug jinse chupate hou na unhe, unke bhi kuch gareeb relatives hote hain kabhi tum lougon ki waja se phir woh bh chupa dete hain aur kuch tum lougon se zarf mai agay hote hain aur yeh sab ghatiya souch tmhri tarah nae rakhtay. Just know tum Insan nae hou tum lougon ka zameer mara hua hota hai. Idky i got serious writing this but its damn true saw this kinda behaviour somewhere and can't resist myself to write.

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There are many things that annoy me. Here are a few examples:

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1. Toilet Paper - nobody in my house will replace the toilet paper.
2. Toothpaste - the toothpaste cap is never screwed on properly.
3. Cooking - the burners on the stove a left on.
4. Getting dressed - I have to get dressed in the dark to not upset my wife.
5. Driving - I live in Florida where drivers either refuse to use their turn signals when making a turn, or they use the incorrect turn signal.
6. Highway driving - some people drive the speed limit. Some folks drive 40 miles over the speed limit. And yes, the remainder drive 40 miles under the speed limit. It is literally a shit show.
7. Religion - I perform at several churches. Both of these churches have operating budgets that are in the red. The average age of the congregation is 70+ years old and very few young people attend; and yet, these churches do literally nothing to attract young people into their congregation and each week the priests and ministers complain about financial difficulties while offering no realistic solutions.

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Rules:

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#1. Pick your battles - When I get annoyed, I ask myself this question:
Is this a battle worth fighting for?
Will my voice and effort make a difference?
If not, I remain silent, disengage, and pursue my own interests and goals. I refuse to fight battles where I am not allowed to affect change.

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#2. It is what it is vs it is what you make it. -
This is more of a philosophical argument or issue of perception, similar to the question: is your cup half full or half empty? In my experience, when people refuse to change, it is what it is. And unless I have the authority or power to force the necessary changes, the cup will remain half empty; however, if I am in control and allowed to make changes, my cup is half full and the outcome will be what I or we (the collective group) make it. I suppose that is why I am an introvert and enjoy writing poetry, playing golf or playing my guitar. Only then am I in complete control of the outcome and the goals and objectives that I have set forth.

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#3. It could be worse - whenever I am annoyed, frustrated or impatient, I do the following:
a. I take a deep breath and count to 10.
b. I think to myself that it could be worse.
It could be worse if I was married to, or living with the person who is annoying me. This realization both comforts me and grounds me with an often overlooked truth that I am indeed in control of my own reality. A smile immediately appears on my face, and I silently thank God for blessing me and allowing me the common sense to put my reality into perspective and to stop worrying about people and things that I have no control over.

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-Peace-

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hmm, if you think about it, yes, my friend and I arranged it and it’s very scary ... we also tried it with my brother and sister, oh gods, this is not self-hypnosis, since three people cannot imagine the same thing, because "when it seems that it seems , then it’s not imagining "^^ here I am writing and remember these feelings, oh, it excites😝😁💫🔥🔥🔥
when I was in college, my friends came to me, yes, we didn’t arrange a seance, but we shared our impressions about them, who tried what, and it’s adrenaline and heartbreaking😈🔥💫👍
you know about the Ouija board) everything is in the process ^^

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хм, если подумать то да, мы с подругой устраивали и это очень страшно... с братом и сестрой тоже пробовали, о боги это не самовнушение, так как троим людям одно и тоже мерещиться не может, так как "когда кажется, что мерещится, то это не мерещится"^^ вот пишу и помню эти ощущения, ох будоражит😝😁💫🔥🔥🔥
когда учились в колледже ко мне пришли мои друзья, да мы не устраивали спиритический сеанс, но делились впечатлениями о них, кто что пробовал, да и это адреналиново и душещепательно😈🔥💫👍
про доску Уиджи ты знаешь) все в процессе^^

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I do not know.
The honest truth is that I do not care about something as superfluous as VIP status. I would prefer to concentrate on my writing without the distress caused by earning enough points or likes to be considered worthwhile as implied by VIP.

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Sometimes I laugh because VIP reminds me of high school when in our year book the writers would list:
- most attractive couple
- most likely to succeed
- most intelligent
- most athletic

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But nowhere did they list:
- most kind
- most humble
- most loyal
- most honest
- most sincere

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And so I ignore such superficial and juvenile labels, categories and self imposed boxes that are imposed upon us by moderators, writers and editors whom I most likely share no common interests and would probably bore me to tears resulting in wailing, gnashing of teeth and increased probability of aneurysm.

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In what way were they annoying?
Were they hateful and mean?
Were they speaking an inconvenient truth that upset you?

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It is impossible to advise you because your original statement is conflicting. You claim they annoy you while also claiming they were really nice to you.
Which is it?
- Annoying or Really nice?
Also, why are you confused about your feelings toward them? Are you afraid of falling in love?

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I had a similar experience, except I was the one who got blocked. It happened a few months ago when I was writing and posting original poems and one of my followers said she really enjoyed my poetry. So we began texting and eventually became friends. Then one day, one of her friend from Spain, who is a drama queen and who gossips 24x7, told her that I was this evil, hateful and untrustworthy SOB who must be blocked. So my virtual friend who enjoyed my writing blocked me without offering any explanation other than she disliked me.

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I guess what I am trying to say is that yes, sometimes blocking is the proper thing to do, but just understand that it is not always easy to analyze and understand the motives of other people or whether or not they are a good person or a bad person.

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I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt and when I have concerns, I will attempt to ask questions and try my best to be patient and understanding before I block someone and destroy the relationship.

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"Depressing Love" by Alex

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Yes it is depressing when you love someone but they accuse you of not loving them, especially early in the relationship when the couple are still trying to understand one another. I admit that I get distracted with my music and writing and they become an obsession. Once I put my pen to paper or start playing my guitar, I do not like to be interrupted unless it is an emergency. Unfortunately, most people I have lived with whether brother, sister, parents, wife or children, do not understand or appreciate the mind of an artist and so they confuse my passion and concentration as disinterest.

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It is one of the reasons that if I am ever single, I will remain single. Living by myself is the only way I will be able to create poems and music uninterrupted and without having to justify my behavior or being forced to deal with the constant complaints and accusations of disinterest. And as for me, I will never comprehend why people cannot understand that a writer cannot write nor a musician practice his music while simultaneously talking to family and friends or painting the house, washing the dishes or mowing the lawn. Music and writing require silence and concentration without comment or justification.

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So to answer your original question, yes it is most depressing to love people while also being accused of not loving them. It is also depressing to write poems that nobody reads or to write songs that people do not hear (because they are too busy talking) or to strive for perfection in an imperfect and uncaring world. And might I propose that this is precisely the reason why so many talented artists decide to end their lives. I completely understand! To be a sensitive soul living in an insensitive and uncaring world is, in my opinion, a profound and painful reality that is impossible to reconcile. Luckily for me, I am able to co-exist in both worlds, but I would much prefer to be a full time artist who devotes all of his time and effort to creating music and poetry.

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Thank you for your sincere and insightful question. /Alex

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"Moments In Time" by Alex

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You might not know this about me, but every day that I wake up, breathe.. and get to experience life, is a blessing for me. So at the most basic level, I would say that waking up in the morning and realizing that God has given me another day is something good, something celebrated and something to take care of. And I do not equate good with the accumulation of material wealth or the pursuit of carnal desires; rather, I prefer to cherish moments in time. These moments might include time spent with family and friends, or it might consist of time spent alone writing or perhaps practicing my golf swing or performing music. I consider these moments in time an integral part of my life's journey that is comprised of a quest for continuous improvement, self control and an understanding of the self, which motivates me, provides spiritual guidance, and illuminates my life's path by providing a solid foundation where I can establish realistic goals, set objectives and participate in daily activities that contribute to achieving my stated objectives.

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I am also a simple man with an unambiguous lifestyle and a deliberate and persistent thought process that reduces my anxiety while eliminating the emotional clutter that inhibits personal growth. This creates a healthy environment where happiness and joy can thrive and I can concentrate and focus on my goals. And since I am curious by nature, I feel compelled to ask questions so I can better understand how things function in the real world. My contemplative thoughts are where I seek refuge to discover and understand myself which, in turn, generates happiness that fills my soul with joy, wonder, good humor and a sense of purpose.

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Thank You!

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