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Do you have a person who can make you happy? If so, who is this person?

Happy isn't a one-time achievement, as if I've arrived at happy and everything is ok now. That's just not how this works. I'm sure there are people out there who make me feel happiness, even if only temporarily. The behavior of others do contribute to how I feel, but ultimately, I am the owner of my feelings. It's unreasonable to expect someone else to be responsible for that.
That said, my young nieces make me smile. I enjoy talking to them and I'm grateful they acknowledge me.

How long has your longest ever phone call been?

Ridiculously long. I think I talked to a friend for nearly 7 hours when I was a teen. That was a very long time ago.

Do you prefer a hard or a soft bed?

Not so soft that I get a crick in my back, but I have chronic pain so I do need it to be pretty soft to tolerate.

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When was the last time somebody shouted at you?

I honestly don't remember, which is a good thing because I don't recommend doing this.

If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would you choose?

Today, I'd probably choose my doctors. I'm a mess and I think it would be a good idea if we talked more often.

Do you agree that loneliness can be addictive and therefore dangerous?

I think people can obsess over anything, including loneliness. Feeling lonely itself isn't dangerous, but obsessing or otherwise being irrational is where the issue lies.

What is one thing that many people don't know about you?

Big confession time.
Growing up, I never drank, never smoked, memorized Bible passages, wrote devotionals, was a Christian radio volunteer, sponsored a child in Brazil, taught Sunday School, held signs on the side of the highway, worked jobs to support missions and evangelical crusades, didn't pursue men, and refused intercourse until marriage. Some people are class clowns and class presidents. I was the class "goodie-two-shoes".
It was instilled in me from very early childhood that Jesus was watching my every move 24/7/365, which resulted in anxiety. I quickly learned to cope with the notion that this invisible man was in my personal space watching me sleep, pee, change clothes, and take a shower by imagining him as a guardian angel, there to protect me from harm. (Except he didn't. That's another story.) I've only recently realized how manipulated and controlled I was in addition to the abuse and neglect (yet another story) that I was already well aware of. It makes me sad to think that any innocent child would ever live that way, but that anxious child became an anxious young adult who was defined by the fire and brimstone of the people who intimidated her. It's still hard sometimes to come to terms with the fact that, for over 20 years, I was a terrified little girl trying not to piss off a prophet. Alas, that's the basis of all religion, and rationally-speaking, it was not my fault.
I left the church in my 20s, went back, and left again in my 30s. Even though I am no longer a church puppet, and I am a better human being as a result, I think my lifelong experience with religion-based trauma has ruined me and that I'll never truly escape. I am making an effort to deal with it in spite of how I feel, however. I have come a long way. I've known since adulthood that I'm not being personally monitored by the son of God. I am a realist. I am learning to stand up for myself by rejecting the judgment and mistreatment of others. Most importantly, I am looking for a therapist who carries no religious bias so I can safely process everything I've been through. Wish me luck.

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Where were you born?

"in that sleepy little town called Pascagoula"
Actual song lyrics. Look them up. It's a fun song. :-)

Do you prefer to be alone or around people?

I know I've answered this one before. I prefer being alone, but I'm perfectly OK sometimes with being around someone I am comfortable with. The challenge is getting to that point (comfortable does not come easy for me).

Have you ever fallen in love with a person who is in another relationship?

Sorry to say, yes. I was very young and naive, and he turned out to be in multiple relationships. Lesson learned.

What social networking websites do you use?

Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Goodreads, MyFitnessPal
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Tumblr and Dreamwidth also, but I'm not willing to share my usernames here.

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