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Because a passenger plane, which holds dozens if not hundreds of passengers, is not designed to safely jump out of. Do some research and you will learn that if a passenger plane door or window is opened, the pressure is going to cause you to lose consciousness, and there's a good chance you're going to get sucked out. If you're unconscious, you're dead regardless of a parachute! Now imagine that there are 60-200 people to consider, the vast majority of which don't know how to put on or operate a parachute. If the plane is going down, which normally happens quickly, you're not going to have time to get one person out safely, much less dozens of uneducated people. A life jacket doesn't require knowledge, which is why even babies have them! So if the plane manages to land on water, with survivors, those people can float until help arrives (see: Hudson River plane rescue).

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This is an excellent question. It has been on my mind a lot lately, because I've never had a healthy relationship. That doesn't mean I'm clueless, but definitely inexperienced. At any rate, I do a lot of reading, listening to others, observing others, and critical thinking about these things, and it appears that the number one priority is mutual respect. To be much more specific, here is what I believe in my heart a healthy relationship would entail:

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- Friendship first. If you're not willing to be a genuine friend to each other, with no ulterior motives, you really have no business being lovers or life partners.
- Open and empathic communication is vital. Don't make assumptions. Give and receive honesty calmly. Listen with the intention of caring, not correcting. Be available within reason, be rational, and be considerate.
- There must be CLEAR and ABSOLUTE acknowledgement of consent in all things. We are people, not property. Period.
- Boundaries are allowed, encouraged, and enforced without negative consequences.
- No scapegoating, superiority complexes, or accusations based on assumptions.
- Remember that doing something for someone or offering provision does not give you any right to control them.
- Bad days are inevitable, but try not to go to bed angry. At the very least, attempt to resolve any misunderstandings. If the end result is still anger, strive to get adequate sleep and start over tomorrow.
- It doesn't matter who makes more money or who is more successful. It's a partnership, not a competition.
- Nobody likes being micromanaged. Nobody.
- Decisions that affect both parties should be addressed and executed as a team.
- Everyone should be free to feel the full range of emotion without judgment, but it's important to remain self-aware and keep your actions in check. Ex. - It's ok to feel angry. It's not ok to scream and throw things because you're angry.
- Take responsibility for your words and actions. If you said it or did it, you own it. Lying, blaming, sabotaging, and manipulating is for sociopaths.
- No one is right and good all the time, including you. Accept it. Learn something from it.
- As a general rule, it's best to think before you speak.
- If both are humble and willing, almost anything can be talked out.

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A healthy couple can be equal companions without losing themselves in the process. It's not 50/50 and you're not a half. You are two already-complete people who are making a conscious decision to share two already-complete lives with each other.

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In summary: respect, respect, and more respect. It's the golden ticket. Thank you for asking this question.

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