What would be the most useless superpower?
X-ray vision lol
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Are you still awake Kelli?
I am.
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Has religion been detremental to your progress as a person?
Yes, it was a very large part of the problem. I have come a long way since then, but still have much to work on. I’m doing my best to educate myself and make changes as I learn.
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Are you a religious kind of person?
I used to be extremely religious. The first 30 years of my life revolved around evangelical Christianity. I devoted my life to God. The result was years of trauma. I left the church and I am a better human for it, but the wounds remain. I started counseling this year to attempt to deal with it and other issues.
(Sorry I keep deleting and reanswering. I’m correcting typos. 😂)
(Sorry I keep deleting and reanswering. I’m correcting typos. 😂)
Do you have a life purpose? If so what is it?
I don’t know what my purpose is. I had goals, and still do in some sense, but my circumstances are such that my existence feels like a mistake. I dwell in constant pain and physical limitations in a world I don’t belong in. I’ve felt this way since childhood and still don’t see the point. I don’t have the answer. I only know what hasn’t been the answer so far.
Do you think that dying for people who have been sick all their lives would be easier because they're used to it?
No. People with chronic illnesses had plans for their life just like everyone else. If anything, there is more to grieve about because they didn’t have as much opportunity to live as normal people. At the end of my life I’ll probably look forward to not being in pain anymore but I’ll still be sad that I had not been physically able to accomplish most of my life goals.
If you had the choice, would you choose to not be reborn again after this life or would you rather be reborn again somewhere?
I honestly don’t know. I guess it depends on what the circumstances would be, whether or not I’m sick, etc. My choice would be based on conditions, so I suppose the answer is no.
Do you think that porn gives people the wrong idea of what sex, intimacy and love are really all about?
Who was your hero in childhood? Why?
My grandmothers are the only ones who ever defended me. They didn’t have the means to take over the situation, but they both argued with their own kids at least once about neglecting my condition.
Ever wear sneakers and no socks?
I have. Is there any significance to this?
Zodiac sign?
Aries
But I’m an introvert.
But I’m an introvert.
Do you feel like your life has gone by quickly so far?
I don’t. I feel like it has dragged on too long. I’m tired.
Would you like to remarry sometime in the future?
I would consider a companion, perhaps, but I don’t see marriage happening. I’m very sick, and it would take an incredibly patient, kind, and reasonable man to commit to a life that others would view as outside the realm of normal. I don’t know that I’ve ever met such a man myself, although he may exist. My safety is priority #1, even if that means being alone. Of course, I’ll never throw myself at just anyone who makes those claims. I learned that lesson young. I have standards now that I must adhere to as a middle-aged woman with disabilities. At any rate, I am open to suggestions on achieving an acceptable balance between independence and companionship.
What is the secret of happy relationship?
Compassionate communication, patience, transparency, friendship, independence, and mutual respect.
Thanks for your divorce explanation. I appreciate your honesty and hope your life improves through to the end :)
Well thank you, I appreciate that. I normally don’t answer the divorce question, but today was the day I decided to unload it all. I will cautiously state that I feel better after talking about it. Thanks.
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Why did you get divorced?
I was very young and stupid and not forward-thinking. I had no self-worth and thought it was my lot in life to be a wife to whoever would have me. I was kicked out of my house for being chronically ill and my parents paid him to move the two of us into a slum apartment together. We were roommates. I was sick and couldn’t keep a job, and terrified of homelessness, so I married a pathological lying cheating life-threatening sociopath who claimed to love me and promised to take care of me. Instead he tried to destroy me in every way including committing financial fraud, abandoning our debts, turned my church against me via projection (claiming I was the one abusing him), banned me from friends and family, took away my car (it wasn’t his and I eventually took it back), refused to call an ambulance when I asked for one, accused me of faking episodes and called me stupid, threw things at me, couldn’t keep a job because of fighting his bosses, refused to shower or wash his hands, was such a slob he was evicted from the apartment (after I left), refused any blame for anything including his own irresponsible decisions, his fits of rage, his obesity, and his diabetes, had internet addictions including a girlfriend who he later got pregnant, stalked and threatened me after we separated, and to this day refuses to take any blame. I won the lawsuit in a matter of 60 seconds, but since he was unemployed, he never paid a dime.
All my life I’ve walked through hell, yet I’ve survived. Divorce court was the most freeing day of my life. Thanks.
All my life I’ve walked through hell, yet I’ve survived. Divorce court was the most freeing day of my life. Thanks.
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Have you ever snuck out of your home?
I’m in my 40s and answer to no one. I’ll go wherever I want.
When I was a kid, no, I didn’t do that.
When I was a kid, no, I didn’t do that.
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I just wanted to talk to you, but if you don't want to then ok)
If I’ve never met you, I’m not going to do private messaging. People are welcome to talk to me on my Twitter or Instagram posts. 😊 Thanks for reaching out.
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What's the most comfortable outfit to chill in
Probably fleece or silk. Something soft.
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What do you use then
Ask, Instagram, Twitter @ugottafriend. Private messages will be ignored or blocked. Instagram is the most friendly. Twitter is unfiltered and sometimes brutal, so beware.
My FB is not open to friend requests.
My FB is not open to friend requests.
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You overestimate me. There is no outfit of the day, just fuzzy pajamas. 😂
Cold haha, it was ok ig Do you use Snapchat?
I don’t have snapchat.
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That’s not a question. 😑
How are you today
I cooked, washed dishes, and now I’m sitting on the couch catching my breath. How is your day going?
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