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Belle, my bf is really wrapped up in 1 of these multi-level marketing organizations. Lately, so many of our "dates" are going to functions. I have no interest, but he says it's a big part of his life & wants me to be a part of it. Tried telling him nicely, but not sure what I should do now or end it

By "multi-level marketing organization" you mean pyramid scheme?
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Is an apology in order or should I let it rock? He wasn't as sensitive as I would have liked him to be but calling, screaming after drinking was horrible timing. Still appears like that incident shouldnt overshadow the bigger circumstance

Apologize.
So, you agreed to speak after holidays. You called him during holidays and went off. Could he have been more sensitive? Perhaps. But him not being sensitive doesn't give you the right to flip out.
It shouldn't overshadow. But you don't get to brush that off as nothing. And it explains A LOT about why he hasn't bothered to call.
Just for everyone reading, the questions are profoundly easier for me to offer help with if you're upfront about how you screwed up. Help me help you. :-)
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I want to end things with a guy I'm dating we stopped talking before and I kind of just fell off the map. He told me when we reconnected that it bothered him. I want to end things again because I feel us going nowhere. Am I obligated to tell him I'm not done or can I just quietly disappear?

Tell him.
You don't do that to people. You don't want to deal, woman up and say that. I'm so unclear where people get the idea that just disappearing on people is okay.
Unless you're being abused or profoundly disrespected, you tell someone when you're out. You don't have to communicate after that.
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Wrote in a while ago about miscarriage around xmas. Told guy and we agreed to tlk about tings n the coming weeks aftr holidays. Fast4wrd to nye, no communication about it. Called him livid, and he flips script on me bcuz i was out drinking. Since then tings fallen completely off, not sure what 2 do

If you want to talk about it, call.
I'm confused tho. If you agreed to talk about it "after the holidays", then why were you expecting him to talk about it by NYE. It's still considered "the holidays".
Calling people and screaming not never ever is going to get you what you ultimately want. It's a release in the moment, but it only makes bad situations worse. NO ONE likes to be spoken to disrespectfully. And if you were/ had been actually out drinking when you called, then yeah, I completely get what he's mad about.
The timing, and screaming, and drunk is A LOT. No one wants to deal with that.
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Dated a guy for 7 mths and chemistry etc. was amazin. I ended it because altho we were exclusive he wasn't trying to be bf and gf. He's now reaching back out (5 mths later) sayin he realizes he had a good thing and wants to try again. Why didn't he realize it then and am I playin myself if i go back

No. But make him start over from the beginning. He doesn't get to show up and pick up where things left off.
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my mil tells family negative things that aren't true but in private wants a relationship I've elected to be cordial but she says that's disrespectful what do I do

Be cordial and have your husband deal with her about lying to the family.
She can't have it both ways or all her way. To be shady and then complain you're disrespectful isn't going to fly. Sounds like she just wants some drama with you. Don't give it to her.
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dating a musician he gave me a mini lesson. I recorded about 30 seconds of him talking. I enjoyed it occasionally. I showed him and he got upset. compared it to naked pictures and thought it could be accidentally uploaded, demanded I erase it. its no secret we are dating. was I wrong

You recorded him without him knowing he was being recorded?
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Met a group of childhood frnds in college. We became really close. One of their childhood besties stopped talking to them and now he's returned. Since then, no one calls me to hang out or do anything anymore. It's the three amigos. I feel hurt. How should I address being replaced?

Speak up about feeling left out.
I find in situations like this, there are two vastly different sides to the story.
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She's grown, but she's my sister. Assuming grown means post 18 or post 21. yes.

Sister or not, she is grown.
She doesn't need you to dictate how she lives to her. She will learn. She asks your for help, give it. She wants to be petty, let her be.
If you're overly concerned, ask her if you can speak freely and state your piece. IF she agrees, say what you feel. You get one shot. After that, you let her bang.
You can't fix anyone's SELF esteem for them. It's called SELF esteem.
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I have a friend that is in a new "relationship" and all she talk about is her bf. Some days it's cool to hear but others it's just annoying. I will wake up to texts from her about her bf. No good morning or anything. How do I let her know that IDC without offending? She's sensitive.

Tell her how you feel. You're not obligated to walk on eggshells with people who are being obnoxious because they are "sensitive".
Don't ignore your own ongoing feelings to appease someone else's "sensitivity".
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I have a friend who suddenly stopped speaking with me. Every time I message him, he gives me one word answers and is very cold. He indirectly talk about me on social media. How do i deal with this without going all the way off?

Stop calling/following him.
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A relative of mine is heading down a bad path with men. I fear that she does not think she's worthy of 'answers' therefore she doesnt ask questions when concerns come up. How do I convince her to end this ordeal with this man? She's currently having a subliminal IG battle w/ another woman over him

Is she grown?
If so, let her be grown.
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Re: FWB sit....I shouldn't even have said FWB, we basically just used to make-out & cuddle, no sex. She knew about it, every1 knew about it. Nothing that I know of happened b4 she flipped, at least not on my end. He's mad at her because we're tight as hell. But he's conflicted. I'm keeping my distan

Keeping distance is smart.
He's got to be the one to decide.
And SOMETHING happened. You may just not know of it.
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Leave or wait until things progress cont. we are more than "friends" as we have unprotd sex he acknowledges that. do I leave it alone if I'm not getting what I want? He says I'm rushing it and I should just let it flow naturally... it's been 3 months... am I moving too fast?

Hon, you're having unprotected sex AFTER 3 MONTHS with a man who is not committed to you. WHY??
One of the major reasons he doesn't want to commit is to keep the option of dating/sex with others on the table. You can't keep having sex with him unprotected.
3 months is fast. VERY. But if he's comfortable enough to go without a condom, then he should be comfortable enough to commit.
Bail, hon. This situation is no good for you.
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Met a guy a couple months ago. Both like each other. Broke up. Recently tried to rekindle but we're still in the same place why we broke up: He can't commit right now, wants me to around until he can. IMO why wait? We are already deeply involved and physical. Let it go or wait until things progress?

Let it go. He showed back up offering nothing. Why entertain him? Or wait?
His thinking is the opp of yours: you're physical and deeply involved without a commitment, so why go the extra step when he gets everything and have no obligations?
This is all laid out in "Don't Waste Your Pretty".!
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Had a brief FWB situation w/ 1 of my close guys friends a few years ago. It barely lasted a month. We got over it & are still close friends. I'm engaged. He's in an r/ship w/ some1 I consider(ed) a friend. All of a sudden she doesn't like me & doesn't want my guy friend & I to be friends. What gives

Define "all of the sudden". What happened right before she flipped?
Did she know you two had sex? Maybe he said something about you that rubbed her the wrong way? Maybe she had a conversation with someone who told her that she shouldn't be cool with this arrangement?
Anyway, he has to deal with it. It's HIS GF.
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Op 29: Reading the responses to the Q OTD: slightly ironic everyone thinks my mom and I are Caribbean (we aren't)... My bf is of Caribbean descent and she hate me dating men from the islands

Consider the readership. My home base is BK, which has the largest population of Caribbean folk outside of the Caribbean. And my husband is Jamaican.
I have a larger than perhaps average Caribbean readership (which is fine and great).
There's also a widely circulating rumor that I'm Haitian, so...
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Pregnant fiance: He just said we should till I get checked by the doctor which I'm doing this week. The baby is my fiancé's. I've been faithful to him for 9 years.

Ok. Just checking. I mean... Consider the forum.
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In an effort to openly communicate with BF, I gently told him that I am still working on trusting him completely. He cheated two years ago, and there was another year he couldn't get himself together. We're good now but he doesn't want 2 plan 4 a future yet b/c he says I'm not "all in" :(

I'm unclear why you would plan for a future with someone you don't completely trust.
I'm with him on this one. Sorry.
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I want to have a kids free wedding and reception but have been warned by friends I will offend and possibly lose friends if they can't bring their kids especially if I ask anyone with kids to bein the wedding. What is your thought here? Is planning a kids free weddinf offensive and In bad taste?

Ask a wedding planner, babes. :-)
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I think I'm pregnant with my fiance's baby. I told him and also told him I don't want to keep it. We are in no way ready for a baby and my family would shun me. I'm scared that he'll resent me for aborting and not want to get married. Help me!

You think you're pregnant or you think it's his, as in it could be someone else's?
If you think you're pregnant, why have you not been tested/taken a test so you KNOW.
When you told him you didn't want to have it, what did he say?
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