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At bfs fam house and I pull out my phone and start playing on it my bfs aunt says I'm being anti social because I'm not talking and playing on my phone. We're my actions rude? I'm cordial and respectful laugh a bit but not overly talkative around them

Yeah. No. Pulling out the phone is not ok.
Try harder to interact. You're visiting someone's house.
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I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago, I like another girl she likes me too but I'm worried that it will seem like I am jumping into something new too soon. should I wait for a few weeks or just take her on a date now?

You're not committed to go on a date. Date her. Don't jump into a relationship with her.
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Havent spoke to ex (also ex-best friend) in 1yr+. I miss him dearly, reached out on FB, chat for a few then mention we should catch up. He says he still has my # & would call tmrw (this was Sunday). Still no call. He has gf now. Wonder if this has to do w/ him saying he would call but not doing so?

He doesn't need to call his ex if he's in a relationship. Good for him for respecting his situation.
And yeah, that probably has something to do with why you haven't heard from him. Or at the very least, it should.
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op: yes i heard him belle. I WAS dating him. I appreciate him being honest as well. im doing all I can to not waste my pretty, some days are better than others

Smart. It'll hurt less in the long run. Sorry it does now.
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should I find it commendable that man i was dating expressed his fear of commitment. my sis told me I should bw happy, i.figured he was being an adult

Commendable? Huh?
Nice that he was honest. But it doesn't get bonus points. And did you hear what he said? That's a red flag. He all but told you a commitment isn't happening anytime soon, is ever.
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I'll say to her when she asks: well basically I like xyz like I said before..." And then she'll say yes I remember u said thst and then she'll do it but thrn get lazy again

Stop calling her "lazy". That ain't helping.
She probably doesn't like it and is doing it to please you. And I'll also guess there's some resentment. Curious, what are you doing in that area to please her. Have you asked what she likes?
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My ex and I have a 5 year old. He shared he is getting married and I'm hurt bc we were sleeping togeter get up until 6 months ago. He wants me to meet his fiance and I said hell no. No telling what I might say. Do you suggest I hold off on meeting until I've cleared my head or do I for our child sai

Hold off.
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I like doing fun things solo & w/ girl friends (rock climbing, ice skting, traveling) but often get down thinking how much more fun/cute it would be to do it with a boyfriend, which I don't have. Don't want to put fun on hold, but want bf to create fun exp's w/. How do I fight that feeling?

Do fun things, be on the look out for cuties. These things can be done at the same time.
Nothing wrong with wanting a BF.
That said, don't put down your friends. It's a different experience doing things with a dude. But just to totally shade the people who are there with you now as being less is no bueno.
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Hey Belle! I'm giddy over this new guy and I want to be able to share that with my girlfriends, but I feel like they take every measure to change the subject when I do. I spend a lot of time listening to them talk (read complain) about their dating lives. Do I have to keep hush when mine is going we

No.
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Is it right that my girlfriend goes out wearing short skirts and I am happy for her to do so? People say she shouldn't do that but I think it's her decision so I ignore those people. She's got legs and she wants to show them off.

She's a partner, not property.
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What do you think a man means that you shouldn't pursue things together cause he doesn't want to "crash and burn" with you?

He thinks you'll fail at whatever it is you're planning to do. You sure you want to date him?
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I'm crushing on this guy I met 2 months ago. We connected via soci. media, exchngd a few msgs&then nothing. 2 months l8r. I msg'd him a few days ago b/c he popped up in an unexpected place. Again, msg for a sec&then nothing. I feel like a HS girl w/ this crushing. 2 giddy. How can I be more chill?

he's not interested, hon. Hence the "and then nothing."
Sorry.
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You're so right about dating multiples, dated guy for 6 months & it seems things fizzled. Now to start again in winter, dudes have gone into hibernation/booed up. Hard to find decent men online (for me) the guys I encounter found regular things aren't 4me & nyc events have slowed down. Any advice?

Events have slowed, but have not stopped. Events also aren't the only places to meet people. Continue to go out and see who is out when you are. Cutie run on folks you find attractive/interesting.
Also, warmer days are coming.
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B, I recently talked 2 my bff to catch ^ b/c I noticed she hadn't been calling. During convo she mentions tht she hasn't been calling me or R other frnd as much b/c me & other frnd have bf's. I was shocked. She also started being cynical about my bf & I not meeting each others families yet. What TF?

The not calling is a preemptive move to avoid rejection.
The snarking on you meeting Bfs family is jealousy.
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Jesus I can't believe I just sent that. Demetria The threesome response I wish not to have it public please.

I'll respect your wishes. But you need to tell your husband what you told me. There's a HUGE disconnect in your marriage. And if that's how you feel, he needs to know
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You super smart, Demetria. Yep, euphemism for domestic violence. The problem is that we are in business situations, meetings and people introducing me 2 him. Not sure what to say/do in those contexts.Thanks!

Be polite and succinct.
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Belle, when we first broke up my ex wanted to know if I ever saw us being friends again. I said maybe in the future when I've moved on etc. I stopped contact between us & he understood why. Now a year later, I do still miss him as a friend- how does one reconnect? not "Hey I don't hate you anymore?"

Call him and say "hi". Open the door for communication.
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What do you make of Phylicia Rashad's response to the allegations that Bill Cosby is a serial rapist?

She did a follow up interview saying she never said, "forget those women". And that she would never say something like that as a woman.
I'm willing to give her the benefit of the doubt on that. She's had a long career without a major misstep such as this.
Re: her standing by him/focusing on legacy. I didn't really expect anything else if she chose to speak, as her legacy is closely tied to hers. I am surprised she chose to. But she's got a new project and is making the rounds, so I guess it was bound to come up.
I found it hilarious the way she referenced "The Culture." It's very Kanye.
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I'm always attracted to his guys out of my league. How can I change that?

step your game up so you're in the league. It's hard to date when you feel like you're settling because you can't get what/who you really want.
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