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I've always been moody but started a more demanding position, and my "me time" has become more scarce. Hubs noticed and planned a weekend getaway for the two of us. 5 years married, 7 years together and he still doesn't get "me time" isn't "us" time, grateful but I need time away. Am I being a brat?

Stop. Go with hubs. Enjoy the weekend and have fun. You can have "me time" when you get back.
Have a talk with hubs when you get back and let him know you need some alone time. Then go have some.

What do you do when you love a guy and want to be with him, but he doesn't want to rush getting into a relationship? I don't want anybody else but him, and I don't want to wait on officially being in a relationship

You can't force him. He told you he's not there. Respect that. And LISTEN.
You have no choice but to wait or bounce.
I'm not a fan of wasting pretty waiting. Even if you bounce, if he wants you he'll come find you when /if he's ready. But if you want to wait him out, so be it.
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My gf & I were getting pretty serious. She suggested maybe we should move in together before we get engaged. I told her absolutely not. My parents are both leaders in our church & they would not accept this arrangement. She said to grow up & make my own decisions. We haven't spoken since. I'm hurt.

You should have taken responsibility for telling her "no" rather than blaming your parents. A simple "I don't believe in that" would have solved this. To cite your parents sounds like you're passing the buck and can't make your own decisions.
That's what she reacted to, and she was being a bit bratty in how she said it. There were other ways to make the point without being insulting.
You need to convey that you are hurt and why AND how it's acceptable to speak to you-- or not. The insults need to be nipped in the bud and QUICK.
Oh, and pick up the phone and call her. This wait me out/silent treatment ish when you're discussing an engagement is unnecessary game playing.

I have been dating a guy for a month and we have gotten pretty serious pretty fast. He is going to a his company gala next week and didn't invite me. Should i be offended?

No. You're not his girlfriend and it's only been a month.

Belle; guy I like birthday is today! He didn't get me a card but we talk everyday! I didn't text or call him today but it's cause my feelings were hurt on my bday! Should I reach out? (He texted me today about his birthda and I didn't respond)!!

Either speak up about how you felt or let it go.
This playing tit for tat is going to get you deaded quick.

http://thesunk.com/2013/12/best-head-hes-ever-had-compliment-turn-off.html# She's is the best head he ever had, so he said, they R not together, shez annoyed & asking why. I think Sunk's answr 2 him partially correct Shut up & enjoy But also F she all that then Y are they not a couple? Yr thoughts?

I don't read links on askfm. Based on your description of the scenario, the answer is simple.
It takes more than good sex to make a man commit. You can have the best O-game ever in life, and he'll have sex with you all day, bug if you don't meet his specific quals for a GF-- which she doesn't-- be won't commit. Plus he doesn't need to here. He gets great O without it and can still look for a woman he might want to claim.

I am usually up late, but I do not want to give the wrong impression when the guy I like text after 10p. should I ignore the messages until the morning?

Yes. Hit him in the morning and tell him "just saw this. I usually wind down around 10."
If he wants to be in touch, he'll hit you earlier in the evening. This isn't asking a lot.

Belle I like him! I do not want to come off as doing to much though. He sends gm text but then disappears through out the day and I always call or text but I feel I am pressing. Am I doing to much?

Yes.

Good things come to those who wait?!?! What an ass. That one was kind of obvious, but what are some of the other things you have heard quite often that we should be on alert?

Anytime words don't match actions it's worth noting.
No one's going to be perfect, but if he consistently says one thing and does another, it's a big red flag.
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How can I get my man to communicate some of his needs to me? Sometimes he feels a certain way or feels I should know to do x,y,z but if he does not tell me how he feels or what he wants I don't really know!! HELP! loool

Explain to him that you're both frustrated by the communication. Point out what you've noticed. Tell him that even he thinks you should know, you can't if he doesn't tell you so you need him to speak up. You want him to be happy and you want to be happy. Ask him what he thinks.
Hopefully, he'll listen. If not, you're back to guessing games and you're both frustrated.

Is it a good idea to give someone you are not exclusively dating a birthday or holiday gift?

You can. It is the holidays.

Dating someone I really like for 3 months, is $50 too much to spend on Christmas gift? Not giving a gift to expect one in return or expect anything for that matter, I just know it's something he'll love

is that considered expensive for your budget?

As long as we are talking about exes, did you ever run into that raggedy two-timing footballer after college?

yes. at a mall.
i was actually there with his cousin, who i was dating. I had NO IDEA they were related. ha!!

U we're going to move across country for a guy that wasn't your boyfriend? So y would u expect that he would ask u to move with him if y'all wrreent even together? I'm genuinely interested in how that would've worked.

Yes. Give up everything.
I was 24 and in my "titles don't matter as long as we're together because I love you". I was head over heels for the first time and thinking only with my heart. You couldn't convince me then that he didn't feel the same way.
It would have been an insane decision. And it was an insane thought.
You do realize all of this is in my book, A Belle in Brooklyn? No revelations here.
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Most women are not leaving a husband over something like (inappropriate) texting another woman (no sex contact happened) so without condoning it how do u get the guy to know its unacceptable at the same time u both know you r not leaving over it,

Let him know it's not ok and it puts your trust in him and relationship in jeopardy (say it whether it's true or not.) That or raise hell. Maybe he'll stop, maybe he won't.
This is one of those you can't change other people unless they want to change things.

You mentioned that you still talk to your ex Greg..was this after years of not speaking? How did you reconcile to being cool?

we didn't speak for about a year. something crazy happened. didn't think anyone would get it. called and told him. we've been cool ever since.
he's technically not my ex. we were never official.

Belle tacky to bring flats to a first date? Heels arent my thing struggle walker and i wanna wear to date but wanna switch out into heels or do i grin and bear it?

Grin and bear it or wear flats from jump.
Unless the activity requires a shoe change, keep the shoes on that you arrived in until the date is over.

My ex broke up with me a year ago over something trivial. So when he tried to get back with me I did not let him back in easily and he essence wound up putting in work to win me back for close to a year but we never officially cemented things as us being back official again so what should we have do

Ask him what's up. Tell him the gist of what you've said here. We've never officially cemented things. I want is to be in an actual relationship.

I've started dating a guy I met on Facebook we live in same area so I met him on that basis, I wouldn't have done otherwise. I like him but I really hate the way we met, Facebook relationships just makes me cringe and I'm not sure how I'll be able to tell my mom how we met. She'll laugh.

So you met a guy you like and your biggest concern is what your mom will say about how your met?
If that's the case, don't tell her. Give an evasive "mutual friends" and leave it at that.
There's nothing wrong with meeting someone on FB.
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