Stephen Ind

It seems odd to think that you are not sure if you have lied. To lie one must go against one's conscience. One can be mistaken about something but that is not a lie, or give wrong information having forgotten what happened but that also is not a lie.

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So it would be good to be clear about that.

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Lying is a sin. So it is something to ask God for forgiveness for. You may have hurt someone by your lie and so it can be good to try to make up for the lie which one has told. So if you had spread a false rumor one might tell the truth so as to restore the person's good name. This might not be the best though as it might cause further damage. It is good in these matters to seek advice from someone who is wise and experienced in them. A good confessor is an excellent person to ask advice from in these matters.

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If you try to go to the person you have hurt by your lie but that person does not want to speak to you, that is something you have no control over. The person you are trying to reconcile with might be sinning by not wanting to speak to you but that is between them and God. You can rest secure in the knowledge that you have tried to make amends with them.

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I hope this helps.

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I found your question a little confusing in its wording.

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May God be with you. You are in my prayers, please pray for me.

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Heavens, thankfully no.

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Just to clarify again, I was not in prison but in jail. The distinction being those in prison are serving a sentence while the vast majority of people in jail are standing trial, so innocent until proven guilty.

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In jail the officers have much better control of the inmates than in prison where from what I understand inmates largely run the show.

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There was one occasion when I awoke feeling drugged and literally wiped a yellowish and bad smelling liquid from my anus, to be graphic. I had has a lot of diarrhea like for 2 months. This was something different. I mentioned it to the jail nursing staff but got little reaction.

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A few days before an inmate had put through a false medical request on my behalf saying virtually the same thing. That I awoke with a yellowish fluid coming out of my anus which smelt bad.

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On two other occasions I had like really weird half dazed dreams which involved sex in which I was in a half awake phase at a point. I remember in the one dream asking the person I was with like in a dazed state why my fingernails had plasters over them.

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Both these dreams related to two separate women with whom I had contact in jail. My lawyer in one case and a judge in another.

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On one occasion when I was in a cell alone. I awoke with the door to the cell opening. Normally I would sleep through anything. I had my back to the door and I looked over my shoulder to find two officers in a crouched position entering the cell. On seeing me they straightened up and asked me for my prisoner ID tag. It is very unusual for the officers to open the door outside of the set times. Very, very unusual from what more experienced inmates told me. This is like a major violation of procedure.

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On another occasion I am quite sure that an inmate sort of stroked by penis through the blanket while sleeping because I awoke feeling rather odd and he looked rather guilty.

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At one point I got a abscess on my buttock which I went to the nurses for. After the inspection and treatment a sergeant approached me looking very apprehensive and asked me if I did drugs. I told her no. She implied that there what appeared to be needle marks in my buttocks. She made out that I was in great danger and seemed quite in a panic. There was not much I could do if she seemed not able to do anything. This did cause me quite a great deal of trauma. I realized afterward that she might just have been messing with me psychologically.

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There was some sexual harassment and innuendo from the female prison officers. Especially when I was in a cell alone, some from me too, to my shame. An officer coming over the speaker telling me go take a shower. Once an officer doing an unscheduled walk of the cell block while I was showering - the showers are open to the cell block. She did an inspection of my cell and called me from the shower. The nurses got a bit friendly and overly worried about the abscess on my butt.

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Too much information.

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God bless!

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Oh, it is really simple. Tell the priest how long it was since your last confession, your age and your marital status to start with and tell him you are asking for forgiveness. Then list all your mortal sins by number (as close as you can or roughly, like, "I killed about 5 people a week for 30 years" - we hope not, but you get the idea. You should also tell the priest the type of sin, you don't have to go into detail, but like, murder, fornication, adultery, pornography, masturbation or whatever. You must have sorrow for these sins and ask him for forgiveness. Listen for the words "I absolve you of your sins" or "I absolve you from your sins" on occasion priests have not said these words to me. If that happens just stop the priest and say father please would you say "I absolve you from your sins." The priest will give you a penance which you should do. If you forget you must confess that next time but as I understand it your sins are forgiven. Remember if you forget anything, that does not matter, those sins are forgiven. If you remember them at any time confess them when you next go to Confession saying you forgot them in a previous Confession but you did not deliberately withhold them. You must confess all your mortal sins, if you withhold any, knowingly, then the Confession is not valid and you will have to repeat all the sins in another confession including the withholding of the sin.

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The priest is there to help you so you can always ask.

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Remember it is your right to have anonymous Confession behind the veil. Some priest nowadays assume that the penitent wants to sit around and chat about their sins but you can ask for Confession in the church and behind the veil.

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God bless you!

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I shall pray for you. Remember me in your prayers too please. :-)

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