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@Juliapricemusic asks, "What was the worst date of your life?"

I once was the date to the sister of a girl celebrating her 21st birthday party. It was a costume party with medieval dress. My date, her mother and I went to a party hire place and chose our costumes together. I did not have money with me and was too embarrassed to accept the offer of my date's mother to lend me money and asked to pick up the costume later.
Needless to say, I never did pick up the costume. Undaunted and trusting my very great creativity (on display here too) I set out in a rush to make a knight's costume - complete with real thin sheets of metal (waste from printing) and even got my mom to sew something to go under the "coat of armour." It was not really a success but unafraid I arrived, my trusty, makeshift wooden sword at my side, thinking all this not to big a deal. The party, however, was quite a big deal, of itself, and particularly for my date. She was from quite a wealthy English family and it was quite a big party.
A further incident might show how I completely routed the young damsel. During the party I hugged my date's brother - having mistaken him for a member of a church group I attended. Not even my crinkly, misshapen armor could hamper me from this blunder. Her brother's being "The Camel Man" for the cigarette brand at the time added to the farce. My date's reaction did make me pause a little for thought.
I can't recall any further invitations from that kindly girl.

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In reply to a anonymous question of mine someone asked: "What is wrong with pornography?"

StephenInd’s Profile PhotoStephen Ind
Just a personal thought on this question.
As a young boy pornography of the type of a single naked or partially naked women was very seductive to me. A woman by exposing herself sexually is telling a man a lie, that she is giving herself to him. No doubt it is naive to take this seriously but this lie is the source of the danger.
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Too much intrigued by your answers.... I want to ask why were you arrested? A person like you cant do anything wrong I suppose...

DebdyutiDevrat’s Profile Photo▪Creep▪
I have answered this before but the charges were 3 counts of aggravated assault against a police officer, 1 of resisting arrest and 1 of disturbing the peace. Please note that all the charges were dropped and no one got hurt, apart from me. :-)
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Why you answering and asking so few questions?

StephenInd’s Profile PhotoStephen Ind
Unfortunately I only have internet access for 45 minutes. In that time I tweet and answer tweets and DMs, answer and write emails and do Lumosity exercises and with the remaining time I am here on ask.fm. Hopefully I will get better at this and be more active here. Please know that all who I am in contact with are in my prayers.
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Question 2: Are you more emotional or rational?

Yikes, I am a bit of a mystery to myself. Quite often I don't think that I can gain certainty on even quite simple matters of life on earth and that the world is like a mirror of lies. I am not sure that this is rational at all. And I quite often suffer very strong emotions both of anger and of love. The only thing that gives me rest is the contemplation of God and of that which relates to him.

Since you live in South Africa I am tempted to ask -- do you see lots of racial inequalities in the area you live in?

I do see racial inequalities where I am living. Many black people are poor and a contributing factor to this is the poor education which blacks received under apartheid and poorer paid jobs blacks were limited too under apartheid.
Sadly education for the poor does not seem to have improved that much.

Question 1: Do you care if people talk badly about you? Why or why not?

Unfortunately it can trouble me a great deal what people think about me. Quite often this concern is based on a concern for my physical welfare. Very shallow I know.
I do try to think of the example of the Virgin Mary who when she was found to be pregnant made no attempt to defend herself towards Joseph. This is really a great example of trust in God. I wish I could be more like her. :-)

Let's play 20 questions. Full name? Date of Birth? Time of Birth? Place of Birth? Eye Color? Hair Color? Height? Virgin? Single or Taken? Favorite food? Favorite song? Favorite TV show? Favorite movie? Favorite app? Current city? School? Work? Name of BFF? Best mistake? Pap?

Full name: Stephen de Villiers Ind
Date of birth: 29 April 1971
Time of birth: The early hours of the morning, I think.
Place of birth: Johannesburg, South Africa
Eye color: Brown and green
Hair color: Black and grey
Height: 6'3"
Virgin: Yes
Single or Taken: Not looking for a relationship.
Favorite food: Lasagna
Favorite song: I have been thinking of Simon and Garfunkel's "Boxer" quite a bit recently.
Favorite TV show: None.
Favorite movie: Amelie, if any.
Favorite app: Really like the idea of Uber.
Current city: Margate, South Africa.
School: University of the Witwatersrand
Work: Unemployed
Name of BFF: Jace, an online friend.
Best mistake: Getting arrested in the States and spending a year and a half in jail till the charges were dismissed.
PAP: https://twitter.com/StephenInd/status/568184043570913281 that is the most recent I have. My hair and beard are longer now.

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This would be complicated, what if ur religion isn't true? What u gonna say?

I am not sure that I understand your question but if my religion were not true I would abandon it and seek the true religion, the religion which tells us the truth about God, the religion which God has established through his love.

Question 1: How do you deal with very needy people?

Initially when I read this I thought you were asking about emotionally needy people only but later did I realized that you might be asking about those who are in material need. So I will answer both possibilities.
To the emotionally needy I try to be a friend but I also try guard myself from giving so much of myself that I cause myself harm. I have also found that one must be careful of not seeing yourself as the solution to the person's problems. The person who will truly meet the emotional needs of the needy is God and so I try to help the needy person to see how much God loves them.
I must take particular care as I find that I can be quite emotionally needy.
As to those who are in financial need. I do not give money at all as I am living off the charity of my parents. I am willing to share a meal with the poor and I do try to offer them friendship. I am a little cautious of even offering friendship as I find that my emotional state can quite easily be disturbed. It is lamentable, but understandable, that often the poor resort to lying try to improve their lot. I find dealing with lies very confusing.

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Do you ever have recurring silly dreams that you remember when you wake and giggle about the absurdity of it all?

vballnut26’s Profile PhotoAngel Feather
No, fortunately not. I was advised long ago by a priest on waking simply to push what ever dreams you had out of your mind. Very soon after that I stopped recalling what I had dreamt. Unfortunately, though, since my time in jail my sleep is particularly disturbed and I awake with some anxiety and have odd dreams. Perhaps I should simply go back to the advice I was given years ago. Prayers in this regard will be greatly appreciated. :-)

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