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It gives you the means to cope easier than the average person should life become tough once again. It can if it doesn’t damage them too much. Whatever you survive in youth and adulthood leaves some lessons for you to learn and also makes the smaller stuff seem easier to overcome, and it builds confidence. Hardship doesn’t build character, but it reveals what character is there. That’s why some people become really strong through hardship, and others become terrible people that abuse others. It all has to do with their pre-existing character. I believe it can make you stronger. About a year ago, I went through a bad situation, and I still think about it, but I learned from that situation. It definitely makes you smarter, and I think it only becomes too much if you CAN'T learn from it. At that point, you're just getting hurt and nothing good comes from it. Hardship is one of the factors needed to become stronger, but you also need time to recover from that stress. It works in cycles. You push through a difficult situation, whether by your own choice or because you have no other option. Then you seek out a safer environment where you can lick your wounds and try to learn from what happened. Too much hardship is when you start taking damage that you won't be able to recover from. I think most people have a pretty good sense of when that's starting to happen to them, but the problem is you don't always get a chance to stop it. Everyone is different. Some people crumble. Some people thrive. The people who thrive in hardship have to obviously be tough, show a lot of grit, too much hardship is like someone close to you dying. With support it does. If you get close to the breaking point, then get the counseling you need, you'll come out stronger.
A body builder doesn't just max out every time without proper rest and nutrition so they don't hurt themselves. You shouldn't go through constant stress without having the time and resources to heal. I think in general for the average person yes hardship makes one more resilient. It becomes too much imo when something called learned helplessness develops. It's a psychological phenomenon that occurs when a person's situation seems so bleak and there seems to be no possible way out they essentially give up an example would be ppl in internment camps during the holocaust. Temporary hardship does but not systemic hardship. Systemic hardship sours an outlook long term leading to unnecessary negativity and further limits the environment of those people around the person. Hardship will test the mettle of a person. Which way your mettle sways will determine if it made you stronger or weaker. Some people can handle things and others can't.

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