#alone

It is a very complex and deeply sensitive issue that affects so many people in different ways. While it is important to acknowledge the pain and suffering that can lead someone to contemplate ending their life, it is equally crucial to provide resources and support for those who are struggling with mental health issues or other challenges. It breaks my heart to think of anyone feeling so hopeless or alone that they would consider taking such drastic action, It makes me upset why— do people never talk about the part of depression when you just don’t want anything anymore¿ Everybody talks about when it hurts like hell; when you cry, when you cut; when you take drugs when you break down. But no one ever talks about when you just lay down in your room with a hole inside of you that you don’t know how to fill and you don’t want to do anything even the things you usually like. So you just spend your day kinda waiting for it to end. And it's horrible cause you feel empty and guilty for that at the same time. Anyways, I hope you are kay and safe, incase needed an ear to listen - Iam here for you. 🌻

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Eating healthy is hard for me all the way around, as I already have so many restrictions. 😅 But, what I’ve been trying to do lately, is not cave into late night snacking too much. And just trying to squeeze in healthy/semi healthy foods whenever I can. I also try to not allow myself to get too hungry, cause that doesn’t help with cravings, or with deciding what to eat. That’s when it gets hard to say “I’m gonna make healthy choices” and turns into “What’s the quickest thing I can find to satisfy this feeling?”

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What I do most of the time to help with cravings is sugar free chewing gum. It takes that feeling away for me, and tricks my brain into feeling satisfied (temporarily). But it does seem to curb my cravings more often than not. If that doesn’t work though, I try drinking a tall glass of water. Might sound weird, but sometimes your body can mistake thirst/dehydration for being hungry, so I’ll drink the whole glass of water, then wait 10-20 minutes. It doesn’t always work, but sometimes, I find my cravings (especially for something salty like chips) either disappears completely, or is not nearly as intense anymore. 🤔

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And finally, I always try to find alternatives for my cravings. Like, if I’m craving sugar, things like fruit, sweet potatoes, oats, smoothies, yogurt, etc are good alternatives. And depending on where I’m at health wise, usually dictates which of those is safest for me to eat. 😄 When it comes to savory stuff, that’s a bit harder, as I can’t eat nuts, seeds, hummus, or even plain popcorn as is recommended (which is where the gum or drinking water can help for me personally). But I do find, that salads/fresh produce in general really helps too! And if I have some protein/cheese in a salad for example, that helps with the salt cravings as well! Or if I’m not able to do that, than even just protein alone, like rotisserie chicken, eggs, etc. Those are both satisfying and filling. I at least know I’m still getting some good nutrients, and I can feel content with my choices. 😋

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I live in a dorm and a pretty large one at that! I make sure that my own room, balcony and bathroom are cleaned, do my own laundry and dishes etc.

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Then for our shared living room and kitchen we have a cleaning schedule! For one or two weeks per semester, each one of us is responsible for taking out the trash and making sure that the dishwashers don't stay full. (Though the rest are incentivised to help taking out the dishes since we have a point system that is visible for everyone. So we can see who has helped out the least etc.).

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They also keep those spaces clean generally speaking, within reason! If you've made an absolute mess or have thrown a party, you alone are responsible to clean that up. I usually try to leave the kitchen as I found it after I've been cooking! Sometimes cleaning after me has taken so long so the food got cold 😅😂

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The effectiveness of an apology is deeply rooted in the complexities of human psychology and social dynamics. An apology can be powerful, but its success and impact depends on several factors (and no, it's not a guarantee of 'fixing everything').

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Most people are generally adept at sensing insincerity, so a heartfelt apology that genuinely conveys remorse and an understanding of the impact of one's actions is more likely to be effective. The way an apology is delivered, including body language, tone of voice, and eye contact, plays a significant role in how it is received.

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The nature and severity of the offense also matter. For minor offenses or misunderstandings, a simple apology might suffice. However, for more severe breaches of trust or harm, an apology alone may not be enough. Repetitive behavior that has previously been apologized for might make a single apology seem inadequate without accompanying changes.

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Relationship dynamics are another critical factor. In close relationships, apologies can be more impactful due to the existing emotional bond, but expectations for reparative actions are also higher. The history of interactions between the parties is important; if there is a pattern of unresolved conflicts, a single apology might not repair the relationship.

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The perception and willingness to forgive by the offended party also influence the outcome. Empathy and the ability to understand the apologizer's perspective can facilitate forgiveness. However, forgiveness is a complex emotional process, influenced by the offended party’s emotional state, personality, and past experiences.

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Cultural and social norms also play a role. Different cultures have varied norms regarding apologies and forgiveness. In some cultures, a verbal apology is highly valued, while in others, actions to make amends might be more important. Social expectations can dictate the appropriateness and sufficiency of an apology, and public versus private apologies can have different impacts.

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Reparative actions and long-term changes are often necessary to complement an apology. Actions demonstrating a commitment to change and making amends can significantly enhance the apology’s effectiveness. Consistency in showing remorse and taking corrective actions over time is critical for rebuilding trust.

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However, a simple "sorry" often falls short in fixing relationships broken by deep-seated trauma. Trauma fundamentally alters trust, emotional security and perceptions, creating wounds that an apology alone cannot heal. The psychological impact of trauma can lead to long-term emotional distress, making it difficult for the injured party to feel safe or valued again. Genuine remorse and consistent reparative actions are essential, but even these might not be enough if the trauma is profound. Healing requires time, patience, and often professional help, as rebuilding trust and emotional bonds is a gradual process.

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I suppose I possess a bit of both heroic and villainous qualities - just like most people do. There are times when I feel inspired by big-hearted heroes who go above and beyond to make positive change in the world, whether through activism or simply being kind to those around them. But there are also times when I resonate with characters who might be considered "villainous" cause they are willing to stand up for themselves or challenge harmful social norms. — Ultimately though, I don't think heroism or villainy is about one specific personality type or set of actions. It is more about how we show up in our everyday lives - with empathy, courage, and integrity even when things get tough. Sometimes that might mean seeking support from others; other times it might mean standing alone against injustice. But as long as we stay true to our values while also staying open-minded and compassionate towards others, we can all be both heroes and villains in our own unique ways. 🌻

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