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How do you relieve stress

thru my high school years I was a very stressful person to the point that I got sick very often.. but then I discovered meditation and then I met my boyfriend that also does meditation and this daily practice literally got rid of my anxiety and stress. I am so much more positive now :)

Have you ever rejected a guy, only to have him push the issue by asking “why?” and insisting that you just need to get to know him better?

Yep. They’d usually try and cause anxiety, primarily through threatening to send letters to my parents, and one guy randomly found my dad on Facebook and messaged him, basically throwing me under the bus and making as if I were unable to make my own decisions and all sorts of bizarre stuff. I think they were trying to air “dirty laundry” (aka my mental health), which is ridiculous as I’m so open with my parents, so their attempts were futile. Funnily enough, they were both men I had never met in person - it didn’t get to the first date stage, lmao.
Luckily, I’ve never had many issues. The last guy I was seeing still keeps tabs on me from afar, but at least he hasn’t said anything :)

Welche Art von Menschen scheinst du immer wieder anzuziehen und welche ziehen dich an?

Fruhlingspfutze’s Profile PhotoLebenstänzerin
Das ist für mich sehr schwierig zu beantworten, weil ich überwiegend mit Menschen aus dem Internet interagiere. Eine alltägliche und situative Dynamik im realen Leben fehlt dahingehend sehr oft und ich bin kein Mensch, der aktiv andere anspricht oder kennenlernt. Das passiert so gut wie nie. Nicht, weil vielleicht kein Interesse besteht, sondern weil mich soziale Situationen oftmals überfordern und Schwierigkeiten habe, Bekanntschaften zu vertiefen.
Die einzigen Personen, die ich - ohne sie vorher zu kennen - "angezogen" habe, waren:
- der 9 Jahre ältere Philosophie-Student von früher, der mich auf meine "ulkige" Back to the Future Uhr im Hörsaal angesprochen und der mir dann bis zur Bushaltestelle seine halbe Lebensgeschichte erzählt hatte (vermutlich bin ich ein sehr vertrauenswürdiger Mensch?). Diese Person "kenne" ich noch flüchtig. Er ist jetzt überwiegend als Photograph tätig und sehr intelligent und belesen. Er meinte ständig, er habe noch nie jemanden wie mich kennengelernt und dass er das Gefühl habe, mein Verstand sei wie eine Art "Labyrinth". Vermutlich gehöre ich zu der Kategorie Mensch, mit dem man über alles Mögliche reden kann; von Belanglosigkeiten bis hin zu eher "tiefgründigen" Dingen (Gott, ich hasse das Wort xd).
- die ältere Dame nachts am Bahnhof, die mir ein Gedicht von sich vorgetragen und mir ebenfalls viel von ihrem Leben berichtet hat, während ich etwas verschreckt und misstrauisch von ihr gewichen bin und sie daraufhin meinte, ich sei vermutlich ein sehr sensibler Mensch
- mein früherer Vorgesetzte, der in der Uni ein Seminar hatte, bei dem ich ziemlich redselig und bemüht darum war, aktiv zu sein, um meine zwei CP einzuheimsen. Nach dem Kurs hat er mir einfach ein Job-Angebot in Richtung Medizinisches Management/Unternehmensberatung zukommen lassen. Ich war selbst ein wenig erstaunt darüber, wie ich auf Menschen wirken kann, wenn ich meine Ängste und Unsicherheiten beiseite schiebe.
All diese Begegnungen sind aber nicht maßgeblich ein Beweis dafür, welche "Art" Mensch ich anziehe; es ist doch stets vom Kontext und der konkreten Situation abhängig.
Virtuell wiederum hat sich über die Jahre sehr sehr viel entwickelt, was verschiedene Charaktermerkmale und Ausprägungen anbelangt. Ich möchte nicht zwingend daran festhalten, nur "eine bestimmte Art" Mensch anzuziehen, aber häufig waren es Personen mit einem ähnlichen Humor, gleichen Interessen (Anime, Gaming, Musik ...) und übereinstimmenden Weltanschauungen. Oft waren es auch Personen, die psychisch ähnliche Vorerkrankungen wie ich haben (Anxiety, Depressionen, ED), aber darüber hinaus noch anders vorbelastet waren (DID, Narzissmus, BPD, Autismus etc.). Ich will nicht behaupten, dass ich dezidiert Anziehung auf Menschen dieser "Art" ausübe, aber ich beobachte es häufig. Vielleicht, weil ich empathisch und verständnisvoll bin, was das anbelangt. No idea.
Ich finde irgendwie nur Katzen anziehend. xd Kleiner Spaß am Rande, ich weiß es nicht.

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So I don’t understand why my mother feels anxious, depressed or a bit hopeless sometimes.

I think that your mother is grieving many losses at once. The loss of her family members and the loss of the physical strength she had a few years ago. Grief in itself is a very heavy feeling, it emotionally exhausts us. Along with this grief, she also fears for the future. She sees that your eldest sister hasn’t settled down yet and she has grown so weak already, would she even be there for all the rest of your siblings? Would she be physically and mentally able to get all of you settled down? This also is a cause of a lot of stress for a parent who feels like they’re physically declining because for most people, physical decline is a sign that they are losing control over their lives. If they are depending on others now, how are their kids gonna depend on them for their future? This thought scares them.
All this stress and anxiety, along with grief exhausts a person so they don’t feel doing anything that they once used to enjoy. You wouldn’t want to go and enjoy yourself if your mind is so burdened right?
One way to deal with this situation is help her open up about her concerns. But you can’t do that by asking her directly because she wouldn’t want to stress you guys out with her problems. So you could do that by creating a fake situation. Like say that you met a friend online jiski ammi is soo sick and she s so worried for her daughter’s future. She has x number of daughters and none of them are married. She has asked me for advice because she is my friend, what should I tell her mama? See what she says in response to that. Does she reveal her concerns too? Even if she doesn’t you can answer your own question by citing different ahadith. By saying ke you have read that Allah has promised that if something is written for something, even if the entire world is to gather against it, that person would get what’s destined for him. And tell her ke you know a woman on youtube who got married early in her life and thought she was so lucky but later own got divorced and now she recalls that her married life was a nightmare and she’d rather stay single. I know of a yutuber like that, that’s why I am mentioning this. So tell her that delay in marriage is because Allah prepares us for the life He has chosen for us. He has to equip us with all the skills we need to raise our children and live with the spouse that he has chosen for us.
Baaqi grief of losses, tell her to read a few verses of qur’an everyday for all the people she has lost. Qur’an reaches the departed souls and Allah eases their hereafter as a result of this. Talk to her about your khalas more often. Don’t let her suppress these feelings of grief. Sometimes crying it all out is the solution. My mother saw my nani breath her last, right infront of her. I thought there’s no way my mom would be able to recover from this trauma. At first it was very hard, she wouldn’t fall asleep no matter how hard she tried. But then I started talking more and more to her about our nani.

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Can you still feel lonely sometimes even if you have a social circle that you talk to frequently?

Yeah, totally. It’s easy to feel isolated when surrounded by people, and even more so when alone. With me, a lot of that is a confidence issue - assuming people don’t like me for who I am, when in reality, there’s probably no one I know that has an issue with me, it’s just me letting old issues and anxiety get the best of me.
What I’m trying to get at is, I’m sure the people around you do care about you and your well-being, and if you have the courage to open up or let down some walls, it won’t be as bad as you think. But some days you just need to isolate and have space from people, and that’s okay too. How you’re feeling is very normal, just don’t be too hard on yourself or assume the worst, as it likely isn’t true 🤗

This person was telling a friend that they've been prescribed meds for their chronic headaches by a psychiatrist. Those pills are used to treat anxiety disorders according to google. I didn't want to interfere in their convo but I'm curious now. Why would a doc prescribe those pills for headaches?

a lot of medications are multi-purpose, meaning they can help a variety of conditions. i used. to take a medication that's anti-anxiety but it's also considered an antihistamine.

I don’t enjoy clubbing- is that ok?

So i’m 19 and everyone is out clubbing. I just really don’t enjoy it. I suffer with bad anxiety and i can’t think of anything worse than a loud space, dancing, being approached by people. I’m more than happy to go for drinks or food but i hate how i’m made to feel not “normal” because i don’t go out out. Is it ok that i prefer to go out when it’s quieter and more chilled. I also have a history of sexual assault so i’m very wary on drunk men and spiking ect. I’d prefer to stay away.
I feel similarly. I’m in my 30s now and did my fair share of clubbing because I enjoy dancing. I’m also male, so I have less fear attached to things like that. But now I enjoy talking and having real conversations over drinks. It’s more enjoyable and safe and it feeds my soul more. You’re just ahead of your friends. Just don’t shame them for wanting to go out and invite them to more intimate gatherings when you can. You’re good.
Some of my friends used to look at me weirdly whenever I’d say that. I’m the same age as you and honestly I hate clubbing and loud crowded spaces just because I’m a quiet person. Nothing wrong with not liking any of that. My friends don’t bother asking me anymore just because they know I feel out of place since I don’t drink or smoke. I prefer chill quiet places too
I’m much older but when I was your age I always had much older friends and all the friends that I did have (Gf, etc) always wanted to club but I was much more mature and somehow passed that phase. You ain’t missing nothing. You do you and be proud that you are saving money by not participating.
Yep! I’m 24 and I’ve been clubbing once and hated it so much. It was hard when I turned 21 (I live in the US) and it was all my friends wanted to do, but you’re not alone and you should be able to find friends who want to do things that aren’t clubbing. And if your friends do enjoy clubbing you can obviously still be friends, maybe just suggest some other activities every once in a while and communicate your concerns if it seems like clubbing is all they want to do.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You are perfectly normal. I grew up in one of the "clubbing capitals of the world" so from age 18 to 21 I'd hit the club every week. I thought that's what I was "supposed" to be doing but never really liked it. Smelly, sweaty, drunk people all around you....also hated how girls degraded themselves for a cheap bottle.
I hate clubbing. I’m more of a sit at a bar type to eat and chat peacefully without loud music blaring directly in my delicate ears. I did try it a few times for a night-out with the girls due to a friends bad breakup but guys kept interrupting our time just dancing together. One even snuck behind me without warning and proceeded to rub himself. Like stranger please, you didn’t ask to dance and helped yourself to get handsy around my parts.

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Do you like going clubbing/partying or do you prefer small gatherings in a bar or at home?

LouisaRHale’s Profile PhotoLou
Small gatherings at home!
Clubs / pubs etc make me so uncomfortable and on edge.. just purely because of drunk people. It sets my anxiety off so badly!
I just can't be around people who are drunk...
Do you like going clubbingpartying or do you prefer small gatherings in a bar or
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Why do I feel like there is some sort of mental barrier between me and people hence I can't make a true connection with them? I look at their eyes and smile but it feels so distant.

KeepYourEyesPeeled’s Profile PhotoKeepYourEyesPeeled
Don't feel heard or listened to. Fake friends. What they talk about bores you.. not interested in small talk. Trauma in the way. Anxiety making you feel like people don't care.

"we only live for 70-90 years" only? That sounds extreme, tbh. I'm already feeling old, in fact I'm not so sure I'll even want to make it past 50s. Who wants to live in this world anyway, and things are only getting worse.

On average, humans live between 70 to 90 years. Of course there are those who die at birth and those who live to be 110. But on average, most folks will die between the age of 70 - 90.
We all have choices to make and problems to solve. In fact, if you reflect upon it, you will see that from the moment you wake up until you fall asleep, you are either making choices or solving problems. So one could argue that our satisfaction with life or dissatisfaction with life is directly related to the choices we make (good or bad) and the problems that we choose to solve or ignore. It is called "Free Will." Not everything is determined. In fact, I believe that other than birth and death, which are predetermined, most everything else that we experience in life, we have some control over. It is our ability to reason, solve problems and make decisions and choices that makes life worth living.
And those who make bad choices or refuse to take responsibility for their choices are probably unhappy with their life and suffer from depression, anxiety or both.

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What is your definition of peace?

Ummm A state of mind,
being able to live without fear anxiety and unwarranted trouble.
when you have the power to smile at everything, when you don’t get angry at any person, who does not works according to you. when you handle every situation without blaming others. it is the quality that comes from the power of accepting everything peace means going to bed happily and waking up the next day in the same positive mode...

Do you ever have any trouble sleeping before an important day? Are there any tricks you employ to be able to sleep when you feel nervous etc.? 😐🗓

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
I do . My anxiety is at it’s all time high . I try to smoke and maybe clam down but I feel like in those times smoking makes it kinda worse lol.
I just honesty deal with it and have a sleepless night . Lol
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What comforts you the most in life?

omishqa_abbasi’s Profile PhotoUmishqa Abbasi
I wouldn’t really say that there is anything that comforts me, rather calms me down. What can comfort me is just having a good friend talking to me and…comforting me. I am not a big person on sharing my feelings with people. Things that calm me down from stress or anxiety, however, is being all alone with some music and enjoying the outdoors or maybe painting, drawing or making something. It is relaxing for me.

Are u a shy person ? What is yr definition of shyness ? Do u like it in a person or not and why ?

brainyheart1’s Profile PhotoNot a care in the world
مش عارفه والله بس بحس عندي. Social anxiety كدا مش بحب التجمعات والافراح وكدا بحس نفسي comfy أكتر حوالين ناس اعرفهم او في الشات. والtexting مش بحب ابرر او ادافع عن نفسي عشان مش بحب اتكلم مع بشر كتير وكدا بفضل الصمت حتي حاليا بطلت اصحخ علي اي حد ماشي تمام وخلاص مش عارفه كدا shy ولا ايه بس لما بكون مثلا حواليا اتنين اعرفهم بكون عادي يعني بس دلوقتي حاسه ان ناس كتير بتfake الموضوع عشان تبان كيوت يعني بس مش بحب كدا فلا افضل ان الانسان ميكونش خجول اوي عشان بيضيع عليك فرص وتبقي عرضه لسوء الظن ومن قلقك مش بتبرر وبترهق نفسك وبس بس زمان مكنتش كدا مش عارفه ايه اللي حصل 🥲😂😂💔

anxiety ziada ho to kya karna chahye?

I read it somewhere and it did work for me, to some extent...
"Relax your shoulders.
Focus on your breathing rate.
Drink cold water.
Listen to calming music.
Do something to distract yourself (or something what makes you feel calm). It can include reading, writing, cooking and baking, painting, watching your favourite show, or whatever you love doing."
Anddddd use Pinterest (because that's what I do. :))

bht nervousness ho rhi hai 🌚

I am just back from my friend's Mehndi. A very close friend. So nikkah bhi aaj tha, so his father handed over all the bidh packets koi 300,400 ke beta ye sab ke agay rakh do.
So I was greeting random aunties, girls and uncles I've never met in my life and serving them with a packet with my one other friend.
And by God I suck at being courteous in such situations. My anxiety overtakes everything ( do teen larkion ke to samne Mai gya nae, I said my friend chor yaar bas ho gya unhe koi aur bant de ga) Lmao!
Goodbye!

А за Social anxiety.. много интелигентни хора го имаме това,не си сама :) В България има начини за успех и то легални. Не е нужно да се мразим и самоунижаваме, жалко е. Минал през 3 западноевропейски страни и shit-а е еднакъв навсякъде. Не питай старило,питай патило.Дори сега съм в чужбина и ти пиша

rngeorgiev439’s Profile PhotoRG
Бих приела "съвет", но твоето не е такова. Ти първо започна да нападаш и да съдиш. Виждам, че си по-възрастен и имаш опит, но това не е правилния начин да го покажеш. Вече си имам планове и съм решила да се преместя, така че ако обичаш остави ме намира.
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Do you really think that, the life in foreign country will be easier ?

rngeorgiev439’s Profile PhotoRG
No, no, no but that won't make me give up. I want to be successful, to earn lots of money and to be able to afford many trips around the world not only for me but also for my family. I want to overcome my social anxiety and push myself out of my comfort zone and learn to be even more independent. I want to experience new things and not be stuck at one place.☺ I want to have more opportunities to speak english both at school and outside of it in order to get rid of my insecurity of speaking in another language and to fix my accent. And one last thing: I find foreigners wayyyyy more attractive than bulgarians.
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How do you maintain such a composure in the middle of this chaos ?

dictator_1059’s Profile Photokiddo headshrinker
Its not easy for me to display emotions, even if I'm dying of anxiety or panic, I just naturally can't show it. I'll still look like the calmest person in the world. Composure is and has been my constant state, I get very anxious and tense sometimes but again, what I feel I can't show. :(

How many of you here suffer from existential crisis ? What are the questions that bother you ?

There was this one time where i got really fucked in the head ke If my anxiety & depression aren’t who i am then who tf am i really?
But no it ain’t like that, all of this, the good,bad & inexplainable, it’s all a part of you.
Because it’s an outcome of the life you have spent ykwim ?

Real pain? Crying while covering your mouth around 4am just in case someone might hear because of anxiety and depression is slowly killing you. Your chest hurts and in that time, you have begrudgingly become used to sensation.

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I’ve had my fair share of depression and so were my friends.
All of us deals with the depression on different varying levels and to rid or even break free from the clasp of depression, the solution for each and every one of us is never the same for the other.
But there is this one exactly identical thing that my friends and I did before we could get out of our depressions; What we all did that is the same is — Expressions.
Most of us would create a shell (or even something that’s sturdier than the Great Wall of China) around us and suffocate ourselves without ever getting help from anyone close to us.
I noticed how depressions were slowly killing us all, so I fixated a journey of expressions for all of my friends whom needed the help at the time. It wasn’t easy, because just by expressing one’s feelings isn’t the best way to deal with one’s depression.
The journey of expressions that I’ve given them all, always have one thing that’s in common; Get them engaged to the point that they’ve entered their very own Flow State — A state in which a person fully expresses what is true to their feelings without the fear of being rejected, heckled, judged, biases, nor the stereotypes that people may have upon any one of them.
Yeah, it wasn’t easy to get them to engage in their own Flow State because you really have to know a person down to the core before you could set the journey to expression for anyone, even yourself.
But none helped myself in such a way, and it’s my turn to help myself in setting a journey solely for myself as I’ve seen how different I am when compared to all of my friends. Still a work in progress — But if you ever needed any help, you may ask to be heard on ASKfm; Though it would be better if it’s someone you could meet in person that could help you out in such a way.

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How do you feel about being in and around water? Perhaps you have any favorite water based activities? 🏊‍♂️🏄‍♂️🚣‍♂️

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
Neutral I guess, as long as I can pull out at any given time. Being AROUND water is not an issue at all, but I struggle with major anxiety around being underwarter or partially submerged in water, so it's very important that any related activities happen on my terms, and my terms only. I can enjoy being in water, I even like some forms of swimming, but it has to be very self-determined and relaxed, no pressure added, low expectations.

What do you do when you are on depression or anxiety times? How you pass them?

I try to do something fun to distract myself. If it's really, really bad, I'll take antipsychotics and oxazepam.
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What do you do when you are on depression or anxiety times How you pass them

S 🖤 P 🖤 A 🖤 C 🖤 E ..🍁

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To the person who will love me in the anxiety that I have,
I hope you understand that I overthink a lot, I worry a lot, I get scared a lot, I think of the worst, I expect the bad outcome and it's not because I don't care or that I don't trust you it's because I care too much, and I don't trust my thoughts. 🥺🤍
I've had the worst come to me so part of me expect you to bring me the best but I'm still scared you'll add onto the worst, but I'll keep trying because that's what I do.🤍❤️
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Early throwback Thursday MMFf eddition was kam euch bei euren letzten drei erstellten Ocs als erstes in den Kopf

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Again, let's do the Last two 🖤
#1 Gigi für behind your Back von @wirbrauchenideen
Als erstes hatte ich im Kopf wie Gigi als kleines Mädchen ihren ersten Comic geschenkt bekommt, von ihrer Großmutter und sie das ihr ganzes Leben prägen wird. Dann die Verbindung zu älteren Menschen in ihrem Leben, ihre Großmutter und eine ältere Dame aus einem Seniorenheim, die sie heimlich pflegt. Gigi sollte sich tough nach außen geben aber eigentlich einen riesigen Softspot für ältere Menschen und Tiere haben und richtig starke social anxiety.
#2 Aspen für fear von @DornroeschenWitchHunt
Aspen sollte ein Major Idiot sein, Bindungsprobleme und Daddy issues. Das war so der Anfang. I mean Aspen hat eine Narbe am Handgelenk die daher kommt, dass sie beim Trinken mal auf die Idee kam, dass es lustig wäre ihren Shot anzuzünden. Hatte sie Mal bei anderen gesehen, fand sie cool. Soweit, dass man das Glas dann auch abstellen und nicht weiter in der Hand halten sollte hat sie dann leider nicht mehr gedacht. That's her Idiot Level. (Und auf die Idee kam ich, weil einem Freund von mir genau das auch passiert ist. Erstes Semester war wild.)

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Early throwback Thursday MMFf eddition was kam euch bei euren letzten drei

Do you enjoy being in your own company or does it make you uncomfortable?

LouisaRHale’s Profile PhotoLou
I prefer being in my own company than the company of others, for the most part, but an international scale pandemic has gotten me so used to it that my social anxiety has gotten much worse than it ever was, so I'm starting to take steps to ease back in to it.

Early Saturday shout out was hat euch bei den Ketten 3 MMff bei denen ihr mitgemacht habt dazu bewogen einen Oc zu erstellen?

Lostgirl_inidenty’s Profile PhotoDonata
Let's do the Last two 🖤
1) Behind your Back by @wirbrauchenideen
Uhm eventuell hab ich kurz vorher Pretty little Liars gebingewatched...ich möchte mich nicht dazu äußern, wie oft ich die Serie gesehen habe. Das Unisetting war Punkt zwei und ich wollte einen kleinen Nerd machen. I mean Gigi, oder Gertrude aber don't you dare call her that, kam mir zwischen Staffel 3 und 4 von Star Trek the next Generation in den Kopf. Sie liebt Star Trek, ihr Hund heißt Nyota (duh) und sie ist ein introvertiertes Cutie trying to come off as extrovert to fit in. I Love her 🖤
2) Fear by @DornroeschenWitchHunt
Okay meine Inspiration für Aspen war ein Song, den ich hier nicht nenne weil er ihr Secret spoilern würde. Ich habe den Song bzw alle Songs des Musicals aus dem er stammt nebenher gehört, dabei den Prolog gelesen und dachte mir...damn, ja. Dazu mich tatsächlich zu bewerben hat mich die Webseite mit den ganzen wundervollen Charakteren gebracht und die Möglichkeit zu raten wer wohl welches Secret hat.
Naja und gegen Ende kam mir bei Aspen meine anxiety in die Quere, sie hing über einen Monat fertig auf meinem Laptop rum...ich habe @Jouluku nachts um drei die Ohren vollgejammert...aber das ist eine andere Geschichte. 👀

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Would you do a job you don't like?

I have done for many years. I worked retail from 16 onwards, taking a break to raise kiddo and deal w covid etc. I hated retail, I'm badly suited for it and it drove my anxiety sky high. But one needs a job if one wants to live, so I did it. Luckily I've managed to get my foor into admin work now and I'm hoping that goes better

I need some advice on how to assist my bf in finding some motivation to stop drinking. I sincerely love him. But he a, bsolutely turns ,into a horrible person when he is drunk. He will scream and yell call me names and threaten me. I no longer feel the same toward him. Why won't he get help?

"Alcoholism" by Alex (Part 1)
I am sorry that you have had to experience this. There are a few things concerning alcoholism that you should understand:
1. Disease - alcoholism is a disease and it often runs in families, which means that there is a genetic component to it
2. Denial - before an alcoholic can recover, the alcoholic must admit that they have a problem. This is where many alcoholics get stuck. They refuse to admit they have a problem and as a result, their behavior does not change and in fact, progressively gets worse.
3. Setting Personal Boundaries - the victim, in this case you, must set personal boundaries. That is, for your own safety and well being, you need to decide what behavior you are willing to tolerate and which behaviors you are not willing to tolerate. And if necessary, you must be willing to end the dysfunctional relationship in order to protect your own life and self interests. This is NOT easy to do for many reasons. One common reason is that alcoholics are often violent and when they feel threatened, they will attack the people they claim to love resulting in severe injury or death. What about the enablers?
4. The Enabler - what is an enabler? An enabler is often the person(s) closest to the alcoholic who do not understand the disease and who are also in denial. The enabler typically knows that something isn't right but they do not know what to do. And even after receiving advice from family and friends, the enabler will often return to the alcoholic (the scene of the crime) where she is repeatedly abused or physically injured and will make excuses about her black eye or broken arm in order to protect her alcoholic partner.
Why?
That is the million dollar question that perplexes even the experts. Sometimes the enabler lived with alcoholics as a child and experienced abuse where she often had to make excuses to protect an alcoholic parent or relative. And sometimes the enabler is insecure and suffers from anxiety and depression which makes her emotionally dependent upon the alcoholic and results in a form of emotional paralysis where the victim us unable to think clearly and becomes confused and overwhelmed by anger, fear and regret because she blames herself for not being able to "fix her partner." Remember, you cannot fix someone who does not believe they are broken and who refuses to seek help. And to add insult to injury, the alcoholic can often detect his enablers fear and insecurities and will blame her for his failures (projection) in order to manipulate and control the enabler/victim thus forcing the victim to accept her self induced prison sentence living in hell. (continued)

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Is commuting by bike a legit option for you personally? How easy / hard is it to get around by bike where you live? 🚴‍♂️

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It's pretty easy to get around by bike in my area, but it isn't an option for me personally. I have some quite heavy anxiety around riding a bike and haven't dared to try doing so in 10 years or something 😅 Also I have never ridden a bike in a city environment (which is where I live) so I wouldn't be confident in my ability to navigate the traffic tbh.

What is your worst experience in life?

Don't know how many experiences I had been through but worst one that never play with anyone heart's feelings don't flirt just for joking for time pass you don't know how much it will be effective on another person sometimes we developed feelings without any reason so plzzz plzz I know how much it badly emotional damage to other person even it leads to depression anxiety stress
And how other person wipe up his/her tears and overcome this depression anxiety and smiled just nothing happened but inside down he or she dying
Please insan bny wrna janwar k pass bh ehsas hota hn 💔

How did you learn to love yourself?

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I just realised that nobody else would do it for me, and even if they did it wouldn’t count as much, I also realized that being in love with myself is the best remedy I can give myself to cure problems like anxiety, tension, hatred, loneliness and what not.

What stands between you and real happiness?

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Stress, Anxiety, Negative thinking are the barriers between me and my happiness. I can live happily only with positive thinking and living in the present.
Stress creates tension and negative thoughts and insecurity in my mind. Anxiety also creates the same feelings. I start worrying about the future or carry the guilt of the past.
And because of all this, I forget to live in the present and i lose happiness.
I’m starting to write a journal daily to monitor my thoughts.
Think positive always. Stop worrying about the future.
So you will feel happiness in your life.

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