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Have you ever met someone on here in your actual if so was it a good experience

Yes, I've met someone in real life that I met on Ask. I won't lie and say it wasn't awkward at times, but overall it was a great experience. He's a really lovely guy, and I genuinely consider him a friend. It was difficult as I struggled with my anxiety, but I'm glad we met properly. He isn't active on here anymore, but we keep in touch through other social media. It's been about seven or eight years since we met on Ask. 🙂
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i'm not crazy, if that's what you're thinking.
i mean, there's the ADHD, the anxiety, the PTSD, the depression, the crushing loneliness and the active imagination that helps me cope with all of that, but like, maybe that's the only sane response to an insane world.
you know what i'm saying?
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Why do you choose to persist?

zaidwali915’s Profile PhotoZaid Wali
Because I have good days; plenty of them. I go to university and everybody compliments me after noticing a little change, I tell my mum I don't feel pretty and she retorts by singing songs to tell me that I am gorgeous, the breeze never misses me, my sister likes the name of a movie and her first thought is to ask me to watch it with her, my friends are gentle with their words because they know I can be sensitive, my dearest friend knew my walking schedule before I ever did, my friend turn to me whenever she's having an anxiety attack, and the president of my drama club hugged me to desperately thank me for performing.
Life is harsh but days are gentle. Let me end my yap with my favourite quote ever, “I guess I love this life in spite of my clenched fist.”

how do you start a conversation?

cuntcore92031’s Profile Photocuntcore
On here? You just have to ask questions that you think might be relevant to some people and with the responses you get, you can reply back. In person, I usually compliment someone or sometimes I hear people in front of me have a conversation and I join in (which is how I made a friend in 6th grade but sadly, idk what she’s up to these days). I usually can’t stand awkward silences but I put up with them when my social anxiety got worse because I couldn’t get myself to talk/speak up in front of others in a classroom setting as I got older. I no longer have friends that I meet up with in person because they all moved away and so did I. I also just find it easier to communicate online.

Some souls suffer silently

Do not let your difficulties fill you with anxiety, after all it is only in the darkest nights that stars shine more brightly. Nothing hurts a good soul and a kind heart more than to live amongst people who cannot understand it. Life consists of two days, one for you one against you.
Imam Ali (A.S)
Excerpt from Nahaj ul Blagha

What's your relationship with unknown phone calls? Do you answer them or ignore them? 🔌☎️ If you don't pick up when unknown numbers call, what would it take for you to answer those calls?

M1ssSemy’s Profile PhotoStar. i
Ooof… Phone calls, for the most part, give me ✨anxiety. ✨Only exception being a handful of people I know well and am comfortable with. Unknown phone calls freak me out to be honest, I almost never answer them unless I have a specific reason to.
For example, there are a few “unknown” callers I have to answer that are healthcare related, but I know about it and I’m expecting it so it’s a little different. However, that’s as far as I go. And I mean, even when I’m expecting those calls, anything to do with healthcare gives me anxiety regardless. 😅😂 So I guess what it would take for me to answer unknown callers is 1) expecting them due to a specific circumstance, or 2) if they leave me a voicemail identifying who they are and why they’re calling, and I feel it’s important to answer and/or return said call. If that makes sense. 🤔

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Whats your relationship with unknown phone calls Do you answer them or ignore
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Were you almost always the student with good grades or mediocre grades?

Good but I wasn’t into it. I was just naturally good at school work. I had a lot of anxiety issues so it probably affected my entire school experience. I did it because I was forced to until I wasn’t and began schooling at home by choice.

Is it strange that I always kept quiet in school due to having social anxiety? I went to school with the same people from middle school to high school yet was hardly ever open to having conversations with my peers & after I graduated, I didn’t hear from anyone again. Did you keep in touch w/ others?

Maybe not strange as such but a little surprising you didn’t make a few friends of note at school I guess.
My longer term school friends came from sports teams not school classes as such though 😂😂😂

How often do you procrastinate? 😇

redoasis2017’s Profile Photo★ ☮ ♫ Շєภคςเ๏ยร Շ๏๓๓คץ™ ▩ ♚ ☻
Often… More often that I’d care to admit. 🥲 I’m actually procrastinating as we speak. I really need to do some medical stuff, but have been largely avoiding it because it’s very overwhelming and anxiety inducing. 😩
I really would like to stop doing so, as it doesn’t do me any good. But it’s certainly a lot harder to stop than it seems. And the thing that is so frustrating about it is that I procrastinate doing things I actively don’t want to do, so then they weigh on me super heavily. Instead of getting them out of the way so I can just focus on the things I really enjoy. 🥴
How often do you procrastinate

What has been on your mind lately?

tristanandiseult3’s Profile PhotoMarie Serendipity
How to keep myself busy during the summer without triggering my social anxiety but also something that will keep me mentally preoccupied enough to not be as depressed as I usually am. I was having a conversation with my mom yesterday and she said that I have to build better communication skills to get along with people irl but I’ve also been told that I’m an easy person to talk to so I’m confused. She says that I have to talk to people irl which isn’t a problem to me but my personality doesn’t easily mesh with other personalities so others tend to keep their distance whereas I’m more than willing to talk to anyone who tries talking to me in person. Being constantly told that I’m not doing enough and that I have poor communication skills is not only annoying but also discouraging for me.

Do you think it's common for ppl w/ social anxiety to overthink every social situation? The other day, I stopped by a fast food to pick up lunch and had a brief conv. w/ someone I hadn't seen in ages. Now, I keep thinking it might've been awkward. even though it's probably just in my head, lol.

As a person with social anxiety, I go through this frequently. Sometimes, when I don’t have anything to keep myself busy with mentally, I think about the previous conversations I’ve had and cringe at many of the things I’ve said and done in the past. I think with social anxiety, we pay too much attention to ourselves and tend to overthink many of the interactions we’ve had in the past when others probably aren’t even paying attention to what we say/do that much.

Do you prefer planning or improvising? 😇

redoasis2017’s Profile Photo★ ☮ ♫ Շєภคςเ๏ยร Շ๏๓๓คץ™ ▩ ♚ ☻
I’m a planner. Improvising tends to give me a lot of anxiety, as I tend to fear things will fall apart if I don’t plan. Sure, I can allow for wiggle room depending on what it is, but it’s really hard to suppress the urge to plan everything down to the smallest detail. 😅😂
Do you prefer planning or improvising

Do you believe in the goodness of people?

zaidwali915’s Profile PhotoZaid Wali
I once lost my phone and a stranger let me borrow her phone, let me know about her whereabouts in case I needed her in the future, I once had a waitress explain the menu to me like I am a two years old – the only time I ordered without anxiety, I had a teacher who answered my every single question without ever berating me, my friends compromise on every single for me, my family massage my head whenever I have a headache.
Yes, I do believe in the goodness of people. I think humans are the cutest when they try to help other people out of goodness. Evil prevails, but goodness touches hearts.

When you're stressed or anxious, do you struggle w/ sleeping or staying asleep? It's 5, and I woke up an hour ago and haven't been able to fall back asleep, despite only sleeping for 2h. My eyes are burning, and I feel terrible, but stress keeps me awake. I might as well get up and start the day.

I’m sorry. That sounds awful. I struggle with insomnia so I definitely understand the torture of not being able to sleep. Sometimes it is caused by stress and anxiety. If you drink tea, I recommend chamomile, lavender, or ashwagandha. They all have calming and relaxing properties. I hope your day is okay. Try to get a nap if you’re able. Sleep is so important for your mind and body.
When youre stressed or anxious do you struggle w sleeping or staying asleep Its

What's keeping me up, are my thoughts, we don't tend to sit well together at times. I don't need to ask you why are you up, I just have a feeling darkness and lack of light is where you thrive

I guess it's that I find nights so cozy and comfortable. I can see a nice show or listen to music on my laptop and scroll through different apps like ask reddit, 9gag, and write stuff, order food, and just enjoy being me away from sunlight... I can't stand daylight... it gives me anxiety.

Having mental health problems are normal. What kinda problems are you facing? Problems could be even negative thoughts or more than this.

laraibajmal72’s Profile PhotoLaraib Ajmal
It's actually not normal to have mental health problems. It's no joke. We take it so lightly. Always consult a therapist or psychiatrist for it.
Depression, anxiety, Stress that leads you to a major sensory problem and can lead you to so many hardships.

how do you feel about surprises, do you like them or dislike them? i personally don't like them. i have anxiety and unplanned things and the unknown make me perturbed and panicky.

I’d like it if my family were to surprise me since they know me better than acquaintances do and wouldn’t do something that would make me feel uncomfortable but they’re not the type to surprise me anyways. If people who didn’t know my likes or dislikes were to surprise me, there’s a higher chance of being disappointed. I have social anxiety so surprising me while also involving others in the surprise would definitely make me feel uncomfortable. I do like being spontaneous every once in a while so my family surprising me with going somewhere that wasn’t a part of the plan would make me feel happy unless I didn’t want to go.

Have you ever had problems with social phobia and how did you overcome it?

I have social anxiety and I still didn’t overcome it to the point where I’d feel comfortable sitting in classrooms and/or talking in front of a group of people. But, when it comes to talking to someone one on one that I happen to be comfortable around and knowing that everyone’s attention isn’t on me, I’m able to socialize.

Are the days when you can't be bothered more often than the days when you can be??

Yes, but small social interactions help me feel better about myself, even tho I don’t get to interact with others in person as much as I’d like to. Unfortunately, I can’t be bothered on days that my depression, OCD, and/or social anxiety get the best of me and one of them is usually bound to ruin my day(s) at some point. I find that the more I distract myself by being surrounded by the people I feel comfortable around, listening to music, spending money on the things I love, and/or reading books, the less bothered I am by trivial matters.

Did you get along with your high school peers and find it easy to talk to them or were you more distant and felt like you were quite different than them?

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Always kept to myself and felt different. I went to private school for 9th grade because my anxiety led me out of public school. I was always writing poetry or reading my Marilyn Manson book. I sometimes would have small crowds of grade 8ers gather around me. I think they found me rather interesting. 🤣 I switched to homeschool after that because it was just too much anxiety to be around people, even amongst other outcasts.

I just woke up from a nap and everything feels so good again. a good nap can totally fix some of your issues. People need to nap more maybe if they did they will be happier 🌷

That is if they have the time to do so. But yes, napping always makes me feel better, even if it doesn’t completely make my anxiety go away and my intrusive thoughts are usually still present after waking up.

Do you struggle to fake it, and make it in this world?

FreshICYGirl’s Profile PhotoBe Yourself Always
When it comes to confidence, I can struggle to fake it until I’m actually confident one day but I’ve been told that being confident alone doesn’t get you anywhere unless you also take action. I do think that believing in oneself and some confidence is needed in order to be more productive and motivated to reach your goals tho. I don’t struggle with the faking it part but making it to the places I want to be seems more difficult to do on my own as I’ve always relied on my family. Having depression and social anxiety usually does hold me back from being productive and taking chances in life. But, the good thing is that I am able to socialize with others irl when I train myself to pretend as if I’m not the alien I make myself out to be in my head at times.

No one repond to my texts, why?

ihcalam70776’s Profile Photoihcalam
It’s probably nothing person and if they don’t want to talk, that’s also fine. I’ve spent so much time thinking and worrying about this so I know the anxiety and stress that it leads to the more you think about it.

Have you ever been blocked by multiple people in a day? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

FreshICYGirl’s Profile PhotoBe Yourself Always
No, but I have been blocked by some of my peers from high school without even giving them a good reason to do that. I remember telling this girl who tried helping me with my social anxiety sophomore year of high school that I’ll always be there for her if she ever needs anything, she ended up blocking me afterwards. I reached out by asking a question about her Snapchat story post and didn’t even harass her or do anything that I recall worthy of being blocked for but that’s what ended up happening. Another time, I reached out to a guy from my high school on Snapchat to ask him a question about another girl that he happened to be close to so I could get in touch with her and he immediately blocked me without even reading the message I sent. My other peers haven’t blocked me online but when I request to follow them on Instagram, they usually leave me on requested. As you can tell, it’s clear that my peers didn’t think too fondly of me and the door for the start of a friendship was closed from the start.

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This woman said she had a traumatic experience and then she said that her "traumatic" experience was her dreaming that her husband d*ed. I mean, I understand that can be horrible but isn't "traumatic" a bit of an overstatement? Do dreams really give you trauma lol. What's your opinion?

I think calling that a traumatic experience is taking it a little too far but if she happens to have an anxiety disorder or has PTSD in real life, I’d be more understanding as to why she might say that.

Night owl or morning bird? I’m up at 6 getting my things done but on the opposite end if I can’t sleep I’ll be up at midnight cleaning the bathroom. So 75% of the time I’m a morning bird

stormydazex6’s Profile Photostormydazex
I’m a night owl and like to take showers at midnight but clean my room during the day since I can’t work the vacuum in the middle of the night due to living with my parents and having a neighbor living downstairs. If I can’t sleep, showering or watching relaxing YouTube videos help me go to sleep. I’ve never been an early bird and didn’t really enjoy sleeping ever since I was a kid but the more I grow up, the more I enjoy taking naps and sleeping away my anxiety.

What do you do to make sure you don't oversleep? ⏰

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
I try to go to bed at the same time to get my 6-8 hours of sleep. If I have no anxiety and less depression, 7 hours of sleep is enough for me.
What do you do to make sure you dont oversleep

Is it weird to not have any friends? Is it wrong?

It depends on why you don't have them in the first place. If it's because of social anxiety, it can take a toll on your mental health. But if it's just because you prefer it that way, then I guess it's totally fine. I also don't like socializing that much, that's why i have two friends in total, and they know and respect my boundaries.

Interesting? No... I grew up in a ghetto. We don't do Private School or Gifted. Lex can tell you about Coney Island back in the day... Not the greatest place to grow up.

Apeshitz’s Profile PhotoApeshitz
Doesn’t mean it’s not interesting. People here seem to think I come from a wealthy family. I think it’s more that I was an only child and all money was able to go towards me for things like private school and homeschool program. I had a great at home life growing up but not when it came to being amongst peers. Severe “social” anxiety starting much too young than should ever be expected in childhood. And severe depression developed in pre teens. Both lasted until my mid 20s. Even now I’m not comfortable in social situations. So when I say something like wanting to see Lex or something, that goes to show how much I truly adore him.

If emotions worked in the same way as in the movie Inside Out and each emotion was sentient, how do you think the dynamic between them would look like inside your head? Which emotion would be in charge etc.? 🤬☺️😭🤢

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
Ooh, what a fun question! I love Inside Out! (I've not seen the sequel movie yet though, only the first, so my response will include the emotions from the first movie...)
I'd like to think my emotions would have a fairly harmonious relationship and that they would work pretty well together, better than they have done in the past!
Much like in Riley's brain, Joy would be the team-leader in my own, only she would be something of a mother figure to the others, rather than a control freak who thinks her way is the only way. She'd be encouraging the other emotions to express themselves in healthy ways rather than suppress them!
Anger would still be finding their feet. For the longest time, they were a repressed emotion, and they've only just begun to feel comfortable expressing themselves. They've been working with Joy in order to channel their feelings into positive outlets-- namely, motivation!
In a similar vein, Disgust has become more vocal recently, too. They are usually awoken by people's action rather than by environmental stimuli (disgust in the Inside Out movie only seems to speak up when Riley encounters something gross, which makes sense, Riley is a child after all). MY Disgust is more riled by people's behaviour... And though in the past she would bite her tongue to keep the peace, she now has no problem asserting her boundaries.
Sadness is nowhere near as dramatic as they used to be. They are still outspoken, but they no longer behave as though the entire world is ending when something goes awry.
The only one who is still a little unruly is fear (shout out to my anxiety disorder, baaaaby! woop woop! 🤣) But much like sadness, they are slowly coming to realise that things aren't half as catastrophic as they often think they are...

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Do you think popularity irl is different than being popular online?

Yes. I may have a lot of likes on here and feel comfortable expressing myself online but irl, I hardly ever express myself and don’t have many people I could talk to. People irl don’t make much of an effort to talk to me and neither do I make much of an effort to talk to them but online, I’m more eager and comfortable with talking to others. It’s easier to become popular online than it is irl for those who have social anxiety or are introverted. When you think of being popular irl, you might think of those who are a part of a clique and aren’t very inclusive but online, there are ways to become popular without making others feel left out or without feeling the need to keep up a certain image. I may never be popular irl or express myself so easily when interacting with others in person, but at least I feel like I somewhat belong when interacting with the online friends I have.

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Say you were gonna be a speaker, what would choose to talk about? 🎤

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
Probably chronic illness, as that’s what I tend to be most… fluent in speaking about. If that makes sense. With many subjects, I feel like I can only talk about it for a short time before I’d struggle, or start racking my brain for something else to say. Whereas, illness is just something I’ve talked extensively about for years, and I could probably speak about various different aspects of illness, the affects it has on life, work, school, relationships, etc. 🤔
I’m also not that confident when speaking in general, I always feel like I’m either babbling too much or stumbling over my words. So, if I just default to what I feel I know best, it takes at least some of that anxiety away, and I might be able to get through a proper speech. 😬
Say you were gonna be a speaker what would choose to talk about

I get overwhelmed so easily My anxiety keeps me silent When I try to speak What's come over me? Feels like I'm somebody else I get overwhelmed

انڈے کو چوزہ اندر سے توڑ کے باہر نکلتا ہے۔ تبھی اس کو سورج کی روشنی اور تازہ ہوا نصیب ہوتی ہے۔ آپ کو اپنے خول کو خود توڑنا پڑے گا۔ ہل جل کریں حضور والا۔۔۔

Isn't it normal to have anxiety?

Not really. Especially if it interferes with your daily life. Nerves before public speaking or taking a test are normal. Things like that. It’s not normal to have it about everything to a point it stops you from doing things or gives you significant distress 😬

I get overwhelmed so easily My anxiety keeps me silent When I try to speak What's come over me? Feels like I'm somebody else I get overwhelmed

Try to do some relaxing exercises. You can read about them on the internet. Keep yourself occupied and do what makes you happy.
If it becomes too overwhelming, consult with a psychologist. It's very manageable if you stay steadfast and strong.

It's not just for mental issues? Therapy isn't medication. People go there for all kinds of stuff. I've been there when I was dealing with grief. It also helped me with my panic disorder, anxiety disorder and depression. Why don't you give it a try?

Talking to people gives me more anxiety. That would never ever be the answer for me. I walked straight out during the sessions the two times I was forced as a teen.

1) > i don’t know if it’s possible since the entire meta account is gone - It's very possible. Anon is right and like I said yesterday, you have to speak with a human. Bot BS won't solve anything. You'll get nothing but canned responses.

talionislexx’s Profile PhotoLex Talionis
Lexy. 💗 I don’t know. I have so much phone call anxiety. Maybe once I calm down I can pursue it further. It literally says it was reviewed again and denied and it’s permanently disabled. And it says it’s due to child exploitation! Wtf? I don’t understand how any of this is possible if an actual person reviewed it after my appeal.

شلون اتغلب على الخوف ؟ من اشياء ابد ماتخوف مواقف تكون حيل بسيطة

الانترنت مليان محتوى عن social anxiety اللي هو ظاهرة شائعة جدا في مجتمعات ما بعد الكارثة. ما خطر على بالك تبحث لو مگضيها انمي ومباريات ريال وبرشلونة؟

Do you think that religion gives life more purpose? Why or why not?

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Yes. Religion gives individuals a sense of meaning and direction. It sets values, decision makings, guidance, understanding and behavior. Gives an individual a sense of authenticity, meaningfulness and peace with anxiety.

What's your favourite ask memory?

I already replied to a similar question before, but I'll still do it again because I love talking about this. 🥹
Back in 2020, there was someone who used to regularly drop by and ask me about my day. Somehow, they knew exactly what I wanted to hear and at what time. This was during my med-school crisis and COVID19 era.
Once, when I seriously fell ill, they used to send me Surahs/Ayaahs to help relieve my anxiety and stress. Those were the real days, yaar. People actually wanted to talk to you and not just jump right into your SC/Insta.
Here's a random glimpse into what our conversations used to be like. This is how Ask used to look like at that time. 😝
p.s. No, we didn't end up e-dating. 😂
Whats your favourite ask memory

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