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why are you always passive-aggressive in your answers? if you have issues, go fix them, ask.fm isn't your personal therapy session, random strangers from here do not owe you free therapy, you're not entitled to take your misery out on 'em.

Lol, like I've said before, it isn't my fault that you read too much into what I say. Also maybe take your own advice because wow lmao!

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How do you live with the guilt of past regrets?

Every negative experience (and positive experience) you've ever had made you who you are. Every one. You learn from those experiences, and realize that, had you not made those decisions, you wouldn't be where you are now, good or bad. Every fucked up thing I've done, every regrettable decision I've ever made, has put me in the chair I'm sitting in now making the salary I am. Every one was a minor course correction that ended me here, and you know what? My life is not so bad. I do not regret anything I did in my past. I occasionally regret the things I didn't do, but even those things put me here. But instead of even regretting those things, I try to go do them. Keep telling yourself that... Every decision you've ever made, regretted, learned from, etc, put you where you are now. Now just ask yourself: Do you like you?
You wouldn't be the person you are now, and have the great things that happen to you, if you would have done it differently. You wouldn't be the personality you are now and you'd make different 'mistakes/regrets' in those scenario's. You are formed by who you are and as long as you can look yourself in the mirror and are happy with who you are NOW, it's ok. If not, actively go out there and try to fix things. Say to that person what you had to say 20 years ago, even symbolic. Just realise you are saying it, being a person that you've become due to those regrets.
Being that we are human we won't always make the best, the correct, the right, or even the wrong decision all the time. You can't change the past if any of those things happen. And honestly you can't control it anymore. What you can control right here, right now is you. If you have to say sorry or let her know so be it. But sometimes even that doesn't help. What helps is to accept it. And move forward. The more you look back the harder it is to push ahead. And it's not going to be easy. But you owe yourself it as at the end of the day you will be with yourself for the rest of your life. So forgive yourself if you haven't and it will be okay. Even though it doesn't feel like it right now. Even forgiving yourself may feel hard. But it's all not supposed to be easy. One thing that helped me with a similar situation was therapy. Not for everyone but I'd say it can be quite helpful.
I get over my guilt from my worst mistake by reminding myself I mentally destroyed myself for years thinking I needed to suffer and all it was was me being selfish wishing I suffered so I could feel better about hurting the people I loved most. I'm not sure if I've forgiven myself but I'm done trying to hurt myself in a misguided attempt to balance the scales. I know I'm trying to be a good guy every day and that any mistake I've made I'll do my best to make up for by putting more good into the world than bad. That's how I've come to get past my guilt and self loathing. Now I feel much better, less self loathing, more repentant wanting to do good.

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What's the lowest you've ever been in your life and how did you get out of it?

After I woke during surgery. I wanted to kill myself and attempted to a few times. Then one day I met a lady reading a book I was curious about. As we talked, she asked about my limp and when I told her my story about that surgery, she told me that she'd been through it half a dozen times, and that shocked me out of feeling sorry for myself. She challenged me to NEVER shut up about what happened to me, and to teach the general public about Anesthesia Awareness and how to prevent it. Life didn't get better all at once, but I did start seeing improvements as I became more and more active & proactive about Awareness. Nowadays I am much better than when I met her, the first person to tell me, "Me too."
Right now. I'm an RN, or I was. I got sick a year ago, was in the hospital for 2 months. while in there my mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor and died within five days. Now have to use a walker and oxygen. I lost my apartment, my car and my savings and now health insurance. I had enough money to take care of my basic needs to last till next summer. A family member moved me in with them and told me they would care for me. They have taken all my money, say they can't afford to get me even toothpaste and I have nowhere to go. They also yell at me daily to the point where I feel I am in an abusive situation. I have told nobody that they took my money or I feel suicidal. I have an appointment with a local nonprofit medical and psychological company for help. The appointment is a month away. I made a promise with God that I won't try suicide. But I can't wait to get help to get out of this emotionally. I've never been dependant on anyone before. It's killing me inside.
Initiating being/asking to be abused by my father, because I was desperately seeking protection from my mother's violent fantasies, and getting my father to like me was the only way I knew how.
I was being hurt and humiliated all the time anyway, so it was worth trying to limit it at least. Probably when I had panic attacks and random fears and anxiety, didn't eat for up to 24 hours (and I didn't even wanna lose weight or anything), started to feel further and further apart from the world, didn't leave my bed all day sometimes but still barely slept and had suicidal thoughts. All because of severe depression that I just lived with and kinda ignored for many years until it escalated into the above and I couldn't ignore it anymore. I was in the hospital at a psychiatric ward and in therapy for quite some time.

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What is the lowest you have ever been in your life and how did you recover from it?

Lowest I've been was when my first relationship ended and left me crushed. I couldn't eat, sleep or go to work. What helped me was going to therapy, but basically I think it was just time and taking it step by step. I think just doing really slow progress is something and one day you will see yourself over the hurdle.
Me and my then wife were arguing as usual (well, I was listening) on the way to a birthday and it was like she held her breath when stepping out of the car and continued on when we got back in. That's when I really felt the most shitty in that time I think. Nobody could know anything was wrong and to the outside we had to have 'the perfect marriage'.
Now! Struggling to deal with all the emotions I'm feeling. Never dealt properly with my dad's death which happened years ago. Broke up with the guy I thought I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with. Had 2 deaths in the family in the last 6 months. And I don't want to leave the house.
When I got expelled from school my senior year. Everything turned out fine though, still got my diploma the same time i would have, and was able to work full time all year. Take summer school kids!! It turned out i only needed 3 classes to graduate, and took them at night school no problem.
Massively depressed. Always tired but couldn't sleep. Consumed with negative and destructive thoughts. I was still going to work; but had been avoiding all other social contact. Struggling with an terrible medical diagnosis........One day I woke up and realized that I had to do something. I called my primary care doc and she referred me to the Psychology department at a local university. It was affordable because I was mainly working with doctoral students. They did testing and months of counseling. It may not work for everyone; but it saved my life. Asking for help was the hardest part.
Turns out the entire encounter was to make me let my guard down, giving her time to off herself. Kinda fucked me up a little, and I had myself hospitalized a week later, after I had spent a long night getting hammered as an alternative to following her example. How did I get over it? I never really did. Still get depressed, stressed, angry, but I've managed to find that bit of rebellious spark that is just too stubborn to quit. The part of me that refuses to let go because I will not take the bullshit way out.
When I was in grade 8, only had 2 friends, I was in my room playing minecraft by myself and I felt so depressed, I almost had a breakdown because the girl I liked along with a bunch of my classmates were at a dance and I knew I was missing out, I cried myself to sleep that night, and for some reason when I woke up the next morning I was so happy, I had an overwhelming amount of happiness. I never felt that bad again as I did in grade 8 but I still don't know why I got that happy.

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What's the lowest you've ever felt and why?

When my ex and I broke up. I felt very alone and had to rebuild myself. I spent a lot of days, weeks alone. Drinking my nights away to escape the feeling of loneliness. Slowly i found people who I formed bonds with. Slowly I found a new love for myself. It all takes time. Everything has an ending, bad things too.
My low point was a few months ago. Girlfriend had left me. Financial troubles meant no social life. Lost all of my friends because of the break-up creating sides. Felt alienated from my family, and my mum's illness was getting worse, which took a toll on my dad in turn. I was there. At the edge of the bridge. Ready to jump...I don't know why I didn't. I'm still teetering at that balancing point today.
In 2010 my husband left me while I was pregnant with our 3rd child. After I gave birth I suffered the most horrifying depression and post-natal psychosis. I really was unsure if things like that really existed, but they do. I really do not remember from September 2010-March 2011. I Tried to commit suicide in March and then woke up in the hospital. I have never felt so empty and I hope I never do again.
I was 14 and tried to hang myself from a ceiling fan. Ironically my overweight body saved my life and broke the fan. I am grateful to be alive. My mom brought me out of my funk. She was the voice of reason in my life and will always be the reason I'm a mommas boy. I am currently 22 and so happy to be here now. My first tattoo is on my right arm of my mothers name. The tattoo is a dray dessert ground with a jasmine flower popping through the soil. (Her favorite flower) I believe this tattoo accurately represents everything my mom is to me.
I don't have one particular day or event I can pinpoint, but the 18 months or so that I was deepest in my own personal bulimic hell was pretty horrendous. I had so much going on in my head that I just tried and failed to type out, but I completely isolated myself, almost took on a different personality as food and my weight and my self-hatred became the three most important things in my life. I don't know how I got out of it, I think that after a few weeks of therapy - thanks to the other sufferers in my group session, not the crappy therapists - it just sort of came to me that my behaviour was ruining my life. It was a slow road from there, and I'm not out of the woods yet (inadvertently used two metaphors but whatever I'm leaving them) but what helped the most was probably the fact that I left school and went to university.

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I'll be sending this out to everyone I follow but I'm genuinely curious about everyone since I've been quite busy lately so... how have you been doing? Anything exciting that's going on in your life right now? 😊

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
I'm not too bad, thank you! How are you? It's very kind of you to send this question out. I'm going to Iceland a week tomorrow so that's all I can think about, really! I'm so, so nervous about it but really excited at the same time. There's so much stuff I'm anxious about, but I'm trying to put it out of my mind. Other than that, I've not got much going on. I've been having my therapy every week, and that's going okay. Emotionally I'm very up and down as usual, but I'm sure I'll be okay. I hope you are, too! 🌻

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💢Are you afraid of rejection? Why/Why not?

Ambyrose21’s Profile PhotoRose
Yes because of past trauma, as well as grief. I've grown weaker of the idea of being alone and doing things alone, company has always been my home, my therapy and I really don't take rejection well at all. I want to do screenings for some things so that I could know if there's deeper reasonings behind my struggle to orientate my thoughts and emotions.

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Sana pwede singilin yung ex pambyad ng therapy na siya naman dahilan kung bakit ka nasa therapy

Accountability is the first step to healing. Ex is ex. No matter how much pain and trauma they caused you, that's independent of your responsibility to yourself. The moment na tumigil ka ng kakasisi sa iba and you learn to focus on what you can do for yourself, your life will improve. Lahat tayo nasaktan. Karamihan ng tao ay gago. Pero kung habangbuhay maniningil ka, hindi ka uusad. What are you going to do for yourself without blaming others?

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Sadly these "whack jobs" have infiltrated our government. Not much to report on my reading of JJ. I've been so tired lately it's hard to concentrate and you need to concentrate if you're going to read Ulysses lol. Nothing like a little retail therapy for what ails ya. Bain taitneamh as x

BiCarrie’s Profile PhotoSam (BFBO)
Indeed and that is the great fear that these aho**s will refuse to certify or worse still tamper with a democratic election result...
That is so true even one sentence can be daunting , you have been through a lot so resting up is the thing to do...
Táimid criochnaithe anois agus bhí maidin an-ghnóthach againn i lár Baile Atha Cliath 💚

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hi! how do u handle jealous partners? my bf got mad at me when someone i used to date followed me on ig and messaged me when i didn't even reply. he also got mad when one of my guy friends said love u ng walang malisya like ive been friends with this dude for years. what would u do?

Honestly, leave. 🚩🚩🚩 Controlling behavior and extreme irrational jealousy like that especially while you're only dating cannot be fixed. He needs to go to therapy and anger management classes before he dates anyone. Next step is verbal and physical abuse. I learned the hard way and I hope you don't, but most people don't learn until it's too late. I'm sorry.

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Imagine you met yourself from ten years ago, what do you think they'd think of you now? And is there anything you'd want to say to them?

WellHelloJonesyMo’s Profile PhotoJM.
I think 31 year old me would be amazed at how chill 41 year old me is, and how much art I'm creating. 31 year old me was working in retail and struggling HARD with mental illness, without meds or therapy. I'd tell them to get back on meds asap.

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Do any boys practice yoga again?

yu_ren’s Profile Photoyu ren
I practiced yoga a few years ago as part of physical therapy. My surgeon was recommending it to his patients and I continued until I was able to resume weight training. I haven't practiced yoga since that time but T'ai Chi keeps me "limber" enough and I recently started with Jiu-Jitsu. I may eventually move to Aikido and while I still believe that yoga can be beneficial, I am more focused on martial arts.

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No I haven’t considered Therapy. But thank you. Everything just feels like a nightmare for me and idk what I should do at the moment

i highly recommend seeking out a therapist & counseling. it's a good place to discuss what's going on in your life, have a person who will listen to you, and receive professional and valuable feedback.

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Post 20 facts about yourself 🙂

AdrianaRafaela98’s Profile PhotoAdriianna Rafaella
Oof 20 😳 I’ll try…!
🌻 My name is Yentl.
🌻 I’m currently 24 years old.
🌻 I am a woman.
🌻 I have blond hair.
🌻 I am in a very happy and steady relationship. 🥰
🌻 I currently still live at my mom and dad’s house.
🌻 I study speech therapy pathology.
🌻 I love sunflowers (as you might tell lol)
🌻 My favourite colour is yellow 💛
🌻 I’ve had eczema since I was a baby.
🌻 I have hyper mobility and often disjoint parts of my body, especially my fingers and shoulders.
🌻 I love reading and gaming so much!
🌻 Fall is my favourite season, I just love the colours and low laying sun so much! 🍁🍂☀️
🌻 I absolutely love snow! 🌨
🌻 I am a huge fan of Ariana Grande, Post Malone and Coldplay.
🌻 The Efteling is my all time favourite amusement park 🎢🍄✨
🌻 I listen to all sorts of music genres, from night bass to medieval and classical for example.
🌻 I love concerts and I’ve been to 10 concerts. I have 4 more that I’ll attend!
🌻 I have dyscalculia.
🌻 I have a very short attention span 😅😂

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Are you seriously bringing up past at this point when im at the lowest. Just need you to be there to listen. Thats it. And i never abused. We were never on the same page. Anyways im sorry

Sorry fam. I'm no therapy center for emotionally complex men. I genuinely empathize with you and i pray that you find someone to talk to who actually cares about you, but I'm not that person.

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Are you currently going to therapy sessions? Sorry, if it's personal, ignore it.

I will answer, simply because as a mental health advocate I want to do my part in destigmatizing and normalizing therapy:
I'm currently shopping around for a new therapist. I want to increase my quality of care and not have to bounce between different ones before I find one I feel supports me properly.

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family all of sudden message me after never hearing from them. they have change toward me and wish reconcilliation, should i give it chance?

Firstly please seek therapy, it does help.
Personally I'd be suspicious if I were you, which you are, otherwise you wouldn't be asking. Unfortunately, rarely do they ever change, it's all a mask. They probably only need or want something from you whether that be draining your energy, to see if you have money or wanting gossip, second chances for people like that only make room for people to harm you twice, it isn't worth it, it is a waste of your precious time. It's best to ignore them and block them, never to return ever again and never look back.
Wishing you healing and happiness. All the best 🦋

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What was the lowest point in your life? When you're at a low point in your life, what do you do to get out of it? How did you recover from the lowest point in your life?

I'm currently at my lowest point. I'm 31, I have no education and I'm currently unemployed. I can't afford to go to work and school at the same time, so I'm struggling to find a job worth working and it is hard when you're also fighting a battle with apathy and self loathing. Especially so when you have no experience outside of customer service and retail and you have no desire to go back and no aptitude for the trades.
After I graduated high school I was messing around with cocaine and other pharmaceutical drugs. I went as far as smoking crack or cocaine in a blunt. We would call them wu bangers. Ive sold pounds of weed, taken acid, hooked up with random girls, and watch friends do heroin. I was hanging with people I didn't like, I lost some sort of connection with people I loved and one of my bests friends got hooked into heroin. That went on for about a year or more.
Lowest point was around my 1st or 2nd year in community college. No direction, felt like I couldn't do computer science because friend said its hard and I wouldn't be able to do it. I literally wasted time and stuff just doing w/e and felt depressed and suicidal. Was talking to different friend about what I'm doing one night and he told me I was a pussy for thinking of suicide, which I was planning to do after that semester. I was completely lost and only started recovering when I told my brothers and my dad. Went to therapy and gave myself a 2nd chance at computer science which was enjoyable. Currently doing cis at a college where I transferred to.
My lowest point was January 2015. I was stuck in an abusive relationship with a man who I was supporting financially and mentally (he was extremely depressed and used his depression as an excuse for when he abused me). I had a job opportunity in my home town, which I jumped at because it was much better money (just meant I'd be working fly in fly out). The day I flew out the man I'd been seeing tried to guilt me into staying because he didn't think he could cope without me. I stayed strong and got on the flight.
Obviously I had to go through the tremendous heartbreak and the anger and the sorrow, but the worst part about those first few months after the breakup was the confusion. She didn't tell me anything substantial the day we broke up, and she insisted not to talk about her reasoning afterwards. So I lived in a constant state of mind asking myself over and over: How could this have happened? Didn't she love me? How could I be replaced so easily? Why would she want this? What does she have now that she didn't before? Am I not good enough? Why would she hurt me so much? Why wouldn't she be open with me? Who the fuck is the guy she's dating now and why have I never heard of him before?

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Just how in touch with your feelings are you?

For me it is very difficult to connect to my emotions. I have a lot of trapped emotions. My inner knowing tells me that they are there, but I cannot register them. I don't know what those emotions are, what are the stories behind them, etc. So mentally, I am okay. Emotionally, I am disconnected. I asked my Rosen Method therapist about a feeling that is worse than sad. I thought it might be grief, but she said it might be despair. At the time, I told her, "I don't know how that feels like." As for communication, I don't normally have the chance to talk about my feelings. Even when someone asks, "How are you feeling?" I don't know how to answer it; I would talk about what exactly I have done or will have to do. Not that I wanted to avoid the question, but because I was taught to not express my feelings, so neurologically, I never established the synaptic pathways to speak about them. Completely, absolutely out of touch. More like opposites, I can be in remembrance of something that should be hurtful to me but I am laughing about it instead, albeit nervously I am sure. I cant speak about it if I feel it, not aloud. I will focus on it inside and ruminate, never ever share once in any type of spoken word. Hold it inside, express it some other way passively. I draw a blank as well in any personal conversation or interaction - if its about me I am not there to participate. I am seeing my therapist tomorrow after avoiding her since holiday times when it all got too much, too many questions. I rather write her a letter over speaking with her, I feel like this will be a big waste of $$$ as usual.
That's only started in the last year or so, before then when asked how something made me feel I wouldn't have any idea over good/bad. I've been seeing someone and getting massages so I'm starting to be able to live in my body more lately which is helping.
My sense of despair is somewhere, and perhaps your description of "elusive" applies to me too. I am not sure if it is in my ribcage or not, because I do have very concentrated and intense emotions buried in between the bones in my ribcage. But I won't describe the emotion as light. It is sharp and loud and sour (like eating a lemon will make you squeal). Anyway, I have difficulty connecting to that emotion, but I know it is there, just can't register it, but at a mental level, I feel that it is something stronger than sorrow.
This has led me into confusing situations in therapy, because I think I'm able to talk about my feelings – I form savvy sentences in my mind and then share them with a therapist – that's connecting to your feelings right? No but seriously. For the longest time I thought that I understood stuff since I was able to express myself so good verbally. But now, I am actually starting to sense feelings bubbling up. Which is scary.

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Which do you find to be more eerie, attics or basements? Why? 🙀 🎃 👻 🦇 💀 👍 🙃

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I hate both, but basements are the worst for me. My maternal grandparents have a huge basement, and I remember one time there was one particular light continuously flickering.
Only a few months before I'd witnessed a store burn down to the ground because of a malfunctioning, flickering light. No one died or got seriously injured, but I will never forget the sight of my dad running back inside a building engulfed in flames, looking for people who couldn't get out. I didn't dare to go down the basement, no matter how many times my family asked me to do so.
Looking back, those were clear signs of PTSD and I definitely should've been put in therapy for that, but my distress has always been brushed off, even to this day.

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How is your mental health?

Quite level 😊 had a relapse recently, but thanks to my support system recovered quickly. I suffer heavily in Winter, so have a plan in place to tackle it, e.g. light therapy in the morning is super effective, so digging out my lamp in the coming days. Exercise & good diet are important too, as well as socialising. I'm murder for turning into a hermit this time of year!

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Why males always chase after females not just humans even animals?

In general some males do chase, and other men don’t and never did
Some chase simply because they are weak (weak in faith religion etc) if they are religiously into their religion and abide the morals and ethics they would never chase after any human or animal on earth. Simply having religion as a guidance and RESPECT will guide a person out of traps in life. Many people in general have lost faith..lost control over themselves.
Although scientifically speaking, some males cant control themselves but thats not a solution. The solution is to blame themselves and act and get therapy or focus on the good rather than the bad

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I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I am very self-aware. What would be your first impression of me based on that information?

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I would say you're a strong person. BPD is one of the most serious mental illnesses you can get and be fully aware of. It's not a good thing to have but with medication or talk therapy you can overcome it. In some cases you might have to be taken to the hospital if it becomes too severe for a mental illness.

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How is it possible to overcome anxiety?

miyaabee1’s Profile PhotoSumaiyashafiqq
First of all get some tests done and check all your imbalances, that’s really important. Get yourself some supplements for nerves, i’ve yet to start iron+Magnesium for my sleep issues so i can’t yet recommend that but people say it works.
You can’t overcome u just learn to live with it, if yours has roots from childhood trauma then therapy will take time too it’s not easy.
Anxiety attacks will always take their time it’s best to sit back and let it pass.
If you have a supportive family talk to them and maybe visit a neurologist if things get too bad.
I’ve been through this and i would never wish it upon anybody 💜🙏

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How would one start the healing process

Accept the fact that it's going to be difficult. There's more to it than what people realize because every person is different and so are the illnesses. Acceptance is so important and not to judge yourself. Recognize that during your healing process, it's a good thing to notice the problems you are having - be honest and open with yourself.
Value yourself:
Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and avoid self-criticism. Make time for your hobbies and favorite projects, or broaden your horizons. Do a daily crossword puzzle, plant a garden, take dance lessons, learn to play an instrument or become fluent in another language.
2. Take care of your body:
Taking care of yourself physically can improve your mental health. Be sure to:
Eat nutritious meals
Avoid smoking and vaping-- see Cessation HelpDrink plenty of water
Exercise, which helps decrease depression and anxiety and improve moods
Get enough sleep. Researchers believe that lack of sleep contributes to a high rate of depression in college students.
3. Surround yourself with good people:
People with strong family or social connections are generally healthier than those who lack a support network. Make plans with supportive family members and friends, or seek out activities where you can meet new people, such as a club, class or support group.
4. Give yourself:
Volunteer your time and energy to help someone else. You'll feel good about doing something tangible to help someone in need — and it's a great way to meet new people. See Fun and Cheap Things to do in Ann Arbor for ideas.
5. Learn how to deal with stress:
Like it or not, stress is a part of life. Practice good coping skills: Try One-Minute Stress Strategies, do Tai Chi, exercise, take a nature walk, play with your pet or try journal writing as a stress reducer. Also, remember to smile and see the humor in life. Research shows that laughter can boost your immune system, ease pain, relax your body and reduce stress.
6. Quiet your mind:
Try meditating, Mindfulness and/or prayer. Relaxation exercises and prayer can improve your state of mind and outlook on life. In fact, research shows that meditation may help you feel calm and enhance the effects of therapy. To get connected, see spiritual resources on Personal Well-being for Students
7. Set realistic goals:
Decide what you want to achieve academically, professionally and personally, and write down the steps you need to realize your goals. Aim high, but be realistic and don't over-schedule. You'll enjoy a tremendous sense of accomplishment and self-worth as you progress toward your goal. Wellness Coaching, free to U-M students, can help you develop goals and stay on track.
8. Break up the monotony:
Although our routines make us more efficient and enhance our feelings of security and safety, a little change of pace can perk up a tedious schedule. Alter your jogging route, plan a road-trip, take a walk in a different park, hang some new pictures or t

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pero aware ka na malaki

May sakit po ako called Graves’ disease. Symptoms po yan nung sakit kaya po lumaki and nag bulky yung eyes 👁 👁 it also damaged my vision po and back then yung mga gamot ko pa damage my kidney kaya po i end up having therapy of radiation instead of cutting my neck and leaving it open because it will damage my vocal cords din (honestly even by now drinking speaking or even eating hurts so bad) kasi yung bukol na tumutubo pa cancerous cell na and nasa loob po yung bukol hindi sa labas so all my organs inside po is affected (lahat may fear because my illness can kill me pero ako bahala nalang🤷🏻‍♀️everything happens for a reason) so far im still curing my illness may possible na bumalik yung bukol kahit natunaw na ng radiation back then i keep losing hair nadin and so much more effect (because of radiation) so far doing better, but still under observation 🙃 kaya nga whenever people mock my eyes or notice something isn’t right it hurts me because they will never understand my case. I knew I wasn’t normal, though i tried so hard to be normal wala eh. Yun talaga ako kahit anong pilit gawin ko🥸

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What about pharmaceutical treatment? Do you put that in the same category or do you think that can dull one's senses?

Anxiety and depression meds definitely do dull out your emotions. They are good in the sense that you may experience less pain if you're going through a tough time, but on the downside the emotional numbing may make you numb towards the good feelings too. I think if you've gone to therapy, or you've learned coping skills that actually work for you and you don't need to take meds every single day then you shouldn't take them. You can still take those kind of meds which aren't daily dose but rather you take them when you need them, like if you're having a panic attack or something.

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A lot of creative people with disorders like that are afraid of treatment because they think it'll sap them of their ability to feel as deeply. Do you think there's anything to that or are they completely wrong?

No I don't think that's correct. Because feeling things deeply isn't something that goes away with therapy, it's just that you learn skills to cope with your feelings better so you're not as impulsive and as moody anymore. This is especially tru in people with borderline traits, they feel everything to the max level. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is most commonly used to treat Borderline aperosnality Disorder. So basically sufferers are taught coping skills so they can manage the intensity of their emotions and not act out in harmful ways (like self harm).

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When do you think therapy for personality disorders is necessary?

When they seem to be ruining the sufferer's life and that of others around them. Not all personality disorders are like NPD though, like for example people with Borderline traits are actually able to see that something isn't right and they often go to therapy and manage their symptoms well. The most important thing is self awareness. A person with NPD doesn't have much self awareness so they don't even realize what they're doing.

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Have you ever known one who sought therapy and it actually worked?

Nope. True narcissists are not as common as people think they are. Just because someone is too self obsessed doesnt mean they are suffering from NPD. The ones who actually get therapy are even rarer.
If you know someone who seems to be following this cycle of love idealization, devaluing, and discard, they most probably have some NPD traits.

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