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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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"Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell?"
well, I already have my own business. but if I could start a different one, it would probably be art workbooks for children. 🎨📓✍🏻
"What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you?"
given my background as an art teacher, and my love for educating young ones, I think coming up with, and illustrating/writing an art workbook for children is extremely suitable for me!

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Stört dich etwas an deiner Figur? Falls ja was?

Klar, ich bin zu dick und wiege zu viel. Angefangen hat das mit einem Medikament (Mitazapin) - wobei fast alle Antidepresiva Gewichtszunahme als Nebenwirkungen haben. Dann kam mein Infarkt dazu, wo ich genauso weitergegessen habe, aber eben nicht fit war das auch durch Bewegung wieder abzubauen. Im Moment ist mein Gewicht konstant - und das reicht mir erst einmal.

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What do you do to make your SO melt/happy/swoon? How do you keep them interested in or out of the bedroom? Also do you wait until they ask you for something (date, favor, maybe a sexual encounter?) or do you surprise them?

I agree I'm in a 7 year relationship and disagree with the general idea and shit ton's of metaphors. It isn't about keeping a spark alive or kindling a fire or whatever it's about holding together a relationship because you have two people that care a lot about each other. It's learning new things and getting interested in each others hobbies even after 7 years of being together. Each year over the summer we started teaching each other one thing that the other really enjoys and we've found more and more we love to do together. It's also about not thinking that you have to spend all your time together. We spend about eight hours a day doing things together on days that we're off. Those other hours go towards doing things that just the one person enjoys. That doesn't mean we aren't in the same room together, but this is generally my video game time and her time to read, browse the internet watch a show she knows I hate etc.
When we got married and moved in together, I felt this incredible sensation of it being only temporary, and any day we would have to leave and go our separate ways as we always had in the past - even though I knew it was a ridiculous thought. Years later and I still feel that way sometimes, and we really try hard to have as much fun as possible on the weekends when we have days off. We say we're making up for the lost time of bring LD, but that mindset of making the best of the time we have together is what keeps the chemistry and spark going. We hardly ever argue because its such a waste of time. I leave notes in his lunch box and surprise him with little gifts. He does the same with me. We are very young-hearted, if that makes sense. Kind of like teenagers in love for the first time. He is my best friend and we are just compatible in every way.
Well two years ago (we're in our 50s btw), we discovered Swinging clubs whilst on holiday. Since then we have gone to clubs, and on Swinging holidays. We don't swap, but we do have sex where other people are having sex, or sneak off to a play room to have sex, or blow jobs in pools. To say our sexlife is fantastic, is a bit like saying rockets go fast. The sex is mindblowing; last time, in the space of about hour and half, we had a combined eight orgasms. But the amazing thing is that we have just a laugh. I fell off the bed, and she had to smother me with a pillow so I wouldn't put off the rest of the room of about 30 couples having sex off; I was having a hysterical laughing fit, then she started. The strange thing is we are so close now, and we spend all day sexting each other - it really has been the time of our lives.
I don't think my relationship is perfect and I'll admit I only have a 1/4 or less long of a relationship as some of the people posing here, but I thought it might help to get a younger person's perspective. A good reason to get this perspective is that my generation has a much lower divorce rate than the previous one so we're probably doing something right.

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What are your thoughts on Plastic Surgery?

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I think it’s alright if you are doing it with self-awareness. I don’t fully support it, specifically for people that are just doing it because it was a trend or because they want to fit in with the beauty standard. We have our reasons why we do such things and I hope we don’t get to the point where we suffer for a lifetime because of these actions.

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Jak probíhá tvůj všední den?😇

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Vstanu před pátou, jedu do práce. Ve dvě z ní odcházím a jedu směr posilka, kterou mám 5 minut cesty odtamtud. Ve čtyři jsem cca doma a pak záleží, co ještě potřebuji udělat. Uvařím, nebo aspoň si na to hraju xd (třeba zítra chci zkusit burger), pak klasicky domaci prace a nasledne chill, do doby nez prijde vecer a spanek, abych byl fit na dalsi den :)

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How long does it usually take for you to decide what to wear? Do you ever prepare what you're gonna wear in advance? 👕👖👟

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Anything from five minutes to literally two hours 😅
I can't prepare outfits in advance since my sensory processing disorder often gets in the way of what I originally wanted to wear -- depending on how sensitive I am to sensations on my skin that day, I sometimes can't handle certain fabric textures or some clothes will simple become too tight, heavy, uncomfortable or warm.
My body image (and gender dysphoria, though I don't experience this as often) can also vary from day to day, and some days it will make me super anxious, frustrated and negative/self-conscious when I try on the clothes I picked out and they don't make me feel beautiful or comfortable at all or don't seem to fit the way I imagined.
Which is probably why I tend to stick to a handful of "safe outfits" in my everyday life and only dress up when I have something special planned, like going on a date or going out with friends 😅

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How did you actively/mindfully develop your style or choose what to buy? How did you actively develop your style and mindfully choose what you buy or don't buy?

When I got the “I need to revamp my style” bug, I started by discovering - and shunning - the items that were my wardrobe “crutches.” For me it was polycotton cardigans from The Limited. When they had managed to infiltrate every outfit and I was buying them just because they were easy and I knew they fit, I knew it was time to stop. Once I figured out that cardigans were my problem items, I had a tangible problem to solve: I still liked to layer so what were some other types of layering items I could wear? That led me to discover soft, structured blazers, vests, and triangle shawls. I used Pinterest and this sub to identify what of those layering pieces I liked. My style evolved from there. Right now, I have way too many clothes and it...feels shitty. A lot of things don't fit right, because I've gained weight. But they still take up room in the closet. I need to put away my turtleneck t-shirts and long sleeve t-shirts and winter sweaters still. And there are a few things I bought but just never found the occasion to use. Being this disorganized is STRESSFUL--too much laundry and too little payoff.
When it came to buying, I looked at pieces that I had pinned a lot, like t strap heels, or fit and flare dresses and cardigans. I started making a list of what I could add to my wardrobe, and bought from there. I noticed, though, after about half a year, that I have 3 very distinct styles when it comes to modern vintage (which I feel keeps my look fresh, too. Though it's a type of uniformed style, there's so many ways in which I can wear it!). One, which is probably the one I wear most, is modern 1950s woman, especially in the summer. Fit and flare dresses, cardigans, fitted sweaters, jeans, some type of heel or wedge, cropped shirts, etc make up this style. Two, which I mostly wear during the fall and winter, is more mens wear/classic 40s inspired. Skirts and a fitted jacket, heels, oxfords, button downs, cardigans, sweaters, etc. Three, which I wear the least, but still like to wear, is WWII inspired. Army jackets, brown combat boots, silver jewelry and aviator sunglasses, etc. After noticing that, I made three separate Pinterest boards, and added all the pieces I had to each category. That helped me visualize what I had in my closet, and what I could add or take out.
When I started documenting what I wear every day (a quick morning mirror selfie) I was able to really pinpoint patterns and trends in what I actually liked to wear. Having a visual record of what you reach for makes it easy to see what your wardrobe as a whole starts looking like. From there, you can make decisions about what your favorite looks are, what you felt best in, and then use that to compare to the things you are shopping for.

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How long does it usually take for you to decide what to wear? Do you ever prepare what you're gonna wear in advance? 👕👖👟

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I always plan ahead of time what I'm going to wear for the day. I just wear a hoodie and my underwear. If I have a zoom meeting I put on one of those tuxedo t shirts so I look fancy, more fashionable and more presentable. Male. If it's work, < 3 minutes. If it's out to run errands, 3-5 minutes. If it's a job interview or a special occasion, 5-10 minutes. I just take a look inside what’s in my wardrobe that fits and then put it on. I don't want it to drag on forever. Some of the clothes I own may take priority over others. Clothing is one of the areas which I prioritise and usually go for the comfiest clothes I have in my possessions. I feel like clothing for me has always been a huge issue. I really like clothing and I like buying clothes...but I'm so picky about the way things fit. Also, I feel like I have two styles that are completely opposing eachother.
I wear a ton of pockets. Pockets are essential to life. Big pockets too. Inside my jackets I carry books. Only time I don't wear ton of pockets is when dressing professionally or formally or whatever. Then I always wear bow tie and generally a vest. If wearing suit with bow tie, may wear suspenders as they are better, but if you're just walking around with suspenders and bow tie and nothing else you look like your trying to show the whole world how you are great because you're different. Which I don't like.
I really don't care at all. Most of my shirts relate to things that I like or stuff that I just think looks nice. I do have my fair share of "nice" shirts, things like button ups and ties, but I honestly love wearing them just because I try to find really comfortable ones and I think I look pretty decent in them. The thing that I'm always a little aware of is the damn sweaters and hoodies. I realy only like wearing hoodie jackets, and for about 3 years I wore the same one everyday because it was a really awesome Zelda one. That got the point that I really can't wear it because of just wear and tear on it. I don't currently have the money to buy another one, so I'm stuck wearing ones that I've been given for xmas and birthdays and things. I really don't like any of them, but it's better than being cold. And I think that's what it comes down to for me. I dress comfortably rather than stylishly. If it happens to coincide then neat.
Simply put, I wear black exclusively. Mostly I do so because black matches with itself, so I don't have to worry about that, and it is appropriate for any occasion. The only time I am wearing anything remotely expressive is when I wear one which has some sarcastic phrase one it. However, usually I don't even realize what is on them while I am wearing them. One I had said "Keep staring, I might do a trick." Someone actually stared at me for about twenty seconds and asked me if I was going to do a trick. When I asked her what she was talking about, she pointed at my shirt. I realized what it said, thought about it, and responded with "woof."

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*شايف الحب ايه من منظورك أو احنا بنحب ليه؟*

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اجمل حاجه فى الدنيا ان الانسان يحب
و الأجمل منه .. انه يحب ويتحب .. بتبقي الجنة
انا شوفت ستات عدد شعر راسي
مفيش ولا واحدة فيهم -بصراحه- كانت تستاهل انها تحرك ده
لحد ما إلتقيتها .. عيني فوراً اصطادتها ..
بونبونايه ، ملبسايه ، بسكوتايه ، حلوه من كل الزوايا
- من هنا حلوة و من هنا حلوة و من هنا حلوة -
قلبي انفتح .. و البال سرح .. جرح الهنا فورًا نقح ..
عايز اغني .. عايز اصرخ .. نفسى ارقص .. نفسي الطم من الفرح..
حبها فى طعم الخشاف .. نفسي اشوفها جنب مني لابسه فستان الزفاف
وانا ماشي جنب منها لابس البدله الزتوني و بالطو صوف تقل اللحاف ..
مانا قلبي اصله fit .. مهما كانت أي بنت و أي ست
مستحيل من نظره أدوخ .. مستحيل من رمش أدوخ
إلا "روزيتا" هى بس اللى خشت في النفوخ
بونبونايه ، ملبسايه ، بسكوتايه ، حلوه من كل الزوايا ❤
الأستاذ فؤاد المهندس | علشان خاطر عيونك🖤

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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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something very ecological, vegan and forward thinking
a business that barely creates any waste and inspires people to do better
maybe it could sell the best vegan products or the right tools and services for people to start their own little farm on their roofs/balkony/ in their little garden/… or even create some farmland within cities for the whole community and turn the cities green
something like that

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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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I would love to have my own counselling/psychotherapy business eventually. I love working with people and am passionate about anything to do with mental health because of my own experiences. I do this in my current role to some extent but I'd love to get qualified and be my own boss!

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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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I would sell a variety of products. I would sell weed products (like edibles, vapes, bongs, etc). Need that as part of the business. I would also sell some goodies - like chips, chocolate, brownies, etc. I would include some bread in there also. It would be like a business of a little bit of everything. It wouldn't really be a sustainable model, but screw it, I'd go for it anyway.

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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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When my grandparents were young they ran a little resort. There were only about a half dozen cabins, a boat house/ dock where they rented out boats and motors. That's about all there was to the place. And the same families came to stay every summer. I'd like to run a place like that.

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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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I'd love to have a gaming cafe, with a craft room for model makers and cosplayers etc. People can get a quick game with their cake and coffee (like exploding kittens or zombie dice), or they book a table for a few hours for longer games (like D&D, Warhammer, monopoly etc). Best part? Cake!

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Say you were to start your own business, what kind of product / service would you sell? What makes you think that'd be the best fit for you? 🏷💵 (If you don't already own a business I mean lol)

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I don’t have a business yet, but I want to and I want to create all the material for all this. She will want to be pierced and work on this.
Need a small salon, appliances, piercings, etc.

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How's your love life going (relationship or even just a crush)?

Relations start off by trying to fit a new person into your life. Sometimes you make decisions to accommodate that and sometimes you can't. Personally i have learned that in the beginning stages of meeting someone, you should not try and change your life for them. Instead live your life and see if they fit into it. If someone can fit into your life along side of you and you fit into theirs, then you become the ultimate team. When partners start sacrificing things for each other then resentment sets in. Its why communication is hard. You have to give up a little dignity or sometimes embarrass yourself by taking responsibility. That stuff is really hard to do when you first meet someone. In the long run after years of building a relationship, sacrificing for each other becomes the more important task because your lives are one. Getting that point is a rocky path though. Why females are complicated though? Thats hard to say. People argue that it's a stereotype but stereotypes are born from familiarity. What makes us things girls are so complex? My own guess is the chemical level of emotion. Everyone is experiencing life differently and I for one wont be able understand the pressure females probably go through while trying to handle the average stresses so i just say they are complicated and crack open a brew. Because people are different, no matter what commonalities you have. This is why no matter what relationship thread, book or advice you read, communication is always going to be the "omg secret sauce" to relationships. Ultimately accepting the fact men and women generally think differently is going to save a lot of pain in life.
Lmao I didn't have my first real kiss until I was almost 17 and I consider myself to be an attractive woman. Don't worry about getting laid at your age, you are still really young! Don't worry about girls. That doesn't last in high school and you should just focus on school and enjoying yourself. Most of the men I have dated lost their virginity around 19 or 20. Getting into sex at too young of an age can lead to disaster. I was stupid when I first had sex my junior year of high school and found out I wasn't using protection right, that the way I was doing things was really risky pregnancy wise. I also grew really emotionally attached and things ended when he graduated, things ended so quick. It usually will and that is hard to deal with when you are younger. Wait until you can sort out emotions/horniness from logic to do any of that otherwise it can lead to disaster.
I'm confused. A guy at work has been flirting with me...or so I thought. He would ask me situational questions like hanging out and stuff, but never seemed serious about it. Then yesterday, as we were talking I asked him why he would always say random and weird things to me and he said he was being a smart ass. I kinda felt like a joke. There's a strong feeling I get whenever he comes up to talk to me, but I think I've misread the cues.

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What’s a good way to overcome awful social anxiety?

I overcame it by learning how to do magic. I was socially horrible at first so I learned magic mostly to get girls, but they ended up boosting my self confidence by miles. There's nothing better to boost confidence than hearing people compliment you. Also girls love magic so that's always a plus.
It was one of the best decisions I made. Sure, I made a lot of progress physically but man, the mental health benefits were far greater. I realized I could actually do things that I would previously only ascribe to "better" people than me. The deeper I went into my hobby of working out, the more I realized why I was starting to feel better about everything. It was because I was constantly proving MYSELF wrong. I expected to fail, I expected to embarass myself and when I would push myself just to shut that voice up and successfully do a certain lift or movement, I discovered the real me. A much more confident, fully formed human being. I don’t really get anxiety attacks. I dealt with my anxiety by forcing myself to walk up to people (usually alone) and join in on conversations and observe people. I’d say people still make me anxious but I’ve become really good at socialising even though I tend to hate it. I don’t have proper anxiety where you get attacks tho. I just get stressed and anxious the whole time, but it’s not to the extent I’ll have an attack so my comment was probably not helpful. Figured I’d comment anyway. When I was young I used to put on a facade full of confidence and if I got too scared, my voice would go up 2 octaves and I’d act cute. I hated it but it was automatic and it was frustrating because I was so scared of people and the struggle was they never new and all thought I was an introvert. I’m pretty confident in myself compared to what I used to be. I don’t really do it unless I’m around someone super intimidating. It’s just taken a lot of practice and socialising with the right people. It not really a problem for me anymore. I’ve went through the stages of wanting to fit in or questioning my identity or crushing on every guy I saw, and I’m at the stage where I’m really hungry to learn or progress in my career. I don’t have much of a career but I actually know where I want to go and do and I’m looking in to how to make things happen. I have super bad anxiety, to the point where I choose doctors and pharmacies based on whether I can email them to make appointments or refill a prescription. I apply to all of my jobs online, through the company website or snagajob. Then I wait for them to call me to set up an interview. I usually arrange for someone to drive me so I can't back out, once I get to the interview my adrenaline goes into overdrive and I turn on my reserves of charm.

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warst du schonmal in therapie? wenn ja, warum?

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Ich bin seit 12 Jahren in psychotherapeutischer Behandlung, falls du die meinst. Und seit 13 Jahren Stammpatient meiner Physiotherapie.
Zwischendurch gabs noch Kleinigkeiten, rund ein Jahr Sprechtherapie z.B..
Die Psychotherapie habe ich wegen meiner PTBS angefangen, im Moment beschäftigt sie sich aber eher mit meiner Depression und neu dazugekommenen Traumatisierungen.
Die Physiotherapie hat mich erst wegen meines operierten Knies behandelt, dann sollte darüber körperliche Rehabilisierung mittels KG (quasi ein "Fit machen") stattfinden, typische Fehlbehandlung bei ME/CFS halt. Dazu kamen dann MT/Massagen wegen meiner Dauerverspannungen und mittlerweile endlich die richtige Behandlung mittels Lymphdrainage, von Zeit zu Zeit MT/Massagen gegen Verspannungen und ab und zu eine Art Nothilfe, falls mir mal wieder ein paar notwendige Muskeln flöten gehen.
Die Sprechtherapie habe ich aufgesucht, weil ich (psychisch bedingt, wie sich dann rausstellte) oft nicht mehr sprechen konnte. Meine Therapeutin führte die Therapie trotz relativ wenig körperlich möglichen Hilfestellungen so lange weiter, weils mir verdammt gut tat.

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Have you ever been despised by anyone?

🌷 Whoever needs to hear this👇
At some point in our life, there will be people who will despise us no matter what. People can despise you for your thoughts, choices in life, or even the things you don't have control of. Mostly, it's for seeing you as an obstacle, not having the same ideas, expectations, beliefs or plans as their's. But hey, who doesn't get worked up to see a piece of a puzzle that doesn't seem to fit in? It's okay. Eventually, they'll get over it and will realise you are your own masterpiece.

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What do you hate about shopping?

Yes - shirts are never long enough. It's hard in a professional environment where you get something, realize it stops right at your natural waist, so when you bend over to file something you risk it riding up and showing your back. Heaven forbid if a little of your underwear band shows because they are a different cut from your pants...My best friend has a large bust, short torso, broad shoulders. If something fits in the top, it's baggy/boxy at the waist. Proper fit at the waist means it's too tight across the top. And getting a larger size for the shoulders could mean some square and v-neck shirts show too much. I have a smaller bust, longish torso, pear shaped. Shirts regularly are not long enough, or if they are long they aren't generous enough at the hips. I went to walmart a few days ago and food stamps had just hit so EVERYONE was there. There were kids that couldn't have been much older than 10 climbing on shelves, throwing large rubber balls, knocking over displays, you name it it happened. Moms with kids hanging off the buggy, babies standing and jumping in the kid seat, fighting with the cashier because they can't buy cigarettes without a legal ID. Grown ass men pushing people out of the way so they could get their own crap first. Like fuck man, I'm hear for a box of bandaids, don't touch me! I yelled at a family of strangers because all the kids had a bike horn and dad was basically conducting an orchestra. Clothing shopping: I have bad self-esteem. I used to never want to go clothes shopping because I felt I just looked ugly or dumb in anything so why try. Nowadays, I still have not the best self-esteem, but I at least try and find things I think are cute, regardless of whether I look cute in them or not. I still have no idea how to match clothes either apparently, if my mother has anything to say about it. Like female fashion is so ducking weird. I can't keep up with it, if I think it goes together then it's gonna go together. Grocery shopping: I'm the kind of shopper that lets everyone else go first. Like when you accidentally almost bump into someone around a corner and you both just like motion for the other person to go, I always let the other person go first. Or like, if it's crowded in the aisle, I'll always try and make more room by trying to take up less space. But goddamnit. I'm about done with that. Now, I'll just about run you the fuck over if you're being rude about the whole shopping etiquette. I've had one to many nasty people just pushing themselves past me or practically shoving me out of the way or just cutting me off without apologizing. If I'm in the grocery store now, it's every man for himself (unless you're can remember your manners). I hate when I stop by a store and see something really cute and affordable, but when I go to purchase it the line is extremely long.

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Is shopping a form of entertainment for you?

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I depends on my mood/energy levels, who I'm with, how much time I have, how busy the store/mall is, whether I'm broke and will find the experience depressing because I can't afford anything, and what I'm shopping for (shoes and pants can go die, but decorations for the house, nice lotions, makeup or pet toys are ridiculously fun).
I hate physically shopping in stores unless I know there is something there that I want. I am impatient, and if one store doesn't have anything great that means I potentially have to go spend another 20 minutes in the next one with the same luck.
I have to really be in the mood to shop, which is super rare actually. When I do go shopping, it has to be quick because my mood will start going downhill the longer it takes. Which it takes a long time because when I do go, I have to find jeans, and try on a jillion of them, but lo and behold, they never fit me properly! Also, I love hanging out with my sister, but my god, I can't shop with her. She has to look at every.single.thing.
I love shopping for home stuff like furniture, curtains, etc., online or in person. I sometimes like to shop for clothes but I easily get overwhelmed so I stick with smallish boutiques. If I have to go to a bigger store or a mall, then I usually know what I'm going for, get it, get out. I never shop for clothes online though if I like a pair of shoes for example, I'll try em on in the store and see if I can find them cheaper online.
My feet end up hurting and my attention gets lost when I spend too long in a mall. I am obsessed with online shopping. I don't buy very often, but I browse a shitton. Clothes and makeup almost exclusively. I really really really like online shopping. I'm one of those people that doesn't usually need to try things on first, unless it's a big purchase. I know my size well, and even if it ends up not fitting, I just kind of make it work or don't let it bother me and just consider it a loss.
Eh, it depends. I don't really like clothes shopping all that much, especially since I have a hard time finding styles I like, so it can take hours and several different stores before I find a single pair of shoes. Grocery shopping is all right; I've been teaching myself to cook and I like planning out meals and getting all the ingredients I need. If I'm stopping at a nerd store like a comic book shop or a bookstore I will spend hours just browsing and enjoying every minute of it.
Often, if I'm shopping for clothes or shoes I'll look at it online first, so I know what's available where, and then go to the shop, pick it up, try it on before I buy it. Actual shops, for a long period of time when I don't know what I'm looking for specifically get pretty boring pretty quickly, or they are too crowded and overwhelming.

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Ti se pare frumos din partea prietenului meu sa imi zica ca el nu mai are chef sa faca nimic cu mine ca vezi doamne sunt mai dolofana?

Da, doar stiai ce fel de om ai alaturi, asa ca nu inteleg frustrarea. Logic, nu are o atutudine ok, dar daca vrea sa aiba o tipa slim fit alaturi de el, e alegerea lui, iar tu trebuia sa stii deja asta. E asa amuzant cand va treziti ca aveti maimute langa voi si sunteti surprinse. Mda, relatii bazate pe muuult creier și comunicare.

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How comfy would you say that your own bed is? How thick are your sheets, mattress cover etc.? Is there anything you'd want to improve about it? 🛏😌

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Now it has the new mattress topper, omg it's amazing!
The mattress topper is just over an inch in thickness.
My sheets are currently very lightweight cuz they're designed to keep you cool in the Summer lol and then my duvet is pretty chunky lol
Only thing I'd change is I'd love a double bed lol but it wouldn't fit in my room xD

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How comfy would you say that your own bed is How thick are your sheets mattress

What physical atributes do you feel self conscious about?

I hate my smile. I grew up hating it because of my horrible teeth, but after I got braces and more or less fixed that, I still just can't stand how my face looks when I'm smiling. It actually makes me a bit sick to look at pictures of myself smiling knowing that that's what I look like to everyone around me. I think I usually look pretty good when not smiling, though, provided my hair is styled well. I've also always hated my voice. I haven't actually heard a decent recording of it in years, so I honestly have almost no idea what I actually sound like now, but I'm terrified that if I listen to it I'll hate it and lose what self-confidence I've managed to build up since high school and have even more trouble talking to people. I've always had a lot of trouble not speaking monotone and one of the main problems I have with flirting is I can't imagine how I'd sound saying things and it seems like it would be so horribly cringy. I could also stand to be a bit less skinny. I don't feel the need to get super ripped or anything (for one thing, none of my clothes would fit anymore), but if I could at least upgrade from pre-serum Steve Rodgers to, say, Titanic-era Leonardo DiCaprio or pretty Japanese boyband singer that'd be nice. My past. I've just been through a lot and I'm afraid to get too close to people as friends or in new relationships. I'm afraid of people feeling sorry for me or thinking I have too much baggage or finding out anything about me and who I used to be. I'm good at joking around with people and maintaining surface level relationships, but I can't really connect on an intimate level with anyone anymore. I've become so private that i really only talk about any negative emotions I'm experiencing here on reddit. I feel like I have to be happy all the time publicly or no one will like me.
I've lost a lot of weight and my thighs did not snap back. I have a lot of extra skin and they don't really have a shape, unless you call sagging a shape. It makes me self-conscious sometimes and not feel confident in some of the items that I wear. It also saddens me that there are items that are just completely off the table for me - like, most shorts or rompers or anything form-fitting on my thighs.
I used to say my weight, but I'm losing it bit by bit, so not that so much anymore, but lately my hair. I used to have stupid curly blond hair that was down to my ass that I loved. But after I stopped coloring it and cut it a couple of times, its just been getting wavy and not as curly. So now I scrunch it and hit it with a curling wand to get my curls back when I want them. I then get compliments and asked if its natural- but it used to be? but isn't anymore really? Then everyone looks disappointed that I did it myself and i feel like I'm fibbing. which is stupid.

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I don't belong anywhere. How can I fit in somewhere?

Even after I try. I feel people ding me different. They're ok with me at first but eventually they start pulling away. I think I'm making myself too available. I don't see it as being too available but simply reliable. I should probably try to find people more like me...nerdy people...but those people usually don't like doing much. I'm a very adventurous introvert. It's hard for me to find people like myself. I believe I have a similar situation. I have a lot of "general friends", but they are all part of different groups so I don't do much with them outside of school. To a stranger, it would seem that I have 3 closer friends because we hang out with each other a lot but tbh, I wouldn't call us true friends as we do some pretty mean shit to each other keeping us not close. Just this week I found myself with almost nothing to do as school is over. I live in the city so there's not a whole lot to do without paying up, so I just find myself playing video games most of the days with my so-called "closer friends" and strangers online. Even then I feel lonely because we usually don't play with each other until the late evening. I just want to have some closer friends that are nice and want to do things with me so that I'm not stuck in my house doing nothing on some days.
I spent my entire childhood and teens with one or no friends. I'm incredibly particular who I let close to me. I made that choice when I had various friends around who ditched me, lied about me, or treated me like crap. As an adult I have one close friend who is more like a sister to me. I can imagine you're feeling somewhat depressed. I can imagine that you are feeling lonely. Something I've learned in my life is I really had to get comfortable with myself and with being alone. I happen to already be a pretty extreme introvert already so that actually helps me. Making friends, real friends, isn't easy for me. I've had to work at the friendship because my natural inclination is to be alone. But you really don't need to be outgoing to make friends you just need to be genuinely open to the idea. Try not to keep thinking like you are which is easier said than done but vital to you getting through this. If there's something you enjoy doing then start there. If you have the mindset that you'll never fit in or you'll never have friends, believe me, that's exactly what will happen.
No one belongs to anyone or anywhere. We all are merely passing by on this beautiful journey. Each of us is different and unique. With layers of complexities. Seek. Learn. Explore. In your own way. Misfits are the ones that have brought new things into this world. Meditate.
Forget about keeping up with the joneses and just cut loose. That would be great. But we're stuck in our jobs, stuck trying to be better than someone else, I'm stuck and I feel helpless to do anything about it. So yeah, you're not alone in this.

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Have you tried to fit in yourself in a world you don’t really belong? Have you tried to be someone you’re not just to please the people you don’t really like? How does it feel?

Guilty as charged. I'm a born people pleaser and struggle to hold my own identity. I wouldn't say I was desperate to fit in, more scared of standing out.
These days I feel more alienated than ever. I don’t want to understand people and I don’t care if they don’t understand me. It’s not depression or petulance. I know more than I care to about both of those things. Right now, my fantasy life would be quite literally to live alone on some rural property in Idaho or Colorado, about an hour away from the nearest city and drive in once a week to get groceries and then go back to being a hermit.
I have some extreme social anxiety issues. I manage the best I can but the entire world seems to be part of some secret socializing mastery club that I wasnt invited to. I often get asked why I don't just "be myself" or get suggestions to "speak more". some people I meet think theyre providing me with revolutionary wisdom by saying those things above. Very few people in the real world outright admit to having speaking problems, including me, so its hard to truly relate with anyone.
I have this overwhelming feeling I will end up with an immortal curse. Since I was little I have had this feeling that I will survive longer than anyone I know. Having to watch everyone I've ever known die before I do. I don't know why. I have thought out my "life" were this situation actually happen. Huge plans. I feel like I am in some perpetual state of 'just passing through.' Nowhere where I've been has ever really felt like 'home', except for a place that is roughly 2100 miles away from what could be considered my 'home'. I especially feel like no one understands the relationship that my husband and I have. I feel like, especially on reddit recently, I don't even fit in, where last year, at least I sort of felt like I belonged. It's not the fact that I don't feel like I should be in this world, but I feel like I was born in the wrong generation. Like I feel like I should've been born in a time where nothing has a gender. Like makeup and clothes and stuff like that. Like the 80s I feel like that's the time I should've grown up in and not in this era. If I died tomorrow and God asked me if there's a time that I wish to live in it would so be born in the 70s to grow up in the 80s. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
Yes and no. I've felt for a long time like I don't belong here but not because I'm special and belong somewhere else. It's more like I, myself, am a glitch in the matrix type thing. I'm not supposed to exist. My dad can't have kids but here I am and yes we've gotten a DNA test. People forgot about me a lot at school, on field trips, my best friends when I was in elementary school forgot I existed, teachers marked me absent when I was actually there, people don't usually feel my presence when I walk up and stand next to them, I slipped through the cracks every step of my life.

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Do you prefer to live alone? Why or why not?

I prefer to live alone over the alternative (finding roommates online). Finding roommates who'd be a decent fit is hard and could be risky. I live in Utah and don't want to live with an obnoxious mormon who'd give me crap about all the things I do that the church doesn't approve of (the more extreme ones would even sabotage or throw away things they don't like such as alcohol or a coffee maker) and most of the more mild ones would give me crap for it. But the alternative isn't much better as like many other super religious areas a large portion of the small non religious population is a backlash to the strong control and does drugs or other illegal things. Being associated with those people could ruin my life and career since I currently have to keep a security clearance and the investigation is quite invasive.
I don't live alone, but I sure would love to. I live with four other people (family) and it's brutal at this time of the year. Only one of them is currently working - my youngest sister is on break from uni, my second youngest sister is between jobs, and my mom works at a school so she's on break. I work, but I have odd hours and my days off are Monday and Wednesday. So there's a lot of people around the house and that shit gets pretty fucking annoying. We just end up stepping on each other's toes a lot. Wish I could move out but it's damn expensive in the UK right now and I don't know anyone who'd live with me. Only option is to wait until September when they go back to uni/work and hope my sister can find a new job by then. Then I'll be able to spend my days off in peace.
I have achieved the situation where I am more comfortable being alone wondering if I should go visit someone or invite someone than live with someone else but wish desperately I could have more control over my own life. I really enjoy being alone. So... do any and everything that you love. I spent days in the park just reading books. I took long walks. At night I'd sit on my porch and watch the sun set. I also would set my alarm early and have coffee on my porch and watch the sunrise in the mornings. I practiced cooking amazing meals. At the time I didn't have television or internet, so my home was my peaceful place. If I did want to be around people then I would schedule outings with friends, museum trips, day trips to the beach, baseball games. But mostly I enjoyed being at home alone.
I'm so tired of cleaning up others messes. I'm so tired of immediately cleaning up my own messes, no matter how exhausted I am, because I don't want to bother people I live with. I'm so tired of my shit getting moved around/fucked with when I'm not around. I'm so tired of constantly modifying my behavior to accommodate others. I'm so tired of compromising on EVERYTHING. I feel you friend.

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APPEARANCE ➥ What is your eye color? What kind of hair (short, long, curly) and hair colour do you have? How would you describe your body type (slim, fit, muscular, built, toned, frail, curvy)? How tall are you?

megansworld932’s Profile Photomegan
Augenfarbe: Haselnussbraun
Haare: Wuschelig. Mal lang. Mal kurz. Ständig wechselnd.
Haarfarbe: eigentlich schwarz. Aber ich liebe es, sie zu bleichen und immer wieder neue Farben auszuprobieren
Bodytype: slim
Körpergröße: 1,75 m

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هل انتى كبنت ممكن تفضلى إنك ترتبطى بشخص عادى على الارتباط بشخص fit وجسمه حلو خوفاً من إنه not doing enough لظنه كفاية إنه وسيم مثلا؟

أهم حاجة القبول يا جماعة غير كده هبل بدل شكلا مقبول ويكون بيتقي ربنا كفاية ويكون فيه تكافؤ بين الاتنين متعقدوش الأمور

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