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Do you believe that there’s such a thing as finding the right person but at the wrong time or do you think that if they were actually right for you, the timing wouldn’t matter?

I do believe that there is such a thing as finding the right person but at the wrong time. Sometimes, external factors like life circumstances, personal issues, or career goals can get in the way of a relationship, even if the two individuals are compatible and right for each other. In those cases, the timing can play a significant role in whether or not a relationship can work at that moment, despite the connection being there.

What’s your idea of self care?

tristanandiseult3’s Profile PhotoMarie Serendipity
I would say it's taking care of both your body and mind.
If the "body" part is quite clear, the part about "mind" implies controlling your thoughts (not negative/destructive thoughts allowed), surrounding yourself with mentally healthy and adequate people that won't intentionally drag you back from your goals and decisions, etc.

What do you miss about your school-going days?

zaidwali915’s Profile PhotoZaid Wali
– How, because it was a very small one consisting of only 150 students, I knew everybody. And when I say everybody, I mean it. I was literally friends with this grade 1 student, she wrote an essay on me for the topic "best friend."
– How I'd play head and tails with everyone during free periods. We were SO loud.
– At the back of our class, we had this empty place without any seats. Whenever we had a free unit, we all sat on the floor. Collective floor time??? Hello??? We were literal goals.
– My classmates. I will never vibe with humans like I vibe with them. I love them so much it hurts.
– Luca. That kitten. I adopted him for a month before he went away :(
– I was a prefect. During break time, I was assigned the duty of supervising the "ground" where students of grade 4 till grade 7 were allowed. Sab badmaash thay. I miss handling them.
– We had two consecutive units of Economics on Mondays in grade 9, and my teacher would ask me to sit in front right after entering the class because I always fell asleep.
– The gossip. We'd talk about everything.
– PT. Please, the best unit ever. I miss Tuesdays.
– MY ART TEACHER. I used to bully him and he'd let me. Love that old dude.
– Van times. We had a group, we'd wait for everyone to leave so we could play Kings.
– Singing all the time.
– One time, a class fellow lost his brother. We all cried with him.
– How I'd see my Chemistry teacher enter school and he'd laugh at my grimace every single day. I always used to tell him to take a goddamn break.

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There's nothing to be better than to fück while single.Stfu.How can a man stay with a woman forever???Thats insane.

It's not insane. You don't like it then don't commit to someone simple, just because you can't do it doesn't mean other men can't. There are men out there who believe it or not actually want to grow up and build a life for themselves and settle down and have kids, those men know what they want and are grown and mature.
I'm sorry you'll never have that mindset and you'll never know what it feels like to have someone love you unconditionally and support you in your life and goals. What a shame.

What do you do to stay alert and motivated during an intense work / study day? 🔋

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
Well, when I have a lot of work or studying to do, I try to take breaks and set small goals for myself throughout the day. I also find it helpful to switch up my environment now and then. Sometimes just moving from my desk to the couch or going outside for some fresh air can help give me a new burst of energy. And of course, making sure I am taking care of my physical needs like sleep and nutrition is important too. 🌻

Changing every day requires a big effort and less laziness.You are supposed to accept your man with all his flaws and smell tf.

1. Changing takes 30 seconds....
2. My man isn't lazy. Just bc you are doesn't mean everyone else is😂
3. My man doesn't smell
4. I do accept him for who he is. And who he is is a grown ass man who can take care of himself & has goals for his life.

How would you describe your ideal work space? 💻🗃️🔧

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
I’ve noticed that air quality and light is so important!
My ideal workspace isn’t all too bright. I have photophobia, so I’m sensitive to light. It shouldn’t be too dark either, otherwise I have to squeeze my eyes harder and that’s exhausting.
I like a place that is not too quiet, but not too loud either, but if I really have to I can also work in loud environments.
I don’t want a lot of movement around me, so I prefer to be in a desk cell or just a room remotely from other people.
Besides that, I like to have a lot of place for movement. I implemented a lot of activities in my therapy sessions and I need to have the space (and the materials) for it. The cabinets at work are full of toys, games and other handy tools I can use to make our goals tactile and fun.
I mean, look how cute these little figures are!

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How would you describe your ideal work space

I mean "thakk gayi hoon ab main". Ik its too early to say that. But it is what it is. I find no motivation for myself anymore.

Malaika_1010’s Profile Photoسنو!
Get up , look at your parents , see yourself in the mirror , you can do it my brave girl , fight back the world and work hard to achieve your goals. Loads of prayers for you.♥️

Is it more important to be happy or to be fulfilled?

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I think that happiness and fulfilment are both important in their ways - but they can also be interrelated, when we feel fulfilled by our work or relationships, as an example, it often leads to greater feelings of happiness as well. Ultimately though – I believe that striving for fulfillment is perhaps more meaningful than just chasing after temporary moments of happiness. When we set goals and pursue them with passion and purpose, even if there are setbacks along the way, we can experience a deeper sense of satisfaction knowing that we're working towards something truly meaningful.
So while it is certainly possible and desirable to experience both happiness and fulfilment in life, I would say that focusing on the latter may ultimately lead us down a more satisfying path overall. 🌻

Do you think it’s better to be useful or inspirational?

tristanandiseult3’s Profile PhotoMarie Serendipity
I believe that being useful and inspirational are not mutually exclusive - in fact – they often go hand in hand. When we use our talents and skills to make a positive impact on others, inspire them to achieve their goals or overcome challenges, it can be one of the most fulfilling things we can do with our lives.
So I don't think it's necessarily better to prioritize one over the other - instead, strive for both. Find ways to help others while also sharing your unique gifts and perspectives with the world. That way we will not only be making a difference but also inspiring others along the way. 🌻

Can long distance relationships work? And why?

Checking in with one another daily and using full range to keep in touch. Video call weekly, be creative in ways of bonding, virtual dates, and make a realistic bucket list. Be honest with your wants, needs, and goals. Have real intimacy and read sxxual books or buy vibrator. Open communication and vulnerability. Do trust building exercises.
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How to overcome trauma of divorced parents?

I cannot even imagine having to overcome such a trauma. I believe it is one of the most painful things a person has to endure in his or her life. Just keep yourself busy with your goals and surround yourself with supportive people. If it gets too hard, consult with a psychologist. Trust me, they really help you navigate through such complicated scenarios.

What do you think is our deepest desire?

zaidwali915’s Profile PhotoZaid Wali
Finding happiness, fulfillment, & meaning in our lives. We all seek different things tht bring us joy and purpose, whether it's through relationships, personal growth, achieving goals, or making a positive impact on the world. It's all about finding what truly makes us feel alive and content.

What are your most common negative thoughts? Are they logical?

fried_brainiac420’s Profile PhotoSarr Dard
I think everyone has negative thoughts from time to time - it is just part of being human and I know it might sound strange but sometimes I worry that I am not doing enough or being productive enough in my life. Or I will get caught up in comparing myself to others and feeling like I am not measuring up.
But again, when these negative thoughts start creeping in, I try to take a step back and remind myself that everyone has their unique journey and pace. And instead of beating myself up over what I haven't accomplished yet, I focus on the things that are going well for me and take small steps towards my goals each day. It is not always easy to stay positive or keep those negative thoughts at bay but reminding myself of my worth and potential is something that helps me stay grounded even when things feel tough. 🌻

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What do you find inspirational in life?

tristanandiseult3’s Profile PhotoMarie Serendipity
Countless things inspire me and I feel overwhelmed in life by them but mostly seeing people overcome adversity and find strength in themselves they didn't know they had. There is something truly awe-inspiring about watching someone push past their limits and achieve their goals, no matter how big or small. 🌻✨️.

Do you struggle to fake it, and make it in this world?

FreshICYGirl’s Profile PhotoBe Yourself Always
When it comes to confidence, I can struggle to fake it until I’m actually confident one day but I’ve been told that being confident alone doesn’t get you anywhere unless you also take action. I do think that believing in oneself and some confidence is needed in order to be more productive and motivated to reach your goals tho. I don’t struggle with the faking it part but making it to the places I want to be seems more difficult to do on my own as I’ve always relied on my family. Having depression and social anxiety usually does hold me back from being productive and taking chances in life. But, the good thing is that I am able to socialize with others irl when I train myself to pretend as if I’m not the alien I make myself out to be in my head at times.

How long would you say you need to date your partner before you get married? (your personal opinion)

esqjas’s Profile PhotoJas ❥
Hm, I don’t know to be honest. Marriage isn’t the end goal of a relationship for me. I’d be happy if I just dated someone for the rest of my life, honestly. I mean, I know people in my family who never got married and just had one partner for their whole lives regardless. And it makes things a lot easier if you were to separate, you don’t need to worry about divorce and how messy that can be. 😅
But, to give you some kind of answer, I’d say maybe 7-10 years? It seems like a reasonable amount of time, you get to have a lot of memories/experiences together, you really get to know someone well, likely get a chance to live together for a while, see how much of your goals, futures, etc, align, and so on. 🤔
Now, I’m not in a relationship, so this could go right out the window in the future, but at the moment, that’s what I’m thinking. I just really want both my partner and I to be totally confident that this is the right decision for us. ☺️

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What do you do to try and keep a healthy diet? Like, to not cave into your cravings etc. 🍌🍏🥗

TobbeAsks’s Profile PhotoTobbe
This might sound counterproductive, but I find that honoring my cravings actually helps me to stick to eat healthier. In the past I used to have this awful, awful "all or nothing" mentality when it came to dieting and all it did was make my cravings a 100x worse. It's what I like to call the forbidden fruit effect (or in this case, I guess it's the forbidden chocolate effect), if you tell yourself you can't have something, the more alluring it becomes...
... And the more alluring something is, the HARDER it is to keep yourself from transforming into a hangry little gremlin who will not rest until they have devoured every last piece of chocolate in sight.
These days I strive for balance over perfection. I find ways to work the foods I enjoy into my diet, in a way that still allows me to reach my goals. It makes it a lot easier for me to keep to a healthy diet in the long-term. 🤣🍫

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مساحة 🖋️💚..........

What is your biggest fear ?
- My biggest fear is attachment,
to get attached to temporary people, to wake up one day and find that they aren’t here anymore, to spend all my time on things that aren’t destined to be mine, To put all my energy and passion in goals and dreams that aren’t meant to be.
I fear that I spend too much time walking in the wrong destination.

Do you miss middle and high school?

juantheman968490’s Profile PhotoJuan Carlos Agosto
Sometimes I do, even tho I do regret not making the most out of those years and the fact that I wasn’t consistent with my goals and friendships back then. At the start of middle school I made a close friend, was working out and physically active because I wanted to lose weight so I did just that, and I really liked how I didn’t care much about what people thought of me because my goals and making friends were more important/everything to me. In seventh grade, my close friend and I separated due to no longer having any classes together. I felt lost because I didn’t have anyone to “guide” me through life and I became a class clown by trying to impress my peers, which only ruined my reputation while I thought I was doing myself a favor in the meantime. In eight grade, I stopped being the class clown and felt more emotionally stable when I was on antidepressants and I was enjoying the sleepovers I had with friends on the weekends then going to my volleyball practice afterwards. Unfortunately, the friend group that I was a part of separated when I started high school and that’s when I truly felt alone but also didn’t have anyone I could confide in because I no longer had a close friend I could reach out to in high school. I ended up not caring about my grades/not taking the future into consideration and was really lost in life until junior year of high school when I started caring about my grades more. Senior year also went by with me caring about my grades. When I finally graduated and attended college, I became a homebody as a result of Covid-19 and because I didn’t interact with/see other students, I felt unmotivated all over again. I’m still living with the mistakes I’ve made as a freshman in college and have yet to graduate. I want to be excited about living again, the way I was back when I was in sixth grade 😔

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Would you say you're a strong or weak person?

I am a blend of both cause there are times when I feel vulnerable or overwhelmed by the challenges life throws my way. But through self-reflection and seeking support from loved ones when needed, I try to build my resilience and find ways to cope with difficult situations. I believe whether we see ourselves as strong or weak is often a matter of perspective - but what matters most is how we respond to those feelings and continue moving forward towards our goals. 🌻

If they do it by choice, I'd guess it's attachment. I don't think it's inherently wrong. It's just how they prefer to live. There is no 'correct' way of living, no matter what society might pressure you or bully you into. Not everyone has the same ideals or life goals and that's fine.

People can do what they want. I really don’t care. But I wasn’t about to be in a relationship with a 40 something man living with his parents with no income. I don’t care about money but I’m not going to support a man.

How would you describe a functional person?

If you can get yourself to take showers regularly or take care of yourself in other ways and have found ways to prevent depression or other problems from taking full control over your life, if you can usually express yourself and your needs to others, if you can make rational and/or good decisions for the most part, if you can focus on tasks and have goals that you’re working towards accomplishing, and if you can have healthy relationships with others then you’re a functional person overall (in my opinion).

What holds people back from pursuing their goals/dreams? What would you tell them to combat this obstacle?

tristanandiseult3’s Profile PhotoMarie Serendipity
To achieve your dreams you have to be a very intelligent person, everything is possible in this world, as long as you are alive."
"Strive. Never give up. Stay firm in everything. Don't forget your principles. Take risks, set goals. Be a positive person. The main thing is honesty, integrity and unity. 💯💕🌷🤠
What holds people back from pursuing their goalsdreams What would you tell them

Do you think we play a part in reshaping our destinies or is it all pre-planned already?

I always believe that our destinies are shaped by a combination of factors - some predetermined and others within our control – like there may be certain events or circumstances in life that we can't change no matter how hard we try but at the same time I think we have the power to make choices and take actions that can help us move towards the future we want.
I like to think of it as a sort of dance between fate and free will. We might not have complete control over what happens to us, but we can choose how we respond and adapt to those situations and by taking responsibility for our own lives and making intentional choices based on our values and goals. 🌻

Why people doesn't face it with courage?

ibnadam5’s Profile PhotoAHAD
I think there are many reasons why people may struggle to face challenges or difficult situations with courage. Sometimes it is just fear yk uncertainty, or self-doubt that can hold us back from taking risks and pursuing our goals. — Other times external factors like societal pressures or negative experiences in the past can make it hard to believe in ourselves and our abilities. But I also believe that everyone has the capacity for bravery and resilience - sometimes we just need a little extra support or encouragement along the way. 🌻

Share some life lessons

toocoldtohandle’s Profile Photoم
1- Never let anybody know your secrets. Don't let them know your vulnerable side. They will use it against you in the longer run. Even if they're closest friends and family, they don't need to know about your secrets and low moments in life.
2- It will take courage to stand up for yourself. If you keep giving people chances to hurt you over and over without any retaliation or counter strike from your side, you will one day lose yourself completely. Don't let it come to that point. Put up a damn good fight against injustice.
3- Don't lose sight of your goals. Be successful. One day, your success will take you to heights that your abusers won't be able to reach.
4- Never stop on your way to throw stones at every barking dog on the road. Eyes on the prize, keep going towards your destination.
5- Don't lose your charm. Don't lose your kindness, spark, intelligence, personality, or any other good trait just because some dummy couldn't appreciate it.

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Why do some people bring out the best in us while others bring out the worst in us?

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Good question Merve! In my opinion... the world is overpopulated and you'll find people without any goals whatsoever. When they have nothing to fight for they will become obnoxious, and their negativity rubs off on anybody who is around them. Even when you try your best to avoid them they still will manage to bring toxicity into your life because that's what they feel they're good at.

How to stay strong when everything is falling apart?

Adeeena__’s Profile PhotoYennefer
Make a list of your goals in order to your desires or dreams or fears or anytbing, and keep your focus on the top two... When you miss #1 don't sit back to cry over it. Instead move on to the 2nd one instantly and never stop pushing... It won't let you fall apart...

Is it possible to be mistaken when looking at yourself in the mirror?

deeda_dahi’s Profile PhotoXalaam
I think it is possible to have a distorted view of ourselves when we look in the mirror. Our perceptions can be influenced by so many factors - our mood, self-esteem, past experiences, and even external pressures from society or social media. Sometimes we might focus too much on our flaws or imperfections and fail to see the beauty and strength within us — but at the same time, it is so important not to discount what we see in the mirror altogether. By taking an honest look at ourselves - both physically and emotionally - we can gain greater insight into who we are and where we stand in relation to our goals and aspirations. It is all about finding balance between self-reflection and self-compassion. 🌻
Is it possible to be mistaken when looking at yourself in the mirror

Do you think it’s possible for depression to make it harder for someone to focus on their work? I’ve been feeling more depressed than usual, am so absentminded when it comes to my assignments, and am also determined to change my life yet doing nothing while being on a high dosage of antidepressants.

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
Of course it makes it harder, but it’s not impossible. Trust me, I didn’t have much motivation up until the last few years. I forced myself to do things, even when I wanted to stay in bed. I felt stuck for so long because I did the “stay at home” thing so my Husband could work on himself, and you do eventually get use to not focusing on your own goals, but I got myself out of that rut. I didn’t think I’d ever get to where I am now, either, but I managed to do well for myself, and that’s on top of dealing with CPTSD. It’s hard changing things when they’ve been the same for so long, but you can do it. I’m sorry you’ve been feeling more depressed, but give yourself more credit. Don’t be harsh on yourself either! ☺️

Do you believe people choose to be with their own kind for the most part (meaning having a preference for those who have the same religious beliefs as them, same ethnicity, same background, etc.)?

Froyh’s Profile PhotoMerve
I do believe that as humans, we choose our own preferences on the basis of freedom but our external factors heavily influence it at times. I think ultimately it can influence us into thinking that what is best for us.. really isn’t.
Sometimes, we need to be able to decipher what is best for our own selves, even if it doesn’t align with the goals and dreams that our own family has possibly set out for us. The reason I say this is because you only have you at the end of the day (on Earth).
You have to learn that disappointing others based on our own personal choices isn’t your own issue. So to conclude, I do think we have the ability to choose our own path regardless of where we come from. Just remembering that it won’t always be about what others depict our lives to be. I know I went off topic but I thought it tied into the question lol.

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I'm a really nice person, i just wish people would respect my boundaries. Do you set boundaries?

ItsTiffyTime’s Profile PhotoGeorgie
Yes, it's healthy boundaries, green flags are Trust: Mutual trust and reliability are essential components of a healthy friendship. When both friends feel secure and can depend on each other, it's a green flag.
Respect: Respect for each other's boundaries, opinions, and feelings is crucial in any friendship. When both friends demonstrate respect and consideration for each other, it's a green flag.
Communication: Open, honest, and effective communication is key to maintaining a strong friendship. When friends can communicate openly and resolve conflicts constructively, it's a green flag.
Support: Friends who support each other through both good times and bad demonstrate a strong bond. When friends offer emotional support, encouragement, and help when needed, it's a green flag.
Equality: Healthy friendships are built on equality and balance, with both friends contributing equally to the relationship. When there is a sense of reciprocity and fairness in the friendship, it's a green flag.
Empathy: Friends who show empathy and understanding towards each other's feelings and experiences foster a compassionate friendship. When friends listen attentively, validate each other's emotions, and offer empathy, it's a green flag.
Shared Values: Having shared values, interests, and goals can strengthen a friendship and provide a sense of connection. When friends share common beliefs, hobbies, or life goals, it's a green flag.
Resilience: Friendships that withstand challenges and obstacles demonstrate resilience and durability. When friends can overcome conflicts, disagreements, or periods of distance and remain connected, it's a green flag.
Overall, green flags indicate a positive and healthy friendship characterized by mutual respect, trust, communication, support, and shared values. Recognizing and nurturing these green flags can help cultivate and maintain strong and fulfilling friendships.

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What makes you more vulnerable? Darkness or light? Lonely nights or shouting crowds? Yourself or strangers? Silence or noise? Past or future? Trust of skepticism? Acceptance or rejection? Change or stability?

deeda_dahi’s Profile PhotoXalaam
Nothing makes you vulnerable once you decide to achieve something. Goals matter every other thing becomes useless

So Why always moon! When there are stars to be cherished and praised. Sometimes the things that are shiny and attract us aren't what we need, just having the hollow desire to chase.

“Sometimes, amidst the applause and celebration of reaching our goals, we find ourselves standing in the shadow of our own expectations.
For some, the journey to success unveils a bittersweet truth: that happiness doesn't always reside at the summit of achievement. It's in those moments of quiet reflection, where the echoes of unmet desires linger, that we realize our quest for fulfillment was a journey of self-discovery all along." 🥹

Is it true that we should behave maturely?

AhmadBakheitMndo’s Profile Photo∆HMED
I think it is important to define what we mean by "mature" — If by mature we mean taking responsibility for our actions, treating others with kindness and respect, and making decisions based on long-term goals rather than short-term impulses then yes, I believe that behaving in a mature way is crucial to living a fulfilling life. But at the same time, I don't think being mature means sacrificing all of the fun or spontaneity in life. It is sookay to let loose sometimes and enjoy ourselves - as long as we are not hurting ourselves or others in the process. So maybe it's about finding a balance between responsibility and joy. 🌻

Do u think money can buy happiness?

ahmed_bhailog400’s Profile PhotoAhmed
okay so happiness for me atm is to be able to work on my purpose. for this, i need a person/system to discipline and guide and motivate me throughout (also educate me). if i had enough money i could hire someone or be a part of some institute to help me achieve my goals. but i have tried that and it didnt help as well. maybe i couldnt find the right people or institutions. maybe i should just work on myself instead of blaming the people and the system hm so no is the answer to your question. i do need thori si money so i can fulfill my chota sa dream lekin baqi saray kaamon ke liye i need himmat more than money hm

Is this only me ya majority ko b eid ki koi excitement nahi h!?

annieech0019993’s Profile PhotoQURAT UL AIN
Make some goals for ramazan and try achieving them. Only then you would be able to cheer on your success or betterment on EiD.
Eid isn’t about buying new clothes or getting Eidi. It is for me, about getting happy with one’s cleansing of one’s thoughts, lest rectifying acts.
Allah doesn’t want us to give up food and drink. There’s no point of doing it. If one is not consciously look into one’s ego.

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