#goals

Both scenarios can occur depending upon what your goals are. Personally I do not consider askfm a dating site and I would never use it as such; however, I have had private conversations with askfm users on askfm and other applications like whatsapp, instagram, Tumblr, discord and VK. The issue I have with private conversations is they can get to invasive and intimate unless you establish boundaries. One of the boundaries I have set is to never have a romantic relationship online or particpate in sexting, video chats or sharing photographs (selfies, etc).

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You have to decide how you want to utilize askfm and what your objectives and end goal is. I have know several married couples who met on askfm and I also know people who have cheated on their husbands and have used askfm to act out their sexual fantasies. To each his or her own.

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What I personally enjoy using askfm for is to post poems, music, and quotes while also answering well formed questions. I am always on the search for excellent writers who are willing to communicate with me and exchange ideas. Using askfm to meet women for a romantic fling is of no interest to me. So each askfm user has their unique reasons and motives for using this application. Only you can decide how you want to utilize askfm.

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Hopefully this helps. /Alex

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Why would you put someone on a pedestal that high? You aren't feeling good without closure but you're definitely gonna feel worse after that. He left you because he fell out of love with you. And that's not a bad thing. You fall out of love because your ideas, interests, goals no longer match. You fall out of love because you are not emotionally compatible with someone. You fall out of love because the other person isn't feeding your toxicity or you aren't feeding theirs.
Nobody is wrong or worthless here.
What you need to do now is avoid falling into these temporary relationships and focus on your own mental, emotional and spiritual growth. Nobody else is gonna tell you why they no longer found you worthy of their love. Chances are, he himself isn't mature and aware enough to give you a proper answer so he's just gonna make up stuff.

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Based upon my own experience I would say:
- physical attraction
- personality
- sense of humor
- common interests
- a sense of connectedness, belonging and safety
- a belief that you have the capacity to provide for her and any future family
- women like men who are intelligent, creative, problem solvers and ambitious
- a man who has reasonable goals
- excellent communication skill
- empathetic, sensitive, caring and respectful
- honest, ethical and loyal
- a man who sincerely loves her and demonstrates his love every day with thoughtful words and good deeds
- a man who loves children, the elderly, the disabled, the homeless and treats all people with kindness
- a man who is well groomed
- a man with common sense who makes wise decisions and good investments
- a man who is capable and can repair things and build things like a deck, patio, electrical wiring plumbing, etc
- a man who is well read and well bred.
- in short, a man who says what he means and means what he says.

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An interesting question that deserves and interesting response. Have you ever noticed that the most successful people are positive and use their positive attitude and energy to make positive contrbutions to our world i.e. positive individuals invent, create, compose, develop, implement, execute and educate. And have you also noticed that negative people contaminate, ruin and destroy everything and everyone they come in contact with?
Why?
Why do negative people prefer negative thoughts over positive thoughts? One reason might be that positive thoughts require hard work, perseverance, concentration, self-discipline, creativity, goals and objectives, problem solving skills, the ability to reason, logic, excellent communication skills, the ability to negotiate and compromise, loyalty, honor, dedication and an unwavering belief and faith in yourself. In other words, people who are negative are negative because it requires minimal effort and they are allowed to complain and destroy without ever having to reason or put forth the blood, sweat and tears required to be successful and improve the world that they inhabit.

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This question can be interpreted several different ways and therefore, context is important. I will answer this question based upon my own personal experience. I was on a date with a young woman and during our dinner she established her personal boundaries with me by stating: "I am not interested in a long term relationship because I need to finish my college education and I must focus on myself."

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I appreciated her honestly, directness and ability to set expectations while communicating her thoughts without ambiguity. So in this situation, I thanked her for her honesty and we enjoyed our time together. It was also the last time I ever saw her. I realized that her goals and my goals were not aligned and so out of respect, I moved on with my life, as did she.

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Below is a poem, written by a friend of mine that describes this experience perfectly.

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"Candle In The Wind" - by Nico

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Our love was like a candle in the wind,
dancing to and fro.
Flickering with a meteoric uncertainty,
as it flashed briefly across the night sky.
Burning ever so brightly.
Gradually… disappearing into a distant,
but unforgettable memory.

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Islam is about reality. When it comes to real life, man’s first need from a woman is about emotional and sexual needs, same as need for food, clothes, shelter and other necessities of life.Since marriage is the only institute in Islam to combine man and woman and since also marriage forming a family is the basis of a society while a society is a basis for a whole nation, marriage has got to made to last as long as possible, not like a one-night stand or a brief relation with too many switching options that ends up with mankind to a degraded animal loose life, there is no place for something like a boy’s girlfriend or a girl’s boyfriend. Islam views any relationship outside marriage as a waste of time and emotions, Islam sees it as a threat to virginity/loyalty and a gate leading to reckless acts that ends up with generations loosely attached to their roots . I mentioned it at the very beginning here, Islam is about reality, what lies in our minds and we see as human nature, not what scholars, liberal activists and other categories of protestors say in public, deep down inside their own minds and hearts they view the opposite sex as the ultimate wish and target , at least wars had proved it to be so, that sexual desires top all ambitions and goals and are the dominant feelings.

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2-Women are allowed to wear perfume if its at home or with a gathering of other women. Wearing outside can cause undue attention from men and it is from the wisdom of Allah to ensure the safety of women.

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3-Islam forbids everything that is harmful
Though tobacco or smoking in general is not explicitly mentioned in the Quran or hadith, contemporary scholars have condemned it as potentially harmful, and have at times prohibited smoking outright (declared it haram) as a result of the severe health damage that it causes.

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"Amygdala" by Alex

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Overactive amygdala or having one amygdala that is smaller than the other has been associated with fear and anxiety disorders. Fear is an emotional and physical response to danger. Anxiety is a psychological response to something that is perceived as dangerous. Anxiety can lead to panic attacks that occur when the amygdala sends signals that a person is in danger, even when there is no real threat. Anxiety disorders associated with the amygdala include: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCO), Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and Social Anxiety Disorder and could also contribute to the following antisocial personalities: Personality sociopath, psychopathic personality and character neurosis.

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As a species, we are xenophobic, jealous of our peers, competitive for status, and inclined toward violence. When it serves our purpose, we have the urge to lie, cheat, and steal. The fact is that children require experiences of socialization, love and nurturing, constant punishment for misbehavior, role models, positive reinforcement of prosocial behaviors, encouragement of empathic identifications with other living beings, and knowledge and respect for the rules of civilized society, if they want to be good citizens when they become adults.

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Let me finish by saying this: I believe that criminals have a conscience to a lesser or greater extent depending on their genetic predisposition and personal experiences. Many criminals refuse to assimilate and follow the rules that govern our society and develop impulsive behaviors and antisocial behaviors such as lying, cheating, stealing and murder to achieve their goals and obtain the result they desire without any consideration or regard to who get hurt in the process.

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