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"Adoption" by Alex

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Oh there are so many. I would say it was the adoption of our daughter. We started the adoption process before our daughter was born in 2006. We were notified of her birth and given 24 hours to make our decision. For the next 7 months she was cared for by a beautiful foster family who we still maintain contact with.

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So in July 2007 we flew to Guatemala City to meet our daughter, the care givers and the lawyer and social worker. I remember it as though it were yesterday. My wife and I were staying at the hotel and received a call informing us that our daughter was waiting for us in the lobby. For me, it was love at first sight. We met everyone involved in this process, signed the necessary paperwork and brought our daughter back to our room.

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Since my wife was not feeling well, I had the honor and privilege of caring for our baby until the plane departed the following day. As one can imagine, she was upset, crying and I would say traumatized from the uncertainty and drastic change to her environment. Every time I put the baby into the crib to sleep she started crying and would only stop when I held her. So for the next 24 hours I held her in my arms and when we awoke in the morning, I noticed a change in her demeanor. She stopped crying and started to smile and laugh because a bond, based upon mutual love and trust, had begun to form.

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I could talk for hours and days about this experience because for me it completely changed my life for the better, for she is the apple of my eye. We do everything together which includes: performing music together, playing golf, tennis, helping her with homework (science, math, reading). She also likes to challenge me and debate me. She fondly calls me an old man and a geek because to her friends I am old enough to be her grandpa and because of my passion for music and poetry. There are times, for example, when her friends visit and hear me wailing away on my guitar or bass in my studio and I suppose they are not exposed to that type of behavior. Too funny, right? The best part is that whenever she is with her friends and they are giggling and behaving like teens, when I walk into the room, it becomes dead silent as though a loved one died and we are showing respect at their funeral service.

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So... I have to say the adoption of our daughter and our time together are my favorite memories and the memories that give my life it's greatest meaning and purpose.

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Extremely unlikely.
To receive thoughtful questions, you need to develop healthy relationships/friendships on askfm. This effort can take months, years or never. To be honest, most of the questions I receive are written by myself to myself. This might sound odd to some folks but, 99% of the shoutouts or anonymous questions are poorly written and are not worth answering. So... if I want to improve my writing skills, challenge myself and acquire knowledge, I am forced to answer my own questions.

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Here is an example: I like playing Chess, but most people I know refuse to play chess. What should I do? Stop playing Chess or play against myself? So I play by myself. The same thing applies to most of my hobbies i.e. golf, music, etc. One final thought, I have played guitar since I was 10 years old and since that time most of my practicing and playing is accomplished alone. If I waited for other muscians to practice with me and learn songs, I would still be performing like a 10 year old without any skill or proficiency. In short, I learned many years ago that if you want to achieve success, do not depend upon other people, and this appiles to guitar, math, reading, golf or creating thoughtful questions and posting those questions onto askfm so I can improve my writing skills while also informing and entertaining my followers. /Alex

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> "There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure."

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Colin Powell

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1. Clothes doesn’t define a person, I’m sure I have way worse than yours
2. At least you have food to eat and face is irrelevant because they fear looks beget proudness
3. Idk where you’re measuring your IQ but those tests are general maths questions and not everyone is good at math but they are good in other subjects
4. 70% is low lol? You still have a good chance to land a better university. My cousin got admission abroad and that too below 70% score in O Levels
5. I think you should go till bachelors because degree will benefit you a lot
6. They don’t hate you, probably they’re frustrated with themselves due to financial pressure
7. If you do the maths, you’re still within those 30% of the Pak’s population who have the privilege to do O Levels. I think its even less than 30%
8. Don’t settle for marriage before completing your education. A woman’s education is necessary for the grooming of the future generation. Maybe this experience will guide you as to what you should not be doing with your kids when they face tough times.

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Grades, clothes, looks nothing defines your worth. Your worth lies in your actions and behaviour. You’re not alive to impress the people on earth, impress Allah only. This world will always find a reason to hate you no matter how much success you attain.

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I have always expressed my concern about the flop, corrupt, expensive, inadequate and out dated system of education and teaching in Pakistan. Students are deprived of the real education that they need in their practical lives. Just covering some syllabus and solving some complex Math problems can not be called true education. It must be about our living, like how to live this life and maintain constant control over ourselves. But no, unfortunately that they are not interested and skilled to teach. I have always loved the teaching profession, it should be a rewarding job for those people who really put in their energies to help others through it by being a master of a skill. It has the capacity to shape one's life completely.

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I can teach about a lot of things myself, but what I want to teach about is life. I can not pursue this career but I know that I can deliver a lot if only I get a chance to perform. It's like the core subject of all our educational career and afterwards the work life. It will be all about practical knowledge and no unproven theoretical concepts. Right now, I don't have a big platform, else probably I would have initiated the program via virtual learning tools. I have ideas about how to run this setup in a way which will not make it difficult for others to be a part of this. Course content can be prepared, timetable can be scheduled and the classes can commence in a week or two. It was in my mind, so I shared. This subject should be taught at all levels; it'll broaden the mind of confused masses.

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#PracticalTraining #PracticalEducation #PracticalLearning #Pakistan #TeachingJobs #AdvanceEducation #AdvanceLearning

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One of my strengths is being able to break down difficult concepts into their separate components and explain how each component functions and how they relate to the overall performance of the system and what the symptoms are when a specific component or sub-system fails.

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I use this skill whenever I teach or assist someone who requires help. For example, sometimes when I teach guitar I will have a student who does not want to read music. So before I accept any student I meet with the student and parents and ask a few basic questions:
1. What style of music do you enjoy?
2. Who are your favorite musicians?
3. Why do you want to play guitar?
4. What are your expectations (both from student and parent)

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Then I explain what my expectations are, which are non-negotiable. I explain why reading music is essential and why learning scales and arpeggios, harmony, ear training and practicing are necessary. I also explain my what my mission statement is and provide a course outline.
I explain that each week I expect the student to be on time and prepared. As the student is learning various keys, chords and notes I provide written exercises and appropriate songs to play to reinforce concepts. And I demonstrate each concept before the student performs the specific exercise.

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I prefer 1:1 lessons because I believe they are more effective than group lessons. Students learn best when that have dedicated instruction. When the student is ready, I will take them on gigs to get real life experience performing. And another skill I have that I like to use with subjects like math is to solve a problem 2 or 3 different ways. One of the major problems I see with "professional teachers" is that often they do not know the subject matter and, in the case of math, they can only regurgitate how to solve a problem one way and they never answer the question: "how would you use this formula in real life." That is total b/s. This is one of the reasons I love music. I do not just show the student one chord. Hell no! I show them every chord in every inversion and I expect them to master every chord in every key. Now you might say, but what about the music student who wants to play Peter, Paul and Mary? Well... I won't accept that person as my student. Sorry folks.

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I made a promise to myself to never teach music just for the money which is why I refuse to teach 30 minute lessons. If and when I teach again, they will be 60 minute lessons. Heck by the time the student takes out the guitar and sits down and tunes the guitar, we lost 10 minutes. Plus I need 30 minutes to review and listen to his previous weeks lesson and then 30 minutes to assign a new lesson.

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So yes I put in the work which is why I have had students go on to perform live and play in various ensembles. And unlike my peers who might teach a handful of chords in the first position and can only play songs in 2 -3 keys, my students learn hundreds of chords and understand harmony.

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You know what, let me tell you something about “smart”.
When I was in O Level everyone thought I was very smart. My teacher thought I am going to get a distinction in mathematics. Even my Islamiat teacher thought I’ll get a distinction in Islamiat.

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There was a question in our math book that my teacher couldn’t solve on board. He tried two times, got the wrong answer. Everyone in the class was equally lost either. He asked us to just leave it or see if we can find a problem in the question later.

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Next day I came to the class with the solved question and the correct answer. Everyone lost their shit. My teacher made me put that whole solution on a chart paper and displayed it at a soft board.
Everyone thought I was really smart. Some sort of a math whizz. Even I thought that.
It had happened before in 7th class, when my teacher asked us a trick question in class and I was the only one with the correct answer, and he said, wow, she’s smart. Very good at math.
It happened in A Level too once, when our teacher gave us a practice worksheet with a “golden section” that had the most unsolvable questions and I solved them, regardless.
It happened in my first semester when i got like 25 marks out of 30 in my python exam which was the batch highest, the second closest score being 17.

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Now you must also be thinking, what is the point here, is she trying to show off how smart she has been?
See, you also missed the point.
Smartness is a scam, an illusion.
I know because I have been there. In all of these things, it wasn’t my “natural genius” that helped me out. Something my classmates thought I had and must have felt bad for not having themselves.
It doesn’t exist.
I was able to solve that question in O Level because I was the only one who went home and couldn’t stop thinking about it and spent hours on it. No one else gave it a second thought. Not even my teacher. I’m sure if they did, they could have solved it. Even better than me, who knows.

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In 7th grade, I was the only one who actually took a second to mentally solve what I saw on board and compare before I spoke out my answer, unlike everyone else who was just making wild guesses.

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In A Level, everyone skipped over the golden section but I kept trying to solve it and didn’t move on till I could. They solved the entire worksheet of other questions when I was just done with the golden section.

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In my Python course, I had a personal liking of the teacher an I listened to the lectures very carefully. Unlike some of my classmates, I already had a laptop before starting university and had no problem installing and practicing on new applications like IDEs.

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And this is what it’s actually about. Who puts in the time. Who puts in the effort. Who has the ability to sit down and focus. Who has the privilege thats needed to perform all of these tasks.
It’s never about “smartness.”
Even for people who seemingly do not study at all and still get ahead, (cont.)

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I am assuming you are referring to a 12 year old female using an internet connection to talk to men?

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1. Explain the dangers to your daughter and make sure she understands that some men are perverts who are only interested in sex.
2. Set the rules of internet activity and make certain that she understands the consequences for her behavior (no smartphone, no computer, etc)
3. DO NOT use the computer and internet as a babysitter!!
4. Get your daughter involved in activities so she does not sit in her bedroom all day talking to perverts.
5. Talk to your internet provider about methods and applications used to monitor your daughters online activity and set time limits where she can only connect when you are home say for 2 hours and then her internet connection is disabled.
6. Put her computer or smartphone in the kitchen or some place that is visible where you can look over her shoulder and monitor.

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Our 15 year old daughter uses the internet to text girlfriends and draw art and upload to instagram. I have access to all of her applications including instagram.

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MOST IMPORTANT: Keep your daughter involved in healthy activities and keep her away from peers who are self destructive, abused, drug addicts or sexually active. Remember you are what you eat and your behaviors are influenced (good or bad) by those people you associate with.

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Our daughter is an honor roll student who is kept busy with:
- math lessons
- reading lessons with emphasis on comprehension
- private art lessons
- violin lessons
- piano lessons
- golf lessons and golf tournaments
- plays violin in youth symphony
- plays violin in church youth group with parents
- Plays golf with dad
- We bike ride together
- We take our daughter and her friends to movies, baseball games, museums.

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Summary:
My wife and I are active in our daughters life to the point where we meet with the vice principle to discuss and arrange her course curriculum each year. We interact with our daughter every day and we drive her to and from school. Because we love our daughter we refuse to allow the school, society, or her peers to manipulate and control her behavior and so we work with her to set realistic goals and objectives. In other words, we succeed or fail as a family and are not absentee parents.

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Being a parent in today's corrupt society is probably the most difficult thing you will ever have to doin your entire life. There are so many distractions and evil people lurking and waiting to corrupt and destroy your children. And so you must be active, dedicated, vigilant and aware 24x7x365. For it takes a life time to train and prepare your children for success and only one minute for them to become a victim.

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Yes being a parent is difficult and exhausting, but in the end, it will be well worth the effort. /Alex

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Here are some tips for newbies and especially for the first few dates (assuming you also don't know the person all so well and there's no prior intimacy of any form):

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- You need to make sure that the mood is right, both of you want it and it's not pressured
- For the sake of all that is good in mankind, DON'T start the kiss with an attack of teeth and tongue.
- Gradually introduce tongue
- Hold the person's body closer to yours
- When biting the neck, ears, or lips, DON'T bite too hard and avoid anything that might cause bleeding
- Don't suck the person's neck while biting/kissing it to avoid hickies
- If you do end up with hickies use a heparin ointment on the affected area and massage it
- If you are nerdy and can understand life only through math and logic, look up videos on youtube that teach different kissing techniques
- Practise kissing using a tomato cut in half, or on different creases/dents on your body (i.e. the area between your hand and wrist)
- Conversation and talking are very important during kissing. Don't be scared of letting your partner know it's okay, calming them down, or asking them to try a different rhythm/method.
- It will get better with time and especially if you stay with one partner

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No.
Both political parties are corrupt and both political parties are primarily concerned with power and the accumulation of personal wealth. However, my father taught me that when offered two choices that are both evil, you must choose the lessor of the evils, which in this current time and space are the republicans. Democrats and RINO's are causing so much damage to the United States and the world in their globalist pursuit of a New World Order and One World Government that our only hope for survival as a human species is to remove democrats and RINO's from power ASAP.

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Sometimes I feel like all of humanity is a passenger on the Titanic and there are no good choices except to place the women and children on life boats knowing that all of the passengers left aboard the Titanic will perish. Since there are no good choices, we must choose the best possible choice in order to save humanity from the evil that the globalists are proposing via their "sustainability" goals to mandate and force upon the worlds population. And this goal explicitly states (agenda2030) that the worlds population must not exceed 500 million by the year 2030.

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QUESTION: What happens to the remaining 7 billion humans? Only Bill Gates, George Soros, Klaus Schwab, the United Nations and the World Health Organization can answer that question, but basic math clearly demonstrates that the outcome will be catastrophic for at least 80% of the worlds population. 😭😭

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I feel no desire to prove anyone anything. My hobbies just leave me unsatisfied and i feel bored pretty fast. Why do I even exist? Some time ago i was stilk curious of many things but it's long gone. Im just doing stuff that needs to be done to develop myself and when im tired i play video games / do sports / read books. But everything is boring. Getting mastery at subjects at uni feels pointless. Even if i graduate and get decent knowledge and get a good job, whats the point? It wont change how i feel about the world around me. It will mostly change onyl how other perceive me, which i dont really care about. I feel like i need help and i dont know where to ask for it. My family doesnt even try understanding me. There is no point to life unless you invent one. For me it's curiosity, I'm here and I want to find out what is this and what's the point. Most people pursue different common strategies to give meaning to their life, usually by been part of something larger than them: family, community, work, religion, etc. Those are all empty constructions, but they align well with our biological programing. We are a social animal and we crave been part of a pack that we can contribute to and that respects us and appreciate us. 3 years later a lot has changed for me - i've finished my masters degree in math and started working at big4 company as an assistant. I've also moved away from my family and I'm living with my fiancee. I'm not entirely sure why I was feeling so low 3 years ago - now I'm a happy person and I'd love to do so many things in life. Life is much more stressful now, work in big4 is tiring but nothing I can't manage. I've also broken my knee, my cruciate ligament is broken so I can't walk much, so I'd say that my overall situation is kind of worse but I'm much more optimistic than I was then. I think that getting masters degree in math was really tiring to my brain. I think it's important for us to just make our own goals. Nothing matters in life unless we make it so. I want to get my knee fixed and get back to doing sports regularly, mostly cycling on lifting weights at gym. I would also like to finish my postgraduate ACCA studies so I can better understand things at my work. Beside that I like playing board games with my fiancee and friends in free time or just play some Factorio on my own when I can't do anything with others. Im also looking forward for going on holiday after rehabilitation of my knee.

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Sklar froze up when the other summoned Gaster Blasters but he wasn't exactly worried. He heard the other out until the end and just grinned. "Damn. Think that power got to your head. You can't even do a lil' math." The skeleton lowered the gun slightly but stepped even closer to Sans, "I didn't think you had the balls to use em'. Specially since they're a long distance sort of weapon and I'm only a few inches from your gorgeous mug. You blast me and you'll get caught in it too."

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The skeleton looked around, "And this is your house. Damaging it and getting the monsters attention doesn't sound too good. It'll suck, since I informed them all about how terrible you are. This could be the final piece to my case. This won't be the first time I'll be blasted to hell and survived, so I'm not too worried about myself."

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Sklar moved his free hand into his pocket. "But fine. I'll think about your little offer. I don't exactly look like I want to start a fight I can't win, right?" He lied through his teeth. To make it seem even more like the truth, he put back his gun. "Maybe we can work out some deal that benefits us both... Since you're so very willing to share. But I gotta few things you need to abide by... First, —" The skeleton moved quickly, shoving a pill down sans 'throat'. He was quick to step all the way back as the thing combusted in his mouth. It reacted badly with concentrated magic and that's exactly what Sklar needed to be able to use it. In seconds, San's head was in flames.

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