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Honestly I've felt like a coward most of my life and don't know how to get over it. I hate myself for it. I'm just constantly giving attention to things I shouldn't be giving attention to. Sometimes I just want to go numb forever. What do I do?

"Gratitude, Humility and Kindness" by Alex
Before I attempt to answer your question let's review a few definitions:
1. Coward - a person who lacks the courage to do or endure dangerous or unpleasant things.
2. Courage - mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.
I believe that some humans lack courage from time to time and can behave as cowards because they fear the unknown and are afraid of what they do not understand. It is this fear that often results in confusion and self-induced paralysis that causes them to not take calculated risks that might result in physical, emotional or financial harm. And it takes great courage and moral strength to overcome this fear and to confront the unknown.
>Honestly I've felt like a coward most of my life and don't know how to get over it.
Question: Why do you believe you are a coward? Could it be that you are simply a realist and someone who is prudent and does not like taking unnecessary risks?
> I hate myself for it.
Question: Why would you hate yourself for being cautious, circumspect, thoughtful, observant and deliberate?
> I'm just constantly giving attention to things I shouldn't be giving attention to.
Response: In my experience, most folks give attention to those people and things that interest them. I see nothing wrong in being attentive to that which requires attention and is something that you can manage and control. Common sense is required here because it is not helpful or healthy to waste time attempting to change things that we have little or no control over.
> Sometimes I just want to go numb forever.
Response: This sounds like a death wish to me. Remember, life is short and you will have plenty of time to rest upon death.
> What do I do?
Answer: Live your life doing those activities that you enjoy. Spend time with those people you love. And most importantly, be grateful for your life and live a life of humility and kindness.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Melody Beattie

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Honestly Ive felt like a coward most of my life and dont know how to get over it

Romeo and Juliet... A three day fling between a 13 year old and a 17 year old who kill themselves and four others. And is deemed one of the greatest romances in history... why?

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Maybe because there are several themes in Shakespeare's tragedy and they have resonated with many people over the years: rivalry, friendship, intrigue, religion, prejudice, irony and the complexities of people or events and life in general. The nuanced peculiarities of an imperfect world are on full display and while the ending is tragic, it is more than some syrupy slop with a predictable conclusion - they lived happily (n)ever after. Subtract the emotional dependence(?) angle which is coupled with raging teenage hormones and it would still be a scintillating series. I wouldn't miss a single episode. ❤️
Romeo and Juliet (1884) / Sir Francis Bernard Dicksee
Romeo and Juliet A three day fling between a 13 year old and a 17 year old who

What do you think women fail to realize that is actually hard for men?

We don't have emotional support. We can't call up a guy friend, cry to him, ask him to tell us everything is going to be ok, and give us a hug. People assume we're predators when we're around kids, especially if they're not the same race. This one might cause some trouble and surprise, but we are constantly unwanted, rejected, and outright feared, just for existing. Society forces us to not speak up for women constantly attacking us. As a man, you have absolutely no implicit value. Men are not seen as having any sense of valuable identity, beauty, or character. The absence of romance. Yes, ladies, we do like romance and WANT YOU THINK OF US ROMANTICALLY! Buy us that damn box of chocolate, too. Y'all already know we've been conditioned since birth to not express our emotions, and if we do, it's deeply frowned upon and sometimes gets physically harmed. We're not allowed to be sensitive and show weakness even when it's called for. How incredibly stressed out we are and that we're not allowed to speak about the physical and mental torture we are often put through at work. It may come as a shock, but we get sexually harassed too. I can not tell you how many times I have been sexually harassed and assaulted by women and men and not be able to speak out about it. There is so much that women don't know about men, and I barely touched the surface.

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So, du bist total am Ende und kannst dir und der Welt nix mehr vormachen. Mit welchem Satz beendest du deine Show?

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Du hast keine Ahnung was ich mir und der Welt alles vormachen kann, wenn ich will. 😉 Meiner Fantasie sind keine Grenzen gesetzt, auch dann nicht, wenn ich total am Ende wäre. 😅 Ich muss auch meine „Show“ nicht beenden, weil ich nie eine Show abziehe. Das finde ich generell total lächerlich. 😂 Wenn ich tatsächlich total am Ende wäre, und das müsste dann wirklich am Ende Ende Ende sein, dann wäre ich – so wie ich mich kenne – total emotional um nicht zu sagen aggres*siv und würde einen Satz wählen, den ich bisher zwar gelegentlich im Kopf hatte aber nie anderen gegenüber ausgesprochen habe. Ich würde sagen. „Macht doch euren Schei** alleine, ich habe keinen Bock mehr und ihr könnt mich alle mal kreuzweise.“ 😅 Das ist jedenfalls ein Satz der allen die mich gut kennen zeigen würde, dass bei mir sozusagen der Geduldsfaden gerissen ist und dass sie mich lieber in Ruhe lassen sollten. Ansonsten wissen sie, dass ich mich sehr gut im Griff habe und niemals so reagieren würde, wenn alles einigermaßen im „Normalbereich“ wäre.

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Haven't heard not one person say 2023 gonna be my year..are we all just giving up?

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2022 been bad like flood, poor economy, bla bla bla
But I express my gratitude to Allah for everything however for two things specially. Got stability in two things. Financial and emotional.

Does it require more than love in order for a relationship to survive?

"More Than Love" by Alex
Successful relationships require:
- Trust
- Effective Communication
- Mutual Respect
- Empathy and Patience
- Loyalty and Sincerity
- Shared Interests
- Common Sense and Rational Thought
- Reciprocity
- The Ability and Willingness to Listen
- The Ability to Admit your Mistakes and Not Repeat them
- Affection (physical, emotional and intellectual)
- Shared Spirituality
- Fiscal, Social and Intellectual Responsibility
- Accountability for what you Think, Say and Do
- Don't play word games. Say what you mean and mean what you say
- Do not Lie, Cheat, Steal or Flirt
- Put loved ones needs before your own
- Generosity, Kindness, Compassion, Humility, Humor is also important to maintaining a healthy relationship
The most difficult thing I have ever done in my life is maintain healthy and successful relationships with those people whom I love. It is not easy or simple, and it takes more than love. It also takes kindness, humility, patience, courage, persistence and the ability to place the needs of those people you love before your own needs wants and desires. That is why I believe in a power greater than myself, and it is also why I follow the teachings of Jesus Christ.

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Does it require more than love in order for a relationship to survive

For years, I thought that I understood women. Like if you'd be nice to them then they'd understand. But lately, I've realized that idk anything. So, Im keeping my distance. Im avoiding them and actually loving this space. It's too toxic these days to argue over small stuff, & thus I can't afford too

women walking around in the streets and on social media should never have been your focus to begin with. all you got to do is take care of the women that allah has made a part of your life and if you think you are unable to take care of them, you need to work on yourself as it is your prime responsibility to look after their physical, financial and emotional needs.
qawwam, should act like a qawwam and not like a coward who is trying to hide himself in a shell bcs of the burden of responsibilities.
give your women the private space they need, gain their trust and make them feel like they can trust you with all their heart.
protip: intellect over emotions.

e așa de normal sa n ai întodeauna zile ok, dar te simiti așa copleșit de situație atunci când starea ta nu este una extraordinara încât te intrebi “de ce eu?” și alte gânduri care te pun și mai tare in lumina proasta din punct de vedere emotional. Dc suferim mai tare atunci când vedem cv negativ?

după cum ai spus și tu, starea asta e normală. sunt oameni care au astfel de stări pe parcursul a mai multor ani și nu fac decât să le reprime, din cauza societății care ii face să creadă că emoția este egală cu slăbiciunea, vorbind de cea negativă aici.
de asta multe astfel de persoane ajung în punctul de a se întreba la un moment dat "de ce eu?"
asta e o întrebare care reprezintă saturația.
"m-am săturat să tot simt asta, de ce trebuie eu să simt asta?"
ei de fapt nu sunt supărați pe ei înșiși pentru ceea ce simt, ei sunt supărați pe lumea care îi judeca pentru asta sau care nu înțelege.

what if people were honest about what they were looking for?

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Two scenarios:
➀ – People who are sensitive with honesty get emotional and have loud arguments about their expectations/opinions.
➁– People just start accepting other people's opinions and don't give a sh*t, if they are not what someone else wanted they just look further, for what they actually want. I guess it's more peaceful that way.

I want to know the truth that why my ex left me. I want closure. I am not feeling good without closure. Should i ask him?

Why would you put someone on a pedestal that high? You aren't feeling good without closure but you're definitely gonna feel worse after that. He left you because he fell out of love with you. And that's not a bad thing. You fall out of love because your ideas, interests, goals no longer match. You fall out of love because you are not emotionally compatible with someone. You fall out of love because the other person isn't feeding your toxicity or you aren't feeding theirs.
Nobody is wrong or worthless here.
What you need to do now is avoid falling into these temporary relationships and focus on your own mental, emotional and spiritual growth. Nobody else is gonna tell you why they no longer found you worthy of their love. Chances are, he himself isn't mature and aware enough to give you a proper answer so he's just gonna make up stuff.

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Because strangers do not really know who we are, right? People who know us and have spent time with us understand our personality (whether good or bad) and as a result, they are able to predict our reactions to reality as well as establish effective boundaries to protect themselves from our emotional inconsistencies, outbursts and erratic and offensive behaviors. The stranger has none of this insight and can easily be fooled by first impressions.

Have you ever felt stressed? 😔

Yes I have felt stress. Stress is part of life. When we lose control of a situation or do not understand an event or how to react or when we are indecisive and overwhelmed our stress increases and can cause emotional and physical problems. This is why prayer, meditation, recreation and hobbies are necessary to manage our stress and reduce the chance of disease and sickness whether physical or psychological.

How do you deal with depression?

I do not think depression can be eliminated, but I do believe that depression can be managed. Sometimes I feel that depression is like a shadow that follows me everywhere I go; nevertheless, I also realize that my shadow is simply a virtual reflection of my emotional suffering that is chimerical. Depression can never control us unless we give it our explicit permission to do so.

◦♚. : ❛ ᴡᴇʟᴄʜᴇʀ ʜᴀʀᴛᴇɴ ʀᴇᴀʟɪᴛᴀ̈ᴛ/ᴛᴀᴛsᴀᴄʜᴇ sᴏʟʟᴛᴇ sɪᴄʜ ᴅᴇɪɴᴇʀ ᴍᴇɪɴᴜɴɢ ɴᴀᴄʜ ᴊᴇᴅᴇʀ ʙᴇᴡᴜssᴛ sᴇɪɴ﹖❜

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„Egal wie eng die Bindung zu einem Menschen sein mag…sie verschwinden. Doch das Leben geht weiter. Immer und immer wieder wird man sich der Tatsache stellen müssen,das alles was du je emotional aufgebaut hast, wieder zusammenbrechen wird.“
ᴡᴇʟᴄʜᴇʀ ʜᴀʀᴛᴇɴ ʀᴇᴀʟɪᴛᴀᴛᴛᴀᴛsᴀᴄʜᴇ sᴏʟʟᴛᴇ sɪᴄʜ ᴅᴇɪɴᴇʀ ᴍᴇɪɴᴜɴɢ ɴᴀᴄʜ ᴊᴇᴅᴇʀ ʙᴇᴡᴜssᴛ

What do you assume about girls that are good at chess

> They are intelligent.
> They like a challenge.
> They can think in multiple dimensions.
> They can solve problems and react w/o getting emotional.
> They understand offensive and defensive strategy.
> They comprehend what survival of the fittest means.
> They appreciate that Chess not only requires skill but patience, cunning cognitive clarity.
> They know that in Chess, the end justifies the means.
> They never lose sight of their goal and the objectives required to achieve their goal; in this case, to checkmate the opponents king.
What do you assume about girls that are good at chess

Do you think human ethics are learned or natural? Do we have an innate sense of right and wrong or do we learn everything from parents, friends, society etc. etc.?

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I don't think there's a black and white answer, I think there's an inherent ethic that we are born with, such as not causing pain to the innocent, or helping an innocent that's hurt. Tho I think the environment can change the human ethics that we are born with, I imagine, if there's a socity where stealing and cashing harm to the weak is the way of life, an individual's ethics will also mold to that of the socity. There's also something called universal ethics, where we all agree if something is bad or good, such as stealing, and what not. Tho there are many ethics that one would feel should be universal but are not, so. There's some natural ethics but they mostly societies frame, shape and change them. Tho not everyone's ethics change and their natural ethics remain intact and so they disapprove of the societal ethics. Or maybe they aren't influenced by the socity they live in, but by a foreign socity. An example would be eating meat, my community feels it is wrong to cause pain to a living creature with emotinal bandwith for food, when there are other food options with little emotional bandwidth, I think it should be a universal ethic, but surprisingly not. I also believe it's a natural ethic, but the socity people live in has changed that.

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How do you know if you are in an unhealthy or Toxic relationship?

Relationships are complex. However — as different people have different personalities and relationships, they can have complicated dynamics, and one of the toxicity is that abuse, it can seem normal to some people, while you may realize that your partner is a narcissist and is abusive, you may keep tolerating their abuse and choose to stay in the relationship and it sucks. Although such toxic behaviours may be a deal-breaker for you, you may willingly become a victim of psychological, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. You may choose to neglect certain abusive and toxic behaviours, like unhealthy possessiveness, manipulation of control, lack of trust between partners, disrespect, dishonesty. However, your partner’s toxic behaviours may not be limited to a negative relationship dynamic. Narcissists employ a range of abusive strategies and tactics to control their victims, some of which may be hard to identify. There are certain abusive behaviors that no one should accept from their partners, no matter what. The more you accept these toxic behaviors, the more they will eat away your self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-respect. You will constantly feel devalued, drained, and suffocated in the relationship unless you choose to speak for yourself so please remind yourself that you are not at fault and you don’t deserve to be treated in such a way. Take a stand for yourself and refuse to tolerate abuse. 🌻

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Ist jeder seines Glückes Schmied? Warum (nicht)?

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Geh weg damit. 😂 Ich mag diesen Spruch absolut nicht, weil derjenige, der ihn sich ausgedacht hat, sicher keine Ahnung vom realen Leben hat. 😅 Jeder hat nur bedingt/begrenzt Einfluss auf sein Leben und kann es nicht immer so gestalten und leben wie er das tatsächlich gerne möchte. Und wir können schon gar nicht vorhersehen was kommt. Es gibt viel zu viele Einflüsse von außen, die man nicht kontrollieren oder selbst bestimmen kann und denen man sich oft mehr oder weniger fügen muss. Mal ganz abgesehen davon, dass jeder Einzelne ein sehr individuelles Empfinden oder eine Vorstellung von „Glück“ hat. Mag sein, dass ein geringer Teil diesen Spruch für sich verinnerlichen kann, aber großteils funktioniert das leider nicht. Meiner Ansicht nach kann man Glück nicht schmieden aber man kann es finden, als solches wahrnehmen und auch genießen, wenn man das möchte bzw. emotional überhaupt dazu in der Lage ist. Denn auch das ist nicht jedem gegeben.

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Was hat dich zuletzt emotional berührt und warum?

y_soflyyy’s Profile Photoy_soflyyy
Ich habe in meinem Umfeld ein 14 Monate altes Baby. Als ich gestern mit ihrer Omi telefoniert habe war sie gerade bei ihr. Und als sie meine Stimme gehört hat, hat sie zuerst gelacht und dann hat sie ein Bussi auf das Handy ihrer Omi gegeben und dachte wohl, dass es so bei mir ankommt. 😊 Das hat mich emotional sehr berührt und ging mir mitten ins Herz, weil ich das so entzückend fand von der kleinen Maus. 🥰❤️

अरसों बाद तुम्हें देखा अरसों बाद खुदको जिंदा पाया। Agr apko yeh cringe laga to sorry to you or agr emotional hue to bhai barbaad ho tum, sorry for you. 😬

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Arso baad tumhe dekha, arso baad khud ko zinda paya, par dekhkar bhi nahi dekha maine tera...wo sundar chehra...wo sundar chehra jise dekhne k liye puri kaynat pagal hai, aur iss waqt teri yaad me mera hathiyar bahar hai.

You got all these people constantly crying and complaining about how the world sucks. Crying on their couch while eating a box of cookies or ice cream. Seriously stfu there are people who have been raped and children are starving. Don't you agree?

Let's not invalidate others emotions just because "someone has it worse" someone has it worse than everyone out there, people are allowed to be emotional.

Ottochen! Wie sieht dein Weihnachtstag aus? Gibts einen Baum oder schmückst du einen in deinem Garten? Kommen manche deiner Kinder/Enkeln zu besuch? Musst du sie verköstigen oder wirst du verköstigt?

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Aber Herzilein,
Du sollst doch nicht immer "Ottochen" zu mir sagen.
Das untergräbt ja meine ganze Autorität als Zauberer
und Chef-Schamane.....Nun sei's drum. Ich will für dieses Mal noch von disziplinarischen Maßnahmen absehen.
Also zum Thema:
Seit ich Witwer bin, feiere ich Heilig Abend immer drüben im Nachbardorf bei meinem Töchterlein. Die hat da einen
uralten Dreiseiten Hof und es ist dort immer äußerst gemütlich...( Schmücken und Gestalten ist ja ihre Welt )
Alle Kinder und Enkel die in der Nähe wohnen, finden sich mit ein und wir feiern und lachen gemeinsam.
( auch wenns manchmal was emotional wird,...das gehört halt dazu.)
Und als Dank wiederum, lade ich dann die ganze Bande
am 1. Feiertag zum 'Gänsebraten bei Opa' ein.
So ist's nun mittlerweilen schon Tradition..schön.
Und NATÜRLICH, steht dann auch bei mir in der Stube
ein Weihnachtsbaum...( Weiß nur nicht ob ich mir
noch einen kaufe ?...ODERRRR... ich ernte Einen aus
meinen Waldstreifen vorm Haus. Da sind etliche Nordmanntannen dabei, aber die sind fast schon
etwas zu alt. ...Raus könnte schon eine.
Vielleicht DIE hier ? ( unten und oben was weg ? )
benadelt is'e ja schön......na mal' seh'n.

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Ottochen Wie sieht dein Weihnachtstag aus Gibts einen Baum oder schmückst du

Do you think everyone should try therapy from time to time?

I think a lot of people could benefit from it, yes. Needing or wanting Therapy isn't a punishment or an insult, despite how people seem to view it and use it. Life is hard and things can be difficult to process in a healthy way, I'd wager almost nobody gets though life without some form of emotional distress that causes them hardship.

What are the causes of people getting upset over small things, and what are some possible solutions to this problem?

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Some people are emotional these type of people are made fun of like getting call snowflakes no one is the same some don't get jokes or banter so to them it's took personal but to handle the Internet putting emotions aside you do need thick skin as Internet isn't all nice it's bring out trolls and bullying and bring out if have opinion they mock your intelligence really need to be so strong for toxic of the Internet these days

Tell me how your month has been so far?

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It’s been taxing, aha! A lot of mental and emotional upheaval regarding my working life, and dealing with a lot of heavy things in my personal life too.
The highlight was working the midwinter fair by myself, as that was my first ever show working solo, and it was insanely busy! The atmosphere was so upbeat and buoyant though, so I really enjoyed it!
Other than that, the only other highlight has been sourcing Christmas presents for my family, really :)

Was versteht ihr unter Fremdgehen ?? Schreiben ?? Treffen ?? Telen. ??

Die Intention:
"Ich mache nun etwas mit wem anders, wovon mein Partner oder die Person die ich vorgebe zu mögen, nichts erfahren darf."
Das ist bereits Untreue.
Wenn du sowas tust, dann hast du einen untreuen Charakter. Ganz egal ob du offiziell mit dieser Person zusammen bist, nur Datest, schreibst oder sonstiges.
Du gibst vor, dich dieser Person emotional verschrieben zu haben...also lass die Finger von anderen. Wenn du das nicht tust, dann bist du defakto ein untreuer Mensch und wenn es für dich an einem simplen Wort wie "Beziehung" oder "offiziell" hängt, dann bist du obendrein ein schwacher Mensch, da du Ausreden und Vorwände suchst, das zu legitimieren, was du da tust.

Is there a song that makes you emotional every time you hear it?

The Chain by Fleetwood Mac... It's more the instrumental part, which is also used for F1!
My grandad was a huge F1 fan! And asked that the segment of that song be played at his funeral at the end of the service. So whenever I hear it, I get emotional because I still miss him and my nan so damn much!
https://youtu.be/iLC-tHvkNvIkittiemeowsie’s Video 170901223253 iLC-tHvkNvIkittiemeowsie’s Video 170901223253 iLC-tHvkNvI
Is there a song that makes you emotional every time you hear it

Was hat dich zuletzt emotional berührt und warum?

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Dieses Jahr hauptsächlich nur negatives. Ich hab kein gutes Jahr hinter mir. Eine Pechsträhne folgte auf die nächste. Hatte irgendwann den Glauben an das Gute aufgeben. Dann ging es doch wieder Berg auf du freust dich wieder auf die Arbeit, dass du wieder einen normalen Alltag hast. Was passiert? Der Chef setzt nochmal einen oben drauf und droht dir mit der Kündigung, wenn ich jetzt noch einmal krank bin. Ich stehe ja jetzt auch aktuell bei ihm auf der "roten Liste". Also stehe unter Beobachtung und noch einmal krank, dann werde ich gekündigt. Ich hatte letzte Woche Urlaub und mein Chef rief an, um zu fragen wo ich denn sei. Zudem werde ich noch weiterhin bestraft, dass ich die Coronaprämie und das Weihnachtsgeld nicht bekomme. Ich hatte mal in Facebook einfach ein Aufruf in der Zahnfee Gruppe gemacht, ob ich mal mit dem Chef darüber reden sollte, mit welch einer Begründung er sich so entschieden hat. Mir geht es nicht ums Geld, soll er daran verrecken, aber ich bin ein Mensch, ich will alles immer klären und es aus der Welt schaffen. Was kamen da für Kommentare. Ich wurde nur beleidigt, dass ich ja fürs Nichtstun noch Geld verlange, andere nannten mich Kollegenschwein, andere sagten, die hätten mich direkt gekündigt.. Es ging nur um das Geld. Aber dabei ging es mir nicht einmal darum. Egal, dennoch waren diese Kommentare alle sehr sehr verletzend. Und nach dem beschissenen Jahr hat es mich sehr sehr getroffen. Ich kann nichts dafür, dass ich krank war und dennoch sagen Menschen, dass sowas nicht okay ist. Im Endeffekt hab ich für mich beschlossen, einfach das Thema jetzt ruhen zu lassen und hoffen, dass ich einfach nicht nochmal krank werde. Aber ich stehe jeden Tag jetzt so unter Druck. Gerade dann passieren die Fehler. Ich kann nicht schlafen, nicht abschalten, weil ich jetzt alles richtig machen will. Ich könnte echt laut scheiße schreien. Ich kann das nicht mehr. Warum werde ich so bestraft.?

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Was hat dich zuletzt emotional berührt und warum?

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Spontan fällt mir die Serie „trying“ ein, bei der mir ständig die Tränen in den Augen stehen.
Ich bin aber auch eine echte Heulsuse, also hat das nicht viel zu bedeuten, aber die Serie ist einfach unheimlich schön und sehr sehenswert. Die Hauptcharaktere sind sehr liebenswert und die Geschichte berührt mich. 💛
Es geht grob gesagt um ein Paar, das Kinder bekommen möchte und dafür so einige Hürden nehmen muss.
Der partnerschaftliche und mehr noch familiäre Zusammenhalt aber vor allem auch das Leid, von Kindern, die im Sozialsystem landen (damit meine ich jetzt Jugendamt, Pflege- oder Adoptivfamilie) das im Besonderen hat mir wirklich zu schaffen gemacht.
Da gibt es in der Serie ein Geschwisterpaar, das „untergebracht“ werden muss und *hach Gott* das nimmt mich mit, so furchtbar, dass es diese Kinder eben WIRKLICH gibt.
Dazu dann die Rolle der (tollen!) Sozialarbeiterin. 🥲😭😭
Da ist so viel Leid in der Welt in so jungen Jahren und diese Art von Verlust hat vermutlich so großen Einfluss auf diese Menschen. Worauf manche Kinder verzichten müssen… und sie sind halt die Letzten, die etwas dafür können. Und wie man verzweifelt versucht, das abzufedern…
Das macht mich traurig.
Und der unerfüllte Kinderwunsch anderer Paare, der nimmt mich auch mit.
Und die Hoffnung auf Besserung, Unterstützung, Familie, das berührt mich emotional.
Bei den Nachrichten von einer Schießerei in einer queer-Bar hatte ich auch sofort Gänsehaut… naja… ❤️‍🙏🌏

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Things we need to normalize?

maryamnatt’s Profile PhotoMaryam Iftikhar Natt
- Wedding Gifts to the whole family of groom and/or dowry, are the same things.
Nothing wrong in them? 🤷🏻‍♀️
Me and my mother ALWAYS argue on this topic that whenever I will say yes, she will load me with everything cause it’s a societal custom and like everybody asks, “what did the girl bring along?” So it is to shut everyone up and for the woman’s comfort? Lol what bullshit honestly?
Sure go ahead and furnish a damn house or load a whole family with gifts if THEY DO NOT AFFORD IT but if they do? It’s stupid AF and honestly disrespectful at the groom’s end but people don’t even feel it? 🤡
I don’t even like someone paying for my food or Careem and people are OKAY taking tons, from someone that too in a wedding? How does it not embarrass men? Do people realise they come off as greedy? When they don’t reject such customs? And how tf is it a woman’s parent’s’ responsibility to shut people up when they wed her off with a guy? Bro once you’re married all your responsibilities shift onto your husband. He’s responsible for your protection (from mental, emotional as well as physical abuse of any sort) from everyone including his own family.
- Then the people who gossip and EAT at the house of the deceased?? Wtf?? Do people have any ounce of morality left in them?? How can you go eat and talk shit at a house that just lost one of their family members?
- Being extremist and disrespectful in the name of religion. If you’re arrogant and look down on people considering yourself to be better than them then congratulations! You’ll end up being one of those unfortunate souls that will arrive on the day of judgement with heaps and mountains of good deeds but it will disappear infront of your eyes because of how you treated mankind while worshiping God.
- We are now normalising, women working and earning and I think it’s excellent! Having some sort of income that’s totally yours is very important even for youngsters but at the same time, pushing women to help bear the financial load while men don’t ever feel like sharing the domestic burden is just unfair.
- Lastly it’s important to understand that EVERYBODY screws up. Everyone has a few (if not more) faults and sins to carry the load of. It’s stated everywhere that all children of Adam sin! Yes they can be of different nature but none of us are angels. What the fk is up with inquiring a person? Huh? You’re not God so don’t try to act like one. You knew someone had a bad habit? Stop reminding them. Stop rubbing it in their face. You perhaps know something someone did at some point in their life? Let it go!! What’s gone is gone. Why would you want to make yours or someone else’s life hell over what’s gone by? Shit happens let it go! Stop shaming people, stop inquiring them. You don’t know maybe they’re already forgiven. Who are you to hold someone accountable or to question them? Keep peace in between eachother. Stop digging into people’s lives. Don’t try to act God, we already have one.

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who else is grieving the death of aaron carter?

LucianaSposaro’s Profile PhotoLuciana Sposaro
It was very sad but I'm not as affected as I was with Chester Bennington, I literally cried my eyes out and my mother told me to stop being so emotional or whatever and that he was a coward for killing himself which isn't true at all. But it's still upsetting with Aaron Carter I hope his family are okay

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