#together

"I'm in the process of creating myself , stitching together my best qualities and engraving my favourite memories while learning how to deal with past heartaches and pain.
Life is about creating yourself, it is about rising from the ashes. One day you are a whole and the other you are missing a core memory. That's why life doesn't really end until it does. I'm all about inner peace and self love, I want to be in a place in my life where I'm totally comfortable with who I am and excited to keep growing to whatever version that I will be.
I'm all about quietness and privacy, sharing my good news with those who love and appreciate me, sipping my favorite drink with those who understand me and understand that life is about ups and downs and that everyone deserves an alone time to recollect and reconnect to themselves "❤️

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I was born in California. My parents moved us across country here to upstate New York by truck when I was around six months old due to safety and my grandmother living here. I was a shy child and played quietly on my own or with younger kids that my mother babysat. I had a bit of trouble with school due to having a Mexican last name in an area full of white kids. I was also a bit chubby. But I always had a few good friends and usually a little boyfriend in elementary school. No major bullying but the race and weight things have affected me even into adulthood. Middle school was tough, as my anxiety and depression grew and kids got meaner. I switched to private school after middle school was over due to my anxiety. Kids were kind and interesting there but my anxiety still won and I switched to homeschooling after that. I hung around with a girl that my mom used to babysit at that point. My looks blossomed and we were boy crazy. Always had a lot of innocent fun going places and meeting boys. I met the boy from my first serious relationship at 17 and ended up living at his big family house with tons of his friends and family members. I still was very shy so it was a strange experience but I loved most of those people. We were together for a year and a half. Once that relationship ended I met a guy from Kentucky online about six months later. After I took a couple visits out there he moved to New York to be with me. That relationship ended after two years. I then ended up with a guy I knew from downtown. That relationship had a couple brief breakups for two years. My first apartment was with him. After our breakup I got my own apartment alone and we continued to see each other unofficially until he met the woman he soon married. At that point things really began to change for me. I had some profound spiritual experiences, learned to love my solitude, was working and enjoying my little line life with my amazing cat. I wanted to stay single but I met a guy online and we met and dated for about a month. It was terrible. He left me when I told him my period was late. 🤣 It eventually came thankfully. Then I went back to wanting to stay single. But I again met a man online. We didn’t meet in person right away. It was a bit intense with him telling me we were twin flames and such. But we eventually met and “married,” got another apartment, collected a bunch of stray cats and eventually moved to this house out here in the woods for the safety of the cats since we weren’t supposed to have that many at the last place. Tumultuous relationship to say the least. Many awful years. Lots of off and on stuff after about a decade. And that’s about it for now. Did anyone else write more than this? 😁

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For the most part, I don’t feel any type of way about my age, or people asking about it honestly! Only thing I get a bit insecure about, regarding my age, is my job experience… Due to illness reasons, I don’t have nearly as much as I’d like. I know it’s not a bad thing necessarily, as I can’t exactly control that, but it still makes me uncomfortable. 😅

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One thing I think is interesting though, is to see people’s reactions when I tell them how old I am. Which, the reaction is typically shocked. 😂

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People always think I’m a few years older or younger than I am, and from my observation, it usually has to do with how I put myself together. Like, when I get dressed up and put on makeup, people think I’m older, and then when I just wear comfy clothes, no makeup, etc, people usually think I’m considerably younger. 🤔

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I believe there are pros and cons to both options. Having one best friend can provide deep emotional connection and support, as well as the reassurance of knowing that someone always has your back in any situation. On the other hand, having a group of friends provides more diversity in terms of personalities and interests, which can lead to a broader perspective on life issues - for me, it is not necessarily about the number of people we surround ourselves with but rather how meaningful those connections are. Whether it be one close friend or many more acquaintances; what matters most is the quality time spent together building trustful relationships based on mutual respect and understanding- this is what truly makes us feel connected at our core level and brings joy into our lives. So ultimately I would say that neither option is better than the other – it all depends on personal preference and individual needs for social interaction. 🌻

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Here in the Dutch language there is nothing like that. You both marry each other. There is no Dutch sentence that says that a man ‘takes a woman as his wife’. We say ‘I married her/him’, ‘we got married’, ‘I asked her/him for marriage’, etc.

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When the marriage is happening the wedding officiant asks this to both partners:

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“Verklaart u ……… aan te nemen tot u wettige echtgenoot en belooft u getrouw alle plichten te zullen vervullen, die door de Wet aan de huwelijkse staat worden verbonden?”

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Which translates to:
“Do you declare that you accept ……… as your lawful spouse and do you promise to faithfully fulfill all duties attached to the marital status by law?”

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So it might be a cultural thing. It’s also a bit of an old saying to ‘take a wife’, because in the past marriage was more a practical thing to bring families together, rather than to marry for love. I don’t think there are many people that look at marriage that way at the moment, at least not in Western Europe.

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So to answer your other question: no it’s not determined. It’s just an old s**ist saying.

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