neko girl

Well, sweetie, for the first few months, probably around four, you won't get over him, at all. It's an attachment kinda thing. that's why people who've been together a while stay together, even if they aren't that happy. and that's why people get back together who shouldn't, necessarily. That attachment kinda feeling lingers a while, because it's what you're use to. You're use to him being there and everything. Honestly, it's best just to cut him off completely all at once, cold turkey. it'll suck, and you'll probably slip up a few times, but i promise that's just what's best. it'll help you get over things easier. and start doing more. hang out with friends more frequently, don't be afraid to flirt around a bit, exercise, do more things, whatever. Just don't worry about him constantly, and i know it's easier said than done. But honestly, it just takes patience & willpower. But you'll get over him, in time. Maybe not 100%, for a long time, but you'll be able to handle it. Just do more, and don't expect to be over him quickly. He doesn't sound worth your time anyway, sweetie.

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When I was in 8th grade, i felt about the same that you do now.
We all grow through that phase of trying to find out who we are, trying to find out who we can trust, trying to find out what's real and what's not. Don't ever feel alone, because believe me, I personally, even, know several people who've gone through what you're going through now. Your best friend is kinda being rude, but when she sees those, they probably just really upset her, and she wants to stop seeing them, yanno? So she reacts harshly, when she probably doesn't mean to come off that way. Posting statuses don't really help anything either, honestly. Facebook won't help you, more often than not. Confide in a few people you trust. Tell them what you're feeling, instead of the internet. I'm just afraid you may get judged for posting those kinda things on there. It happened to me. I had depression from age 11-just a few months ago, when my ex step dad & mother first started having problems, so I can relate. Things only got worse from there, but this isn't about me. So I'll just leave it at that. I started cutting when I was 12 years old, and my most vital piece of advice I can give is stop now, while it's easier. The longer you go, the harder it is to quit, hence my five year addiction. I know it seems like the only answer sometimes, but it's not. It's really not. Excercise, dance, sing, write down your feelings in a journal, read, vent to someone, hell vent to me. I have a kik: madelinemacabre. Or just post it here. More often than not, if you can distract yourself & get over that initial feeling of sadness/anger from whatever may have caused it, you won't feel the urge to cut as strongly. Try using a rubberband instead. Or write on yourself. There are always alternatives. I promise. And it's so good that you try to help people. And even when you feel like no one cares, I do! I promise. Stay strong, keep trying. And look at the bright side. Acknowledge all the things in life you're thankful for & that make you happy. And it's true, that stuff does get to you and can harm your relationships, and health, and mindset, and possibly your life. Just try to stay strong. Please try to use some of my advice. You'll have your sunrise sooner or later. I promise. xoxo

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