#nerves

It most likely indicates that you’re missing something from your life as that happens to me every so often as well (since I don’t have a social life and am not as great as some others are academically) but mine is due to living with the belief that almost everyone I see has a better life than me. I oddly get irritated when I find out that others are getting engaged, hanging out with their friends irl, or when I see someone doing better than me at something I’ve always wanted to be good at. I think it’s jealousy as well as resentment that’s built up and wants to be released and when it’s not released, everyone and everything just keeps getting on your nerves. You should remind yourself that as long as you try to make your life better and make an effort to actually be great at something (unlike me who hardly ever makes an effort for anything these days) and are surrounded by good people, that’s all that really matters at the end of the day and maybe that might help calm your nerves.

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PL: Kiedyś moja mama przeczytała mi cytat z demotywatorów "Zamiast mówić, co myślisz, zacznij myśleć, co mówisz".
Jakoś tak zapadło mi to w pamięć i do tej pory staram się kierować w życiu tym cytatem.
Wiadomo, nie zawsze mi to wychodzi, czasem emocje biorą górę, aczkolwiek staram się podchodzić do życia na spokojnie.
Zwłaszcza, że w tym roku naprawdę chcę unikać dram i niepotrzebnych kłótni, moje nerwy są już wystarczająco zszargane, nie potrzebuję dodatkowej toksyczności i odcinam się od wszystkiego, co mi nie służy.

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ENG: My mum once read me a quote from Demotywatory: "Instead of saying what you think, start thinking what you say."
It somehow stuck in my head and I still try to follow this quote in my life.
Of course, I don't always succeed, sometimes my emotions get the better of me, but I try to approach life calmly.
Especially since this year I really want to avoid drama and unnecessary arguments, my nerves are already destroyed enough, I don't need additional toxicity and I'm cutting myself off from everything that is bad for me.

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Dear
I know you're not the type
To verbalize your thoughts
But know that I see you
The wonder within you

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Dear
We come from different tides
Like sunrise and moonlight
So how'd we arrive at
The mountain we're climbing
To the peak

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Only the two of us can understand
The sureness of our love
I promise you that I will hold your hand
No matter what may come
My dear

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Dear
We've been through hell and back
But if anyone might ask
I'd choose to go through
The fire again with you
Certainly

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There will be times when we don't see beyond
Our differences and the things we don't agree on
Get on each other's nerves with careless words
We throw in the height of strong emotions
But know that I will stay
I'm with you all the way

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Only the two of us can understand
The sureness of our love
I promise you that I will hold your hand
No matter what may come
My dear

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Won't you spend a little while with me?
I can wait for eternity
Just for a second of your time
My dear

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Only the two of us can understand
The sureness of our love
I promise you that I will hold your hand
No matter what may come
Within the beautiful and captivating
Strangeness of our love
I found a sense of peace and clarity
That I had once dreamed of
My dear
My dear
My dear

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Honestly my intern advisors are kind of getting on my nerves lately. One of them calls me every half an hour for stupid and redundant questions like "How do I insert a footnote into Word"? It is so beyond me how this guy got his PhD. How did he manage to write his dissertation by himself? It's so annoying to explain simple things you learn in school and also in university to people twice my age who should definitely know better. Not to mention that I am the one who has to constantly improve their mistakes. That should not be the biggest part of my internship but unfortunately it is and I am kind of angry about that because I had to travel so far to get their service laptop and it was no cheap ride, if I am allowed to mention that. I am very frustrated and happy when this whole ordeal is over.

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I really can't do more than 3 months of backpacking. Stuff that's okay at first really gets on my nerves after awhile. Getting next to no sleep, dealing with annoying drunk people in hostels, getting scammed, constantly watching my back, etc. I love it in short bursts but I'm always happy to be back "home" wherever that is. I'm currently living outside of my home country and much prefer spending a year or two in a different country and working, living, and meeting friends here. That way I can have my privacy and sleep and learn what it truly feels like to live in a country rather than just being a tourist passing through. I'm hoping to spend a year or more somewhere in Europe and Australia before settling down somewhere.
After my second long term trip (with no original return date), I'm returning home after the 5 month mark. Things didn't really pan out as I'd hoped, but I've realized that, partly due to personality, partly due to age (29), that I now want other things. Namely to start building things (skills, hobbies, money, relationships, a community), all of which although achievable, are very hard while you're travelling around with no permanency.
I don't know about that. After I had been here a year, and had been studying Chinese for most of that time, I began to feel more and more welcome. A larger and larger percentage of my close friends came from local Taiwanese rather than expat English teachers.
As someone that lived in Taiwan/Taipei for about 1.5 years (on and off) I'll tell you that you will NEVER fully assimilate into that culture. Other than the ex-pat community, you'll always be looked at as an outsider. I really can't explain it - but that place is seriously pretty xenophobic. Super super super nice, but unless you're from there...you'll always be viewed as an outsider.
I set out on a year long trip that I recently (after 4 months) decided to cut in half. Around the 2 month mark, I never wanted to stop travelling. Slowly my feelings changed and around 3-4 months I started feeling restless and it took more and more to impress me in the places I visitted. Generic backpacker small talk also started getting old. I'm feeling excited for my remaining month on this trip, but I think I've found my future backpacking limit at 2-3 months. I would love to live abroad and travel very slowly in thr long term (2-3 months per city), but for now I'm happy to return home.

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Bought my first home in 2008, lived in it for 7 years. Bought my second home in 2015 and have been living in it for the past almost-4 years. There was 4 years of apartment living before that and 4 years of university dorm living before that.

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Going on 15 years in December. It was supposed to be our "starter" home but life got in the way and we've decided to stay a little longer than expected. We do plan on moving in the next 2-4 years to a bigger home and closer to family.
Coming up on 5 years since we bought our house. The apartment I was in before that was for almost 13 years, 10 of them with my wife. I've only lived these 2 places since I moved back to Chicago in late 2001.
It’s difficult to live with parents as an adult. I often found myself apologizing to my child, because they no longer were a child, and they didn’t need their mommy. But let me tell you, that string, that pull to parent/protect your children is strong! She was able to laugh it off, most of the time, but I know we got on each other’s nerves a bit. We’re both happier, and we like each other more.
That said, as others have mentioned, living with your folks might not be good for you, date or no date. It depends a lot on the person and family of course, but it definitely feels to me like a crutch on your brain, like there's a lot of life stuff you just don't realize you don't know because you don't get to practice it proper until you're on your own. I moved out at 26 and was super happy to do it, even if I love my parents. It's a great age to live alone too.
You could be like me and end up signing a year lease apartment but staying at your parents still because you enjoy being there more and hate being alone. I’m also the same age and thought to myself that moving I’ll have issues with dating at my parents and thought my mental health would do better on my own. So just make sure you’re actually ready to be on your own because obviously I was not so now I’m wasting thousands of dollars on an apartment I don’t stay at.
The times I can remember, I've lived in 9 houses/flats, but moved several other times (I spent a lot of my early 20s moving between different flats and my mum's house, depending on circumstances). My husband and I moved into our first place together just after we got married last year, and I think we'll be here for a while. 5 years in the same place is more settled than I've been in a long time.
I'm up to twelve, the third with my wife of thirty years. My dad was in the Met Office (MoD Air) so we moved a lot when I was a kid. There was a few years after moving out of the family home where I was in a bedsit, house share another bedsit. Met the wife and we have only lived in three homes in the last thirty years. I'll probably be leaving this one feet first in a pine box. God I hate moving!

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