#selfworth

We actually need more people on social media who give exposure of thr real challenges in life. We don't need to put an end to social media but we need to put an end to trends and practices that are making it hard to live for others.

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An example of this I have seen in the lives of some of my colleagues.

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They live in an over expensive residential areas so so they have to dress up and carry themselves just the way their neighbours do. No matter what they have to buy branded attires and go to famous places that they can boost about in their circle.

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And all of this is mentally and physically exhausting. And they've admitted this but they can't break the trends.

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So we don't need to exclude social media but we need to include the right source of social media that we need exposure of. We need imperfect influencers and unsuccessful entrepreneurs who share how they failed and failed till they had some sweetness of success .

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If you failed something you worked hard for that is ok. It's all a learning experience. Take it as a lesson to do something different or try harder. People fail all the time, but they don't talk about their failures only their successes. Failure is a stepping stone to success and it is a process. If you don’t achieve your goals, Its okay. You tried your best. You tried even when your heart and body was heavy. And if you didn’t, see it as a lesson learnt. Just try again. Don’t let it bring you down.
Your failure is nothing but a chance to learn and do things better. Do not assess your self-worth based on the number of failures you have had. And even still things don't go your way, keep fighting. keep doing. Its okay to be sad for a while and feel demotivated but it's so important to get up again and analyse what went wrong, set up a new plan, and continue working towards your goals. Sometimes ofter one failure, or when you can't able to achieve your goals it can feel really difficult to pick yourself back up and keeping going. Take some time and feel your disappointment or your frustration as you need to, if you need to. Then get on it again.

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One thing — Don’t let it stop you.
For 9/10 goals, a second attempt can be made. One failure doesn’t equate to a permanent one, and you will almost always have the opportunity to try again. keep pushing forward and do what makes you happy. 🌻

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It’s waiting for something that might never happen. It’s looking at someone who doesn’t see you. It’s thinking about someone day and night while you probably never cross their mind. It’s looking at your phone hoping they’d text you or call you as they call someone else. It’s reaching out to them with so much fervor as they respond with indifference. You’re battling your emotions. You’re battling your feelings. You’re battling reality. You’re battling everything people are telling you and believing your fantasies. You’re battling your own intuition. Your gut. Your logic. Your heart. It’s a battle you can’t win. A war you can’t stop. It’s losing over and over again. It’s surrendering to something that will eventually destroy you. It’s one person giving and the other one is taking. It’s one person loving and the other is not even moved. It’s one person always hoping for something more while the other is avoiding the subject altogether. It’s one person willing to do anything to make it work and the other is not even thinking about it. It’s one person always crying and the other one is always laughing. It’s questioning your self-worth every night. It’s constantly wondering why you’re not enough, why you never get picked, why you’re never the chosen one. It’s amplifying every minor flaw. It’s looking at yourself and not liking anything about you. It’s lying in bed overthinking everything you’ve said and done because it must have been something you said, it must have been you. It’s feeling like you’ll never be loved because no one was able to love you back. No one you wanted truly wanted you. It’s liking the idea of someone. But real love is never one-sided. Real love is reciprocated. Real love is patient. Real love is understanding. Real love is two people embarking on a wonderful journey together with all its ups and downs. It’s two people willingly choosing each other. It’s two people trying to accept each other and love the worst parts of one another. It’s two people promising to be there for each other in sickness and in health.

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It’s loyalty. It’s reassurance. It’s commitment. It’s intimacy. It’s depth. It’s strength. It’s a reason to live longer. It’s a reason to have faith in life. Real love heals. One-sided love breaks. Real love is the only love you need to look for. One-sided love is anything but love. It’s a poetic term for heartbreak. A poetic term for suffering.

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Accept the fact that it's going to be difficult. There's more to it than what people realize because every person is different and so are the illnesses. Acceptance is so important and not to judge yourself. Recognize that during your healing process, it's a good thing to notice the problems you are having - be honest and open with yourself.
Value yourself:
Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and avoid self-criticism. Make time for your hobbies and favorite projects, or broaden your horizons. Do a daily crossword puzzle, plant a garden, take dance lessons, learn to play an instrument or become fluent in another language.
2. Take care of your body:
Taking care of yourself physically can improve your mental health. Be sure to:
Eat nutritious meals
Avoid smoking and vaping-- see Cessation HelpDrink plenty of water
Exercise, which helps decrease depression and anxiety and improve moods
Get enough sleep. Researchers believe that lack of sleep contributes to a high rate of depression in college students.
3. Surround yourself with good people:
People with strong family or social connections are generally healthier than those who lack a support network. Make plans with supportive family members and friends, or seek out activities where you can meet new people, such as a club, class or support group.
4. Give yourself:
Volunteer your time and energy to help someone else. You'll feel good about doing something tangible to help someone in need — and it's a great way to meet new people. See Fun and Cheap Things to do in Ann Arbor for ideas.
5. Learn how to deal with stress:
Like it or not, stress is a part of life. Practice good coping skills: Try One-Minute Stress Strategies, do Tai Chi, exercise, take a nature walk, play with your pet or try journal writing as a stress reducer. Also, remember to smile and see the humor in life. Research shows that laughter can boost your immune system, ease pain, relax your body and reduce stress.
6. Quiet your mind:
Try meditating, Mindfulness and/or prayer. Relaxation exercises and prayer can improve your state of mind and outlook on life. In fact, research shows that meditation may help you feel calm and enhance the effects of therapy. To get connected, see spiritual resources on Personal Well-being for Students
7. Set realistic goals:
Decide what you want to achieve academically, professionally and personally, and write down the steps you need to realize your goals. Aim high, but be realistic and don't over-schedule. You'll enjoy a tremendous sense of accomplishment and self-worth as you progress toward your goal. Wellness Coaching, free to U-M students, can help you develop goals and stay on track.
8. Break up the monotony:
Although our routines make us more efficient and enhance our feelings of security and safety, a little change of pace can perk up a tedious schedule. Alter your jogging route, plan a road-trip, take a walk in a different park, hang some new pictures or t

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Every movie is unique every story is unique each movie 🍿🎥 gives different kinda inspiration 😻 and specifically can't mention one! But still some of which I remember 😅

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The Shawshank Redemption
The film gives a strong message of friendship and perseverance and lets us have an insight of the lives at Shawshank. It's an inspiring story of hope, faith and bonding.

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The Pursuit of Happyness
The movie while highlighting the father and son bond also has the message of never giving up. Yet, the small bits of happiness they find in their togetherness provides a heartwarming plot for the film.

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Life of Pi
The struggles and adventures of Pi, added to the extraordinary portrayal of nature, make the movie not only inspirational but also a visual treat.

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Su Su Sudhi Vathmeekam
This movie shows the hard works and efforts he did to overcome his disability. It gives us the motivation to accept ourselves and fight against all stereotypes.

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Ayalum Njanum Thammil
The transformation of a slothful doctor to the most renowned surgeon is an inspirational story for many. The film takes you through love, struggle, dedication, and hard work.

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Mili
It is a story of an introvert girl with much insecurity, who later gains confidence and fights against all timidities of her life. It motivates everyone to improve and discover our true selves.

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3 Idiots
I don’t think I need to say anything about this movie because everyone knows how great this movie is. This is one of the greatest motivational movies that represent college life and friendship very well.

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Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara
This is one of the motivational movies that will inspire you to lead a free and stress-free life.

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Taare Zameen Par
This movie is for all those parents out there who wants their children to be something in future.

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English Vinglish
The film was a statement on society encourage prejudices and how self-worth has nothing to do with such contrived expectations.

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I know there's so many more...but still I'm out of letters

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Nope! Sex is fun. Everyone should have it with many people because its like a finger print. No sexual partner is the same. I had a one night stand and it was amazing. We knew we couldn't have a relationship due to school and scheduling but the one time sex was great. It did wonders for my self esteem. Yes. Absolutely! As is this culture of "if it feels good, do it! No one can judge you!!" I think it's damaging us in ways unseen and deluding our views and hindering commitment in drastic ways. I think it, in big ways and small, hurts the collective self-esteem and self-worth of people. The vast majority of people, IMO, are not programmed to separate sex from intimacy; pretending that we are is very detrimental, IMO
Depends on the person. I had my fair share of one night stands in my early 20s, and I don't think I came out of it worse for wear or anything. I was always clear about what I wanted, I was safe, I had fun. I'm sure if I wasn't in the right emotional frame of mind, or something along those lines, it could have been emotionally damaging, though.
I'm more inclined to suspect that the damage is already done by that point. I don't want to imagine what would have to happen to me in my life, what kind of state of mind I'd have to be in, to ever even consider a one-night stand. I find them extremely disrespectful and no way to treat a human being. I don't care what other people do, but I have my own standards. I wouldn't do it.
No, not necessarily. I've never had one but I've had casual partners. What is important in any kind of sexual and/or emotional relationship is to be conscious of your needs and boundaries. Some people will use sex or relationships to numb or compensate for something they're struggling with personally. But a lot of people just like sex and can figure out a way to meet their sexual needs casually without negative repercussions.
I've never really felt worried about my safety. If I felt worried, I wouldn't go through with it, but I've never gotten to a point where that happened. I've never really had my self-esteem or self-worth negatively affected by a successful one night stand, but obviously it feels bad if you try really hard to get laid and then fail, just like it usually feels bad if you try really hard to do anything and then fail.
I'm generally of the feeling that if me and her want to sleep with each other, let's do it. If that leads to us wanting sleep together more in the future or not at all in the future, we'll deal with that later. When I sleep with someone new, I'm generally open to it leading to something serious or with it not. I like being in relationships, and when I'm not in one, I'm always open to the idea of being in a relationship if the right person comes along. But I have no problem with having fun and sex until the right person comes along.

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Personally speaking, my self-worth was born through my parents support. They showed me that I was worthy of love and that I'm good at heart. They directed me to an understanding of good and bad. This ,in turn,allowed my self esteem to be enhanced. They taught me how to form associations between my actions and my self-worth..to love myself in order to deserve love. It is that seed of love, pride and worthiness they planted in me that flourished with me as i grew. Being selfless and kind towards others gives me a sense of well being and satisfaction. Having a positive impact on others gives me a sense of pride..not just in my actions but in myself. Self-worth is a state of being that is derived from self-understanding, self-love and acceptance. I learned to have faith in myself and in my ability to follow through and get things done.
Self-worth is derived from within you and not your surroundings.Having self-worth means feeling worthy of good things, accepting and embracing your flaws and errors. It means knowing you are deserving of happiness, health, wealth, success, love, etc — regardless of the difficulties you face, the disappointments you experience, people's judgments.

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It's almost scary the amount I can relate to what you write. I'm in the exact same position. Never had a relationship, never been in love, and I've never met someone I've felt that kind of connection with. I turn 20 in just over a month (more like less than two months but eh) and I feel pressured just like you. When you tell people you've never been in a relationship, you often get told "But how can someone as pretty as you be single?!" and I think it's really annoying to get that reaction almost every time. It's verging on disrespectful because this person has no clue if that's your own choice or not, not to mention it focuses solely on looks when that's not even half of what makes a relationship.
I've felt everything under the moon about this. Sometimes I feel like I must be disgusting since nobody has looked at me and thought they want to be with me as far as I'm aware. Sometimes I think about the fact that I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for a really long time, which has put everything else on hold since I need to focus on my health. And sometimes I think it's simply because I haven't been able to go out and people new people to the point where that was a possibility. Sometimes I think I might be aromantic or demisexual, because no crush I've ever had has lasted very long and has been mostly shallow, and I seriously have never felt anything remotely close to what people describe as the feeling of "being in love"

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It's so important to remember that we can't rely our selfworth on whether or not we are wanted by other people, and sometimes that is so hard to realise because every now and then we just want to feel needed and get that sort of confirmation from other people. I cannot even begin to describe how bad I am at this, because I struggle a lot with feeling lonely. But when that happens I try to remind myself that we live in a society that forces romantic standards onto everyone. I mean, the ideal date is a romantic dinner with candles and roses, right? How often has that scenario not happened in the majority of rom-coms produced in, say, Hollywood? It's a standard, a stereotype of what every relationship "should" be when the only ones who can predict what should happen is the people involved with each other.
This is getting long and preachy, so I'm gonna try to round this off. All in all, you're still as much of your own individual being with your own worth, no matter your experiences in the romantic area. I strongly believe that we overestimate the experience people around us have based on our own a lot of the time. There are no hard facts (I think) so all we can really do is keep moving on with our lives and see what happens. So, try not to think about it too much, you're still the only one of you and that is worth everything in itself. If that makes sense. Sorry that I've written a novel answering this but ya know, thoughts needing to get out and whatnot. Hugs you, friend ♡

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