Both of us are naturalized citizens. The problem is both families want us to come back home and they each are from different countries. We like being independent. Are we being selfish by not moving closer to our parents?
You are not being selfish at all. You are being grown ups who are allowed and should make grown up decisions that are in your best interest. I can tell you it's difficulty having children and grandchildren living far away, but if it's in their best interest, I respect that. It's not all about your relatives. It's all about the two of you.