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I am committed to being a virgin until I’m married. Lately my bf has been putting some pressure on me. I was up front with him when we started hanging out so its not like I’ve changed the rules. It’s the only thing we disagree about. Is there a way to get past this?

Shame on him!! He needs to show you more respect for your values and your commitment. Just let him know that you were up front with him at the beginning of your relationship and that nothing has changed. Tell him that he is free to move on if he can't respect you, but that you have no intention of giving in to pressure.

I’m AA and my gf is Hispanic. Neither of our families likes the idea so how do we get past this? I was really surprised by my family because I thought they were more open.

There is no easy way to deal with this. Both of your families are racially prejudiced. All the two of you can do is be there for each other. Whatever you do, don't get mad at your respective families. That will only add fuel to the fire. You can both together sit down with each of your families and discuss the matter in a calm way. Maybe once the families get to know both of you together and see how happy you are, they will change their minds ---- maybe.

My bf started taking the “little blue pill”. He says it’s more fun for him. I don’t think he needs it and I’m worried about his health risks since he’s only 23. Why would he do this and what can I do about it?

Unless your bf has a medical condition and the pill was prescribed by a doctor, he is placing himself in danger. A 23 you male should not have erectile problems. He may be insecure and worried about his performance, but that is not a reason to place himself into a bad situation. Misuse of this type of medication can actually cause erectile dysfunction because the body become dependent on them. He needs to get the facts on this type of drug abuse.

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There’s a guy I like and we just finished summer school together. We talked a lot and kind of hung out on campus. I’d like to keep it going during our senior year. How should I approach this without seeming like a stalker?

Just keep hanging out with him and give it some time to see how it works out. Since you hung out for the summer, it may be the beginning of something. Just don't be too pushy, but you do need to subtly let him know you are interested.

My bf’s mother keeps trying to get me to get him to do the things she wants. I like the idea that she feels close but I don’t like the idea she is trying to control him. I don’t like being in the middle. He knows a little bit but not everything. what’s the pc way to handle this?

You need to tell him what's going on so the two of you can strategize on how to handle it. You need to pull yourself out of the middle, because you will become a target. It's great that she feels that close to you, but you still need to keep your boundaries clear, otherwise your bf may begin to see you as controlling as hi mother.

What defines a date? This girl wants to go out for coffee but she is calling it a "date".

It can be anything that a person decides it is. She may see it as something more than you do. It sounds like you don't like to label it in a way that pushes you. Are you taking her out for coffee to get to know her? Then it's a mini date or just to be friendly. She may be too needy for you, so proceed with caution.

My gf has been contacted by her ex. She is open about it and tells me about the texts. There is nothing sexual but I can’t stop being upset. Is there a way to get past this?

This is definitely a YOU issue and not a her issue. Clearly, she's being open and honest with you, but you seem to still be insecure about your relationship. Try being open with her about your feelings, but do not be accusatory or play the victim role. Since the texts are not sexual, it may just be that they are still friends -- possibly. In any event, you may need help getting through this.

My bf had his phone laying around so I happened to pick it up. He’s been sexting with other women. I’m furious but I don’t know if I should confront him because I should have respected his privacy. Now I can’t trust him. What do I do?

There had to be a reason, even if it's subconscious, that you chose to pick up his phone. Yes, there are those who would say you didn't respect his privacy, but that doesn't come close to his not respecting your relationship. So here's what you do now. You sit down with him and let him know he's been sexting. He'll do one of 3 things: admit it; deny it; or try to turn the situation around to blame you. If he admits it, you can have a discussion. If pulls either of the other 2, he's a cheater and can't be trusted. I vote for DUMP the CHUMP.

How can I get a girlfriend I always feel lonely everyday people in there romance everyday

I'm often asked this question repeatedly in a variety of ways. The best answer I can give is to say practice being a good friend first, and then you will find a girlfriend. The best, most long-lasting relationships are those in which the two people are each other's best friends. Too many people ignore true friendship when looking for romance. They don't know how to be a friend or even what friendship really means. Be that good friend, and the rest will take care of itself.

Why are guys pigs if they go to strip clubs but women can go see Magic Mike and everybody thinks its funny?

It just depends who you ask. I know lots of women who think clubs for men are just as fun as movies AND clubs (oh, yes there are).

Lately I’ve had these really strong feelings for this other girl on our club soccer team.. I would like to hang with her but I don’t know if she’s like me. How do I find out?

To my knowledge, there’s not a “test.” Like anyone approaching dating, you might just have to take a risk.

Our son is really good looking and looks a lot older than his 15 years. He keeps getting approached by older females. He is very naïve. How can we protect him without making him feel bad.

Try talking to him in a mature fashion. He just may surprise you in a good way. But he just may have to get hurt before he learns. Only time will tell.

My gf’s younger sister keeps hitting on me and I don’t know what to do. I’m worried about telling my gf because I don’t want to get in between them. Should I tell her anyway?

Absolutely, you need to tell your gf before the whole thing explodes in your face. If you reject little sis on your own, she’s liable to make up a story about you just to get back at you. Danger!!

Me and this guy have known each other since we were 8. Our families vacation in the same place. We became really good friends. I would like to take it to the next level but I don’t want to ruin our friendship or upset our families. How do I approach this?

The best relationships are ones in which the partners are friends. Just keep hanging out together, and you will soon know if he feels the same way. How fun would that be to say that you two have know each other since you were 8?

A friend of my gf’s asked me to set her up with a friend of mine. Personally, I don’t like her but I haven’t told my gf. Is their a nice way to get out of this?

You could be honest, but that might not work. Just explain that you don’t like setting people up in case it doesn’t work out and you’ll get blamed. Sometimes being honest can get you in a lot of trouble.
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A friend of mine asked me to be in her wedding. I don’t have enough money to do this but I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I feel really bad but I don’t know what to do.

You need to be honest with your friend so that she fully understands. It may embarrass you, but it’s better than having her imagine why you said no.

Me and my bf are both over 18. We want to go on a cruise together but my parents are giving me a hard time. They said we are not a married couple and its wrong. What can I say to them so they will change their minds?

Your parents are very conservative, but there’s not much you can or should do about that. You are an adult in the eyes of the law, so you can do what you what. That doesn’t always mean that just because you can, you should. You are going to have to do some soul searching to figure this one out.

I'm doing a long distance relationship but I don't seem to enjoy facetiming, or using Skype/phone calls. I prefer texting her and was wondering could this be a problem?

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Any time there is a problem with communication, there is the potential for a problem in the relationship. This is something that should be discussed between the two of you to get to the underlying reasons for the changes in behavior.

My girlfriend and I are doing long distance and so far it's been one of the best choices in my life. The problem is that when we facetime, she becomes shy, and can't make conversation. Think this would be a problem in the future?

Any time there is a problem with communication, there is the potential for a problem in the relationship. This is something that should be discussed between the two of you to get to the underlying reasons for the changes in behavior.

my best friend and myself are way too addicted to social media. to be blunt we're on the verge of being cyber stalkers. I'm already trying so hard to lay off the websites, but my friend is having a much harder time. He was doing great at 1st but he always falls back. What can I do to help him?

It's an addiction. He probably needs professional help. This is not something to be taken lightly because it can become much worse

My gf’s father is really intimidating.. How do I get past that?

Find out what his interests are and become a student. Once you engage him with his interests, he won’t seem so intimidating.

Is there ever a way to get over somebody cheating on you?

It takes a lot of time to rebuild trust. It takes a lot of hard work and energy. Professional assistance would probably help.

y bf is going away to work for the summer. I’m really bummed. Should I break up now?

I don’t know the status of your relationship. If he’s coming back, and you both are happy with the relationship, why break up? He is going away to work, not to play, so give him some slack.


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